What would your reaction be if your spouse cheated on you?

Question

When you come home from work, you hear noises in your bedroom, you open the door and you look at your spouse is cheating on you, what do you do?

justlookin69 · Accepted Answer

The day I became Red Pilled!!!

I had that happen to me when I was married young (mid 20s). I worked the night shift and during my time at work, my now ex-wife would spend time with someone else in our home. I found out about it and found where he worked and asked him about her. He was told she was single. So not only did she sleep with him during the night but she would she would have relations with me in the morning when I got off work. Nasty!!! I got tested immediately.

No fight and/or arguing between us guys. We both determined she was for the streets, but the look on her face when she seen both of us pull up on her. She cried and begged for me to stay, but after a few choice words, I got my things, our kid, and move to another state the same day.

Given, she didn’t work at the time, nor did she have a car, I removed my name off the lease and chunked the deuces. The other guy told her to lose his number. Given she lost her friends to for doing me that way. No shame here bc karma is a bitch… such is life. She regretted it to.

Purpleronnie · Accepted Answer

I think it goes without saying that I would be hurt that she didn’t think enough of herself and our relationship to cheat on me but ultimately I’d know it wasn’t about me. People that cheat are just vile cowards that are just broken mentally. If your relationship lacks so much that you have to find what’s missing in another then it should be talked about openly in the relationship and of not resolved the relationship ends. It’s as simple as that. If I find my other half cheating I would and it there and then and cut ties. I’m confident about this because quite simply I’ve been in that place. Yes it was difficult for a short time afterwards but I have no place in my life for those who have such disrespect for themselves that hurt those around them

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

Tempted to throw hot grits on their asses. But i’ll just pack all his shit and throw it out on the streets. He may want to get off the hoe and come get his shit before neighbors assume its a free yard sale. Oh yea and i’m video recording their asses to use it against him when i file for divorce. I dont want any of his money. I just wanna keep my house and i want majority custody of our kids. Not sole just majority. And i dont need his wackass child support. Me and my kids will be gucci. He just needs to cover the fees when they’re on their weekend visits with him. Also, im really tempted to beat both their asses, but I’m not tryna catch a case.

Smoke-n-Growls · Accepted Answer

Kick them both out. Immediately gather what I want to bring with me, book a hotel room, break up with the spouse (preferably in front of the sidepiece) and begin move out preparations and divorce papers.

I don't waste time with liars and cowards.
If the relationship was going south, shoulda talked about it.

Within two weeks, I'm gone.
I'll even pay alimony to my coward ex if they're too much of a bitch to sign divorce papers without it (small tithe, terminating after one year - only as a last resort before we go to arbitration).

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I turn around and go to the hardware store to buy a new sets of locks for the house, I return home and start moving her possessions onto the front lawn, then I change the locks and tell her that she will not return to the house once she leaves.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I would make sure they are financially penalized in the divorce proceedings, I know a woman who was cheated on and even though she was capable of supporting herself, she got 100% of the marital property, marital assets, and marital income in the divorce and was so wealthy after her husband abandoned her that she vacationed for 4-9 months every year, and her ex husband paid her children’s college tuitions, she might be lonely, but she gets all the lobster and steak that she’s ever dreamed of.

Pinay_ako · Answer

I would not know what to say but maybe let out a blood curdling scream to scare the hell out of them and call the cops for the bitch trespassing lol

Finchie40 · Answer

I busted my ex wife meeting up with her co worker at a hotel , i knew something was off prior to that, from the way she has been acting towards me , my gut instinct knew something was up but I kept my cool and I started playing investigator, Cell phones are the easiest way to bust a cheater. Before confronting them I took a bunch of pictures for evidence , and saved a lot of her
Text messages to my phone , got out of my car and walked over to confront them , He ran for his life the second he saw me and jumped in his car and sped off cuz he knew I was going to fuck him up , I looked at her and told her she was the biggest piece of shit whore and That She did this to me after all we been through together , I said you are the biggest whore and I hope you rot in hell , I said I got all the evidence I need Bitch to bring your ass down and you won’t be getting shit from me. So I hope your old man can take care of
Your skanky ass cuz he will be divorced also after I tell his wife , She told me not to tell his wife, that she doesn’t deserve that , I laughed and said ok so she deserves to be lied to like I was and I laughed and said you are a fucking whore , I said Fuck you and Rot in hell , I proceeded to my car and called his wife and told her everything and then I called my attorney and told him I have the proof I needed, long story short , she got nothing from me , So word advice for guys , if you’re wife is cheating on you prepare before you attack , I know it’s easier said than done , and I know laws are different in other places but having evidence of your partner cheating will make it so she can’t get alimony or spousal support from you , She is living with her Mom and not with the old man and has been trying to get me back , I just laugh , I don’t tolerate cheaters, If you’re going
To cheat then end that relationship with your partner , don’t go back to someone that you are cheating on , You are only kidding yourself that you actually love that person , so why waste your time going back to them? My ex was a mooch that’s why she tried Coming back to me and now she has nothing

Andres77 · Answer

The idea of one adult punishing another is messed up.
Does cheating hurt?
Yes.
Getting vengeance tells me that you didn't love the cheating spouse in the first place.
If you loved them you wouldn't seek vengeance.
Pure and simple.
You loved yourself and WANTED your spouse. You never loved your spouse.
I'm not justifying infidelity in any way.
I'm not saying just sit and take it either.
But the fucking arrogance and selfishness of a vile piece of shit spouse that declares "I'm going to make them pay" also declares that you don't love your spouse either.

If vengeance is what you seek... you never loved your spouse.

You love yourself and you WANT your spouse, or the lifestyle that you have because of your spouse.

Self-righteous selfish vile disgusting comments in here. Fucking liars. You don't love your spouse.
If vengeance is what you seek... you never loved your spouse.

sage2021 · Answer

As a matter of fact I was cheated on by my husband. I knew the TR was broken and I would never be able to trust him again. I filed for divorce and that was that. Four years with him only to end up divorced.

Espresso-Grande · Answer

I'd be devastated to say the least.

I've been cheated on in a past relationship, so i know the cost of betrayal. But it would be 10 times more painful actually seeing them in bed together.

My initial thought would be to kick the shit out of them both, but that would serve no purpose. I'd rather save my energy and time in making a phone call to my attorney to start divorce proceedings.

Fireguy17 · Answer

I actually had that happen to me.
I suspected something was going on, but didn't want to believe it, but one day I came home early and found him backing into the closet pulling up his pants, and she asked what I was doing there and I told her I used to live here, and left.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm used to a mature, adult relationship which is not readily discardable. So for me it's a question of future viability of the relationship. Is she being honest and open about her transgression? Is she likely to do it again? Does she actually love and respect me? Is she an asset in my life? Do I believe there is value in continuing with the relationship?
If the answer to the above is no, then I need to consider how much pain I'll need to endure to get out of the arrangement. Maybe it's better to continue in some form, maybe not.

Agape93 · Answer

Going to get tested. If I'm clean, then he will find his shit thrown in the street and single. If he infected me with something, the cops will be looking for him for years

OfDeath · Answer

Set my phone to record audio and take a photo. I might need evidence later. Then I would don't say to the guy, ok whoever you are please. Then depending on the living arrangements, either I would leave or I would ask my wife to leave. Obviously I would give her time to pack her things and I would remain calm and mature about it but I would inform her I consider this the end of our relationship.

exitseven · Answer

Before I did anything I would regret later I would immediately leave and go someplace in my truck and plan out my next move. I imagine after that I would be calling my attorney to begin divorce proceedings.

VanillaSalt · Answer

Contemplating murder… double homicide wasn’t my first choice to end the day with but hell it’s as good as any at this point.

No I’m not joking. If you cheat you have done who was supposed to be the most important person to you more dirty than you could ever. Ide feel less betrayed then if she stabbed me with a knife in the neck…

IveGotNoName · Answer

I wouldn't be able to say anything, I'd probably be too in chock to cry. I'd shut the door and sit down somewhere in the house and wait for the other woman to leave. Then I'd talk to my husband. I'd probably have to tell him to stop trying to make up excuses. I'd say that I'm sorry he felt that he had to do that, and maybe I'd ask why he did. Finally I'd say we have to get a divorce.

Coulis · Answer

I would probably start laughing like a lot and say seriously. Just like that. And then everybody would have to get out before I really did kill them.

Flower7 · Answer

Divorce. If I was able to, I'd take pictures so I'd have proof of his infidelity.

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

Honestly, I have no idea. My brain would probably just stop working.

paradiseonearth93 · Answer

I would become cold, get a divorce immediately and walk out of their life like we never knew each other.

Cherry234 · Answer

First I would be shocked. My mouth would be hung open and I wouldn't know what to say. Then I'd probably get out of my home or kick him out

Lillie_xo · Answer

I wouldn't open the door, I'd wait outside for them to be done boot out whoever she's cheating on me with and talk through everything with her, try to come through it.
If this happens again though
sigh..
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TodsShadow · Answer

I’d hope I’d had it on camera so divorce court doesn’t wreck me. I’d be a bitter man if I had to pay alimony for someone who breached my trust.

Browneye57 · Answer

Give her to him. Works out really great. Why? Cuz he doesn't really want her either, she just wanted some dick and he was happy to oblige. It kind of puts her back into reality. The lying cheating whores. LOL

Inexpensivefurniture · Answer

That would be the end of that relationship. I'd be gone so fast. No chance for that relationship anymore. I'd never trust him again

NotTacocaT6969 · Answer

That would cause me to lose tryst in them which would make me lose all feeling for them.  The relationship would be over immediately.

Massageman · Answer

The only noise would be her or our dog snoring - trust me on that.

Anonymous · Answer

Sneak up, take a video/pictures, post on social media, tag her family.

nickaboy · Answer

Fuck the shit out of her while I tell her iknow then finish it ouf with a few punches and throw her out of the window after that go to that guy and if he doesn't care she was cheating on me burn his house down if he didn't know drink a beer

fred_durst · Answer

i will never have problem like this , because i dont like the idea of being committed with other person

misterCage4 · Answer

I'd tell her how much of a terrible person she is. I'd kick her out if it was my house or pack my stuff if it was hers. I'd probably go cry somewhere where I am alone. Then I'd file a divorce.

humpbackjack · Answer

In my bed dude better hope he can run faster than me cause I’m breaking bones no doubt and then I’m packing a bag and bouncing off to find a new one

The-Wise-Phoenix · Answer

Relationship is over.  You can't fix that. No revenge because that is pointless.

Ke_vin · Answer

I would be hurt knowing I give her my all and I might forgive her cause I got a very soft heart and I might get hurt again

River1234 · Answer

Where's my knife? Just kidding.🙃

karaspara · Answer

I would lose my shit then cry then dump him

Hanrej · Answer

I don't know. It's never happened. I'd like to think it would hurt and feel arousing at the same time.

Clarke498 · Answer

No clue. Would probably just stand there confused and stunned.

Better_off_here · Answer

i would pack up a bag for my wife and tell it is time for her to leave.

cloudspy · Answer

I'd walk out and he'd never see me again.

Anonymous · Answer

It depends. Is the guy wearing a condom? Are there feelings involved?

supercutebutt · Answer

Lube up my butt for a 3sum?

Pandupillu · Answer

I would probably die of shock... literally

pepper1828 · Answer

Shocked but not surprise.

PrinceNeo · Answer

Change my name to O. J.

rcljr · Answer

She’d no longer be my spouse

Miristheiss · Answer

Divorce.

the_kisses_of_sun · Answer

I have no idea. I know that I would be very hurt.

goaded · Answer

Steal his white cane! :)

zagor · Answer

Wait, I have a spouse?

llorando · Answer

They'd quickly become my ex.

Sketti2021 · Answer

Leave him on the spot

Nazgol · Answer

Probably start packing his belongings.

Dog87 · Answer

I'd kill them both no joke fuck that

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Obviously very hurt and disappointed.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Dump her ass and never look back.

anylolone · Answer

Depends by what one means by cheating.

Uptowngirl88 · Answer

Leavd

Andreatheflyer · Answer

I would die of heart attack.

JesseJayNeak · Answer

I'd be professional. Livid but professional

Pj1981 · Answer

Heartbroken

TexasRed95 · Answer

Probably suicide.

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