If your partner starts accusing you of cheating and your not, does that mean they are?

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Like they have guilt.

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

I've seen this before...

The way I handled the woman that was after me with unwarranted accusations... I started making jokes about it. Eventually, she stopped because I'd just roast her into oblivion, but guess what she eventually ended up doing a few months later...

Yup... cheating was on her mind so much, because she was thinking about it all the time.

From what I remember it's called "reaction formation" which is an anxiety defense mechanism (psychology)... I could be wrong about which defense mechanism it is... college was a decade ago for me.

Ah yeah I think I was wrong... it could be "projection." ... I'm sure someone will fact check me.

Jdjfjcjj · Accepted Answer

I think this is assumed far more often then the reality. The best way to know is by listening to their reasoning, considering the state of the relationship, considering their emotional state, considering changes they may be seeing in your routine, and others

Aerissa_Jade · Accepted Answer

No it does not mean that, it could but it could also mean that your partner has been cheated on before and has trust issues.

In fact I believe the second is far more likely because many who actually cheat don't care if their partner does because they are doing it.

It makes no sense to me why they would care that they are being cheated on when they are doing it themselves.

petitedollbabee · Accepted Answer

That depends. If my partner accused me, I would discuss with him why he thinks that way. If I’ve done something to accidentally bring up his trauma around cheating, then I’ll apologise and make sure not to continue that behaviour. But if he’s just accusing me for no reason then maybe.

Guy13 · Answer

No matter how you look at it there are Trust issues and that’s his issue. You can’t make him trust you. Sounds like an eventual Dead End.

VIVANT · Answer

I love this pic! not necessarily but baseless accusations are not good on there own.

worldscolide · Answer

Not always, But most of the time its projection to take attention away from their own cheating when they accuse. That having been said its like 90% projection and 10% extreme insecurity, and neither are good.

Emiliamazing · Answer

I have never experienced this, nor have I ever accused anyone of that action. My initial reaction would be to think that there is something occurring in our relationship has caused them some stress/anger and they can't quite put a finger on why this has occurred.
some questions need to be addressed, for certain.

RavVid · Answer

No though people do see others doing what they do. So it is possible. If he was currently cheating though I think he would avoid the C word.

It could be something you have that has caused him to be suspicious eg flirting or being attentive to another man. Possibly something that was done without conscious thought like looking at a well built man.

Anpu23 · Answer

Sometimes, also it may mean that someone is talking to them, or that they saw something suspicious.

Alex8736 · Answer

In my experience I really believe that the biggest finger pointers have the dirtiest hands. May I add if they keep accusing me then I'll just go out and do it because you can't get charged with double jeopardy

MuskratLove · Answer

No, I don't think so. If I was a bank robber, the last thing I'd want to talk about is robbing banks. I think the guy in question actually has some concerns. I don't know why, but that's just my take.

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

I'm stealing a guy's girl right now. Better keep them on a leash boys, because guys like me are coming for them ;)

Freyke · Answer

It doesn't but it would really hurt and if she can't get over her delusion I'll tell her to break up. I'm a cheater right? Why stay with me then? If she stays, it means she must have at least a little bit of sense left.

Mangospacho · Answer

That is the most likely reason, especially if they keep pressing the issue until they get a yes answer.

humanearth · Answer

That's a big 10-4 good buddy If they are accusing most likely they are cheating or they have major trust issues. Both mean the same thing. Dump Them

ShadezMcgee · Answer

It definitely adds suspicion because it now is stemming from insecurity or projection. So yes. It is plausible that those individuals are cheating.

AimeeKyle · Answer

There is a good chance they are cheating or they have misread / misunderstood some details.

loveslongnails · Answer

It might, but if your partner didn't suspect you were, or bring it up, why would you try to turn the tables out of the blue? That would be more suspicious, wouldn't it?

DermalPunch · Answer

They're up to something or trying to manipulate me.

serious · Answer

No, it does not mean that. It means they don't think you are loyal and honest with them

SunnyRS · Answer

Either that Or they have trust issues.  Any of them isn't good.

OddBeMe · Answer

Possibly. I’d say that’s more common than both people cheating.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Not necessarily. Some people get so traumatized by a past experience that they almost expect it again. But of course it could also just be projection.

slatyb · Answer

If they aren't, they will. People who wouldn't cheat assume that others won't either.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, there is a possibility

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

Id assume so and would most likely break up with them. If not actually cheating, being that suspicious would bother me a lot.

SolitarySolace · Answer

Most women are without even realizing it. At least when men do it they know they are

domenico07 · Answer

Im leaving them no matter what if they accuse me. I ain’t putting up with that bullshit. They can fuck right off

Jennz6 · Answer

Not really, keep the faith

zagor · Answer

I know if at least three times with people I knew where that was the case.

Guardian45 · Answer

Nope. It means they are jealous and possibly a manipulator!

Pterodon · Answer

I don’t think so it just means they don’t trust you

Elliegirl · Answer

Not necessarily, but it is very suspicious

alice55 · Answer

possible or they're juts crazy

Agape93 · Answer

Usually yeap

Quackthulu2 · Answer

Does it matter? Either way they are gone.

spartan55 · Answer

It can, but it's not a foolproof way to know.

xJayleenx · Answer

It actually does I have heard this happen before

driven159 · Answer

there is a good chance of that

Christoff92 · Answer

That can be an possibility.

TrillXHippy · Answer

Yeah probably

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