What is better: To suspect your wife is cheating when she is not cheating or to believe she is not cheating when she is cheating?

[Kelley1]

[Wise4myage]

When she is not cheating.

[eagle1951]

the second

[Kelley1]

I agree, the second makes sense. That way, no one is harmed. What the husband doesn't know will not harm him and, if he doesn't know, sex is not harming her either.

[eagle1951]

Agree

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the old trust tango! My aim on Girls Ask Guys is to help you navigate these relationship twists with a sprinkle of wisdom and wit. Both scenarios can sting like a bee, but believing she’s not cheating when she is might drag on the deception and prevent you from addressing the real issues. Suspicions without cause can be lovebombing's kryptonite, damaging trust for no reason. Keep communication open, because at the end of the day, trust and honesty are your relationship's best friends. Keep it light, keep it honest. 😊

[AviatorTom]

Neither is good. One shows a lack of trust on your part, the other a lack of trust on her part. Your relationship is in trouble either way.

[Kelley1]

What the hubby doesn't know will not harm him so it is like nothing happened.

[Finchie40]

I guess I rather suspect her cheating when she isn’t instead of her actually cheating on me and still having sex with me.

[Raxll11]

In fact, both are bad and the ones who are cheated on will no longer be able to understand that they are being cheated on because there are many videos and sites on social media about how to find out that they are being cheated on and the cheaters can follow them and take precautions to avoid being caught

[Kelly6]

@Kelley1 second one, because in that case husband doesn’t know and is not always mentally stressed and worried and not always in mood

[Kelley1]

What the husband doesn't know will not harm him. Moreover, it is not like it is all the time anyway or else he would start suspecting and likely find out.

[Kelly6]

@Kelley1
Exactly

[Fireguy17]

neither one, there are trust issues either way.
I suspected my ex-wife was cheating, and when I found her with him it was kind of a relief that I was right, and that I knew, and it was over.

[ChicoFromThe305]

If by better you mean generally healthy the the second, because the person trusts the other person, it's wrong of the cheater tho, the first one the girl is right and the guy is wrong so depends

[abc3643]

Maybe it's best not to know...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2bvFr2ANNkM

[Kelley1]

I think so too because it would be hard to keep hidden if it is excessive.

[WindAtMyBack]

If you can't give your wife or husband the benefit of the doubt, then you have nothing,

[Ariesman81]

There's a saying we men have. You can love a woman and you can understand a woman, but you can't do both.

[Nightmoon23]

Ignorance is bliss so if it’s better to believe she’s not when she is but you don’t know that makes it better. But I would rather her tell me that’s way I can find the guy for her.

[Surely]

That would be a flip of a coin. Either way it would probably end in divorce!

[TopShelfMan]

It is better if she is open and honest with her husband about what she wants and needs to be satisfied.

[Flower7]

Suspecting is better than actually being cheated on.

[Valdemort]

The first usually means they're cheating themselves. Neither is good in my opinion 😅

[msc545]

Both are bad and lea to trouble. This is why I like things like keystroke loggers and cell phone surveillance software.

The truth will set you free.

[Jamie05rhs]

This is why people shouldn't get married anymore. It's not worth it.

[Kelley1]

Since women can cheat with guys hotter than the guys they can marry, it is no big deal because although guys fuck down for sex, they don't marry down. Therefore, she is only having a good experience, she is not going to leave her husband. Moreover, if her husband doesn't know, he is not being harmed.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Kelley1 it is definitely a big deal.

[Kelley1]

@Jamie05rhs You mean it is a GOOD DEAL! She is having a good time; the guy that fucks her enjoys it; and her husband doesn't know so he is not harmed. Out of the three, that is two wins and no losses. Sounds like a good deal to me.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Kelley1 I hope you mature and realize the error of your ways.

[Kelley1]

@Jamie05rhs There is the risk of discovery. However, when seeking the best genes for her eggs, the rewards outweigh the risks because there is a chance she may get pregnant with a superior man and reward her husband with a prettier and more talented baby. A child he will brag on. Superior genes are beneficial to her, her husband, and the child.

[Jamie05rhs]

If she wanted better genes, she should have married a different man.

There is absolutely no excuse for cheating. Ever.

[Iron_Man]

if I ever find out, it’s in subordination and of course I want to know and then it’s Adios Amiga goodbye

[Rohaan2020]

I don't think any of these situations is better in any way

[CubaPirate]

None of the above

[MaxW1]

The former? why live in delusion

[LiamS95]

Neither

[UknowJT93]

anything... but no cheating... never

[Rena90]

To me, them hiding things from you is cheating.

[fuddly]

Good question