How would you react if your partner falsely accuses you of cheating/infidelity?

[Pinay_ako]

[Killsey]

If he's told me that he's sure of it, he must present proof of my infidelity all while saying that we should probably end the relationship. If there is a cheater, that usually means the end of the relationship, he will understand that it's the right thing to do that He breaks up with Me.

I give him this choice because my respect for him will have dropped by a whole lot at that point. I'll deny the accusation but give him the scissors to cut the ties. He's caught off guard, he doesn't want it to end, but here he just accused me of cheating and said he was so sure of it, so there should be no excuse but for this relationship to end. I like to see that conflict within him surface.

If he doesn't, I'll do it for him. That it shouldn't be right, hypothetically, for a relationship to last if someone cheated. But before that I let him investigate. Seeing him try and find nothing because I've been loyal this whole time, only to beg for me to give him another chance is something I take pleasure in. I don't take kindly to false accusations.

I want him to know how wrong it is, and I want to be there the moment he realizes it.

[2244001]

Been there done that. Honestly, don't engage into the accusations. I dated someone who CONSTANTLY found a way to accuse me of cheating. It's not fair but if you know you aren't cheating stand ground and disengage the conversation.

[AviatorTom]

I would let her know that I would never cheat on her.

[Avicenna]

I'd just laugh at it because she's just trying to get a rise out of me.

[GOLDFISH_smile]

I'd stay calm and talk it out. Tho I didn't cheat, if it's to the point of making big accusations like that, something must have gone wrong. Maybe we have been distancing from each other or having a hard time in general, and is taking a toll on the relationship. Maybe it's old insecurities coming back up for some reason. Maybe it's someone trying to sabotage from the outside. I don't know. But I want to figure out what's going on that allowed things to get to that point, and try to help get back down from that edge into a better spot.

[Jersey2]

Smart

[Vesuvius87]

Just a boyfriend and no children (I don't do cohabitation):

- Request he provides me irrefutable evidence of the suppose cheating or else it's over. If he claims to having no evidence but it's just insecure, well then he better fix that trait fast. I'm won't put up with drama and nonsense with someone I'm just dating.

If we're married and/or with kids:

- I would ask for the same request of evidence and since he won't have any proof, we go directly to marriage counseling, solve the issue, get to the root of it... work it out.

[Vesuvius87]

I forgot to add:
I'll only do the investigating them for cheating if it's a husband. That's the only reason I'll terminate a marriage, for infidelity. If they cheat on me, they're gone either way.

[Adaeva]

At my age, that may not be relevant. However, if and when it is relevant, I would ask him to explain to me why he believes that. Maybe it is based on a misunderstanding. Therefore, perhaps, I could change his mind. If I couldn't, I would decide if circumstances justifies his belief. Highly improbable things can happen. Therefore, if his opinion, although wrong, is reasonable, he gets to decide how or if our relationship continues. If they are not reasonable, I will decide how and if our relationship continues.

[mstbooblover]

A difficult question about a difficult situation... Masturbating regularly set aside, I really in deeds never cheated on my wife during the 38 years we were together, but she asked me a few times if I had cheated, because she was convinced for some obscure reasons I had.

There is no foolproof trick to convince a woman of the contrary, and thus I said her calmly the truth: no, I never went intimate with another woman, and I honestly added that this faithfulness did not exclude occasional desire in thoughts. I'm convinced she understood instinctively I told the truth.

I think the best is to just calmly tell the truth in such situations, whether you did cheat or not. Lying only makes things much more complicated, and anyway, early or late, if a person cheats, their partner will discover it.

[AydenHazor]

Been there done that, learned it was actually a sign that they were cheating on me. I asked them to tell me why they thought I was cheating on them and addressed the points they had, which made no difference, as someone who doesn't trust you isn't going to trust you. Faithfulness and trust are big things for me in a relationship. I give them, probably a little too quickly on the trust side, but I also expect them from the other person. I communicate openly and honestly, and expect the same, because no relationship will work without open, honest communication

[Throwawaynowknow]

If I was accused of doing something if this magnitude by the person I love, I would be surprised and would make every effort to listen why they accusing me, as well as help show thst first accusations or incorrect. If theg misinterpreted something and I could understand how someone could have come to that conclusion, then I'm also not going to bite their head off.

If someone immediately were to get defensive or mad, I would assume they are guilty. Even if they were accused at not the most optimal time. (Like say someone was already stressed)

[Zatsuma]

I would ask for proof so I can debunk it immediately. And if it kept up then I'd be asking more questions to help figure out why they have their doubts. That way we could either meet in the middle by compromising or come to the realization that they may need therapy if it's clearly all in their heads. I guess it all depends on how long the relationship has been going on for and the level of trust you have in each other at that point.

[fantasticass]

I love this question in a relationship. The person that is making the accusations is the cheater 99 % of the time, so don't get fooled by this narcissistic person. Get out of the relationship, it only gets worse for both if you. Jealousy kills people, emotionally and physically. You start accussing each other of stupid behaviors regarding cheating, so just stop!!🇨🇦✌️😎

[MilaRay]

Depends on the situation. If there was a situation where something looked suspicious and they assumed that this meant that I was cheating I would reassure them that it was a misunderstanding and give them whatever evidence they need to know that they were mistaken. It shouldn’t continue past this point and if the accusations continued despite my effort and openness I would leave. If there really wasn’t any reason for them to assume I had cheated I would leave

[BoopBoopBeep]

I want to see proof. If it's something that DOES genuinely look bad, I'd explain. if it's "well my spirit guide checked her crystals and said..." then i'll help her pack up her stuff.

[bolverk]

Its only happened to me once, we were in her flat when she accused me of cheating/infidelity, I started gathering the few articles of clothing/belongings I had in her flat and left, blocking her number/email and moved on, If she though I could cheat then she did not know me at all.

[AndLikeThatHesGone]

That would absolutely suck. Because when you deny it, they'll just get even more upset, because you won't admit what they think you did. They'll think you're being cowardly or manipulative, or gaslighting them.

I guess I would try to find out why she thought I was cheating, and see if I can prove my innocence. But that might not be so easy.

[AimeeKyle]

Ask questions as to what makes them think and feel that way. Answer their questions in a rational, detailed way and move on. If their behavior persisted (after I had continually, consistently, rationally & patiently explained /discussed their concerns - assuming I/you were innocent of the accusations) I would eventually move on. Sometimes people due that due to a lack of self confidence or they are cheating themselves.

[MissBoogus]

My partner accused me before, I just calmly tell him.. no, I did not. And he wanted me to prove it, but I told him I cannot and can only show with my actions. I will show you that I have not and will not with my actions. Also, I required his blind trust. Which he communicated was hard for him, but it’s something I need and deserve after being faithful for 8 years. Never once looked at other men. He calmed down

[DeeDeeDeVour]

I'd laugh even though I'm already very upset & disappointed.

[Pinay_ako]

Oh no when a woman starts laughing when they’re upset, he better run!

[Xysmiles]

I'd let them believe what they want to and say "fine if you think that then this isn't going to work anymore" then move on. Or if I really care about them then I'd try and hash things out with them see where it goes but if that doesn't work I'd stick with plan A.

[molonski2]

I've had this so many times , standard occurrence in Thailand , they always think you've been banging someone else , even when you haven't been , just always total and utter denial is the best way to deal with it , don't get flustered , they will never 100% believe you , it doesn't matter.

[blueonblack22]

Unless they have legitimate reason to believe this then it’s a them problem not a you problem. And it’s a giant red flag.

[whirled_up_girl]

I would be insulted because I give everything I have to a relationship, for someone to think I could easily cheat would be they never really knew me.

[ObscuredBeyond]

I've never had that problem. I've always been the one asking her what the heck just happened, all too often to get some rude response that shows she isn't sorry.

[Bricealan]

My wife - prior wife- accused me of fucking a cousin that was visiting me before wife and I got married. I was livid, and went a little nuts with her. I was more pissed than you can imagine.

[DermalPunch]

In the past I would have tried to prove myself. But now, with wisdom, I would just repeat back to them the accusation and say OK and never give it another moment of attention.

[luvstoned4him]

Pissed for sure cause I will never do that. It's easier to walk away than to intentionally put someone through hurt and pain

[Spongebobssocks]

I would think they actually believe I cheated and I would do anything I can to prove I'm loyal:)

[ShesRad80]

ask for reasons as to why they feel this way with proof as i would never cheat. even giving access to my phone if they want

[CloudScraper]

I’d patiently ask questions and figure out why they think that. The first time…

The odd this person will be in turbulent relationships is higher than a random person off the street… so I’d also keep my eyes open.

[loveslongnails]

We're in an open relationship, that would be funny! The only way it would be applicable would be if one of us tried to hide it from the other, which would be pointless since it's not a forbidden act.

[Texaskid1]

I would play along just so I could have an excuse for exiting the relationship.

[Pinay_ako]

What if you didn’t want it to end?

[beebella]

Random accusations like that usually mean they're the ones being shady, so I guess we're gonna have to fight about it. 🤷‍♀️

[inhua]

proof would be needed which would be hard to obtain because I don't engage in the degenerate liberal lifestyle

[mattclark242]

I had them do it . Most of the time I accuses them of being a scam. Most of the time I am right.

But now I have new thing I am get accuses of.

[midnightmoon05]

That relationship had a crack a long time ago…by this point…it’s toxic…so got to make a decision.

[MrOracle]

I would almost certainly roll my eyes. If I was going to be banging some other girl, I wouldn't try to hide it - but I have no interest in doing so.

[ChooChooHaha]

I roll my eyes and get very offended at the same time. I would NEVER do such a TERRIBLE, DESTRUCTIVE thing.

[Ms_Facesitter]

I would be very sad and hurt. I'm doing my best to be a good partner and if after all that I get accused of cheating, I would feel pretty devastated.

[Lily_lilac]

I would be mad but try to listen to his pov on why he's thinking so. After we discuss and he still doesn’t believe me, then i call an end to it

[Drewtate]

Reassure her that I'm not.

Often cheaters accuse others of cheating. It's like a theif always worries about being robbed

[Juxtapose]

I would start checking if they were cheating on me. If accusations come out of nowhere then they are usually the guilty ones.

[Lokiion]

I wouldn’t care tbh that just means the trust was never there so I would leave. If she assumed I cheated without any sort of proof, evidence or anything like that she probably felt guilty about something she did anyways

[Mangospacho]

Since I did not marry a narcissist, I would be very concerned (assuming that I’m not actually cheating). I would sit down with her and ask why she thinks I’m cheating on her and reassure her that I’m not.

[slatyb]

We've been together a good while. That would be so out of character that I would wonder if they were suffering from a mental disorder.

[Agape93]

Break up. If you can't trust me, and blame me for things I didn't do and thus have 0 evidence of, we won't work out.

[Anemone978]

I wouldn't care but if it was a constant thing then I would get mad.. probably break up

[Sour-rose]

O fuk me, i got an imposter in my home. Because this mofo doesn't know me in the slightest

[spartan55]

They would get talked to about it and get ONE FREEBIE. Next accusation gets her the gate.

[Fuentes]

I think she's the one self projecting and I'd dump her

[Pinay_ako]

Yes 🙌 love this

[Fuentes]

Exactly lol

[CubsterShura]

If they make the claim then the burden of proof is on them. I'll simply let him know that.

[Nikki1989]

Laugh my ass off. I have never cheated in my life.

[ohsheeT]

Probably look deep into her eyes and say pass me the potatoes please

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

In this case, say I have a partner, I would tell her that I would never cheat on her.

[ProbablyClueless]

I'd be annoyed, present the proof that I'm not cheating, and then start paying close attention to how she acts.

[worldscolide]

I'd start investigating them for cheating. Usually the first one to accuse is the one covering it up.

[RavVid]

The same way as if I was accurately accused of cheating. Vehement denial.

[Grond21]

Except in very few circumstances I would break up with them.

[genericname85]

simple. i say:"if you are convinced i am a cheater, you should not be with me. so i suggest you break up with me right now".

[Alex-Snow]

I would tell her the facts and if she still insisted we might have to move on or stop having sex.

[magiusX26]

if its some sort of one off type thing, talk through it and forgive. beyond that, end the damed thing and move on.

[TallAnon]

Sit them down, start a conversation and be honest. If they don't trust me, this relationship was fucked anyway.