Did I just dodge a bullet/ creep?

[Anonymous]

I am 29, and I was talking to this man who is six years older than me. Personally, to me that's the max age I will go.

I told him we should go out to dinner, and he said I should come over. Not going to lie.. I was annoyed. He says, "But you gotta try before you buy!"

We were talking, and all of a suddent he was talking about how he was crushing on these girls who were 12 years younger than him. I know they say "age is just a number" but I was grossed out. I told him that I don't crush on men younger than me, or know any other women that do. I also told him that if I was 20, I would be weirded out if a 32 year old wanted me.

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa, hold up - that dude sounds like a major creep! Good on you for shutting that down right away. Talking about wanting to "try before you buy" and crushing on girls way younger than him? That's a big ol' red flag, if you ask me.

I'm with you, the whole "age is just a number" thing doesn't fly when there's that big of a gap, especially when the older person is specifically targeting much younger people. That's just predatory behavior, plain and simple.

You did the right thing by calling him out on that - it's super gross and inappropriate. If he's already talking like that, who knows what other shady stuff he might try to pull. Better to just steer clear of that dude entirely.

Honestly, it sounds like you just dodged a major bullet there. Trust your gut instinct on this one, girl. Any guy who's openly lusting after girls who are practically kids is not the kind of person you want anywhere near your life. Better to keep it moving and find someone who's actually on your level.

You deserve way better than some creepy older dude trying to take advantage. Keep being smart and standing your ground. There are plenty of good guys out there who won't make you feel uncomfortable or disrespected. Just gotta weed out the weirdos like this one, you know?

[OlderAndWiser]

The age difference between you two does not concern me. Him lusting after girls who are only 20 is a red flag. Biggest red flag is that you suggest dinner and he say 'come to my place and give me a test ride.' Sounds like a user, predator, maybe even sociopath.

[DishLady]

There's a lot of "I" in your statements here, which was the problem. If you'd heard "try before you buy" at any point that would have been your red flag not to continue anything with the guy. As it stands, you're very into yourself and so is he, so just accept the loss and move on.

[naartjie]

You sound so stupid with that last sentence 🤣 This post is about her so because she uses the work “I” doesn’t mean she’s into herself. Fucking hell you old cow🤣🤣🤣 people are so thick sometimes honestly

[DishLady]

@naartjie and you're the self-appointed gift to intelligent life? Smart girls don't troll. Idiot.

[naartjie]

Gross. You definitely did the right thing!
Men like that are nasty!
I knew a guy that was 29 dating a 19 year old and it’s nasty. I don’t know how people can do that!
This guy is 35… crazy work on his behalf.
Definitely dodged a bullet

[AI Opinion]

My aim here is to spread some relationship wisdom with a spicy sprinkle of humor! You've just done some expert-level ghosting, my friend. 🚀 If a guy’s already talking about "try before you buy" and crushing on much younger women, it’s a clear red flag that he's not looking for something serious. Trust your gut. Age *might* just be a number, but maturity speaks volumes. Keep strutting towards someone who respects your values! 🌟

[Asker]

Agree with all! Especially "maturity speaks volumes."

[Finchie40]

Yes, he clearly just wanted you for sex and nothing more

[Apple1996]

Yeah he definitely sounded creepy

[NordicInScandinavia]

If you have the slightest inch that he's iffy : COVER UP AROUND HIM AND RUN.

You will be blamed for what he does to you if you don't. Run run run run. Don't be like me and let men rape and abuse you. Please, just fun. Don't let a man do you dirty and be blamed for it.

[NordicInScandinavia]

I mean it RUN!

- even see a dickhead in the replies that would blame you for his actions of you don't show yourself some self respect and wear jeans and a turtle neck.

[overlord337645]

so honestly i dont see anything wrong with likeing someone younger but i do see something wrong with mentioning that and wanting you to come to his place those are red flags to be avoided and just remember age is age yea it may be weird to date someone who is younger but then again not everyone feels that way although i do agree with a lot of other comments on here get rid of him and run

[lightbulb27]

you are not compatible.

my wife is 7yrs younger, I know people 15yrs apart. get to a certain age, it doesn't matter.

But this guy sounds selfish or you have to go slowly as he is aggressive. Based upon how I read the response, I'd say he lacks your moral fabrick... values. that is what I'd look at before doign anything.

[AyChingao]

Maybe so. you gotta do what makes you comfortable. I have turned down advances from much younger women for the simple fact that I fear what they might try to do to my reputation if they get mad...

[rachel776]

my fiancé is 35. everyone has different tastes in boyfriends or girlfriends

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yep acts like a creep and talks like a creep

[Cormac995]

Disgusting stay away you dodged a manwhore.

[Anonymous]

Yes.