I am not grossed out by the act, but rather the disregard for your partner's feelings, if that makes sense. Lusting for another individual whom is not your partner is common and inevitable. doesn't matter if it is someone you know, a porn star or a damn celebrity. Sometimes it just happens that way. That is where fantasies come in to play. However, to act on those desires is a completely different story. Once you have made a commitment to a person, you should remain committed and if you feel yourself slipping up (because let's face it, shit happens) you should be honest with your partner about it and either A ) work through it or B ) move on. If you decide to cheat you are knowingly putting your partner in a position where they will start questioning themselves. They start feeling unworthy, inadequate, unattractive, etc. The fact that some people do this to their partner and dont care how they are feeling grosses me out. I have an upmost respect for a man/woman who can face their partner and be honest. Cheating and then telling them later is not an act of honesty. That is merely guilt. Honesty is you coming forth beforehand and explaining to your partner that you have either developed feelings for another individual OR have the desire to be with other people.
If not married, no need to put energy to it. He or she has to go.
If married, you made a vow for better or worst... until death and not divorce do you part. If you have to separate to come back together, get counseling, etc to reunite the marriage do so. If the person just can't seem to get right, etc... You have to make the decision to walk away from the marriage. To me marriage is the only committed relationship to fight for because you made a verbal vow before God and man.
All other relationships are drafts and not the final contract.
The stats are in... About 75-80% of LTR's endure some sort of infidelity. Of those about 15% survive, even improve. The rest implode. People cheat for all kinds of reasons, but primarily they are missing something in their relationship so they open themselves up to another. One thing leads to another. You'll hear the classic, "but I didn't intend for it to go that far". Cheating is pretty well split 50-50 by gender, but women are better liars so the stats are skewed to men.
And while you can't blame the victim of cheating, there is nearly always culpability for failures in the relationship.
Cheating is ALWAYS disgusting. Been on both sides of this, rather an expert on the subject. What would you like to know?
Another fun fact... Just because someone cheated doesn't mean they will again. There is generally a good reason they did, and unless the circumstances are duplicated, which is impossible, there's no guarantee they would or wouldn't. Or put another way, the saying, "Once a cheater always a cheater" is patently false.
For me, cheating is an absolute deal breaker. I give my partner my total trust but, once they have violated my trust, how could I ever totally trust them again? Perhaps I could find it in my heart to forgive them, but I would never forget.
I have been cheated on once of which I am aware, and it ended my marriage. I have never cheated on a partner.
Now first off, I'm a ONE WOMAN kinda guy. And if I love someone, that's it. She's my everything. Even right now, my girlfriend means the world to me more than any other girl.
Now... coming to the cheating part, it depends on each people. Some people explode, while others die inside.
Supposedly of my girlfriend ever cheated on me, then I'd surely blow and die inside. I'll go out somewhere to get some air and think bout things that happened and why it happened.
I'd go talk with her about this and tell her that "i forgive you".
Then I'll sit with my girl, and try to understand why things happened the way it did.
And after hearing her out, if I feel like this relationship is becoming a one side effort, then I'll leave for both our sakes.
And if i feel like she made a mistake and regrets it deeply, and still loves me enough to try again, then i will stay and fight for her. But she has to also regain the truth she lost too.
Cheating makes me sick the reason the world why you need to cheat if his problems at home or in the bedroom talk to your partner is there a reason why you need to hurt someone like that you think you're getting away with free ass you're not it was someone gets caught their so sorry no they're just sorry they got caught they weren't sorry the 15 other times I tripped and fell into her crotch the new what the the f*** they were doing while they're doing it the cheating makes me f****** sick cuz it's a lie f****** lie you with them they're thinking of someone else bulshit cuz if I catch you someone's getting punished and it's going to f****** hurt
In the past I had a girlfriend that cheated on me. The moment I found out she was dead to me. I found out she was cheating on me from a friend. The second he told me she was out of my life. I never saw her again, never spoke to her again, no communication at all. She was for all intensive purposes dead to me.
If my partner were to cheat on me I would be mad but I would let my partner explain because i think the best way to be nice to our partner when they did something wrong is by listening to them because ur partner will always have an explanation but I would be mad but like if my partner were to explain I would forgive him but only if I felt that he or she was actually sorry for cheating
I would be disheartened obviously at first then filled with rage Nd den never look back at dem nd will just say few words to dem Nd complete cut off. Travel new place, Detox Nd move on. Find somebody else nd be kinda worried of getting cheated again or not ! ( Will definitely be sad for a whole long period for getting cheated !)
I would end the relationship immediately, and all my respect for her as a human being would disappear. Cheating is unforgivable. Despite the common excuse, it is never a "mistake". Either too much premeditation is required, too little respect and love for the partner exists, or both. You can't "mistakenly" make out, undress, and/or have sex with someone while knowing you're in a relationship with someone else.
Um if I had a partner and they cheated on me I'd of course break up with them, get them out of my life, feel like shit for a while and work on accepting that it happened and move on from them. I don't even want an explanation or a 'why did they do it'. There is no excuse for it.
I would be angry, but to some extent I understand there are some reasons for cheating. In the end though I would either try to fulfill her needs (usually when someone cheats they are missing something in the relationship) if I thought it would be worth it, or just leave her.
If we're deep in a loving relationship with many promises and plans then I'd break up because it was all a lie.
But if we both see it as a little more than friends with benefits and we know it won't last so we never made any promises then I could live with it if the sex is good and she actually cuts off the guy she cheated with
Sometimes, it's better to move away with people who are not trustworthy. Love or Any relationship depends upon trust and faith, if someone is not able to fulfill then the person is not willing to be in a relationship. It's better to leave such person and move on with the person who is trustworthy and lovable.
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End of relationship if there's no children involved, If just partnered not married they'd be ghosted, maybe not immediately but at the best time for me, If I'm being relied on for room, food etc I'd walk away - I'd owe her nothing, no explanation, no forwarding address, back up the evidence you've found, explain to friends just before you leave, then kill you social media accounts and phone number, then leave - leaving no trace where you have gone.
When I ghost her I you remove her 'safe harbour', it will be a shock when she suddenly realises she is homeless as I are paying the rent and living expenses, if possible I'd leave just before the rent is due and remove your furniture leaving her belongings behind (if there's doubt about any furniture leave it behind) on the day you leave this might sound petty but it is hammering home the point.
It's upto her, I love her and I always will but if she don't want to be together it's fine, also every person want to be satisfy both mentally and physically so maybe it's my fault than I'm not able to fulfill her need.
Also I don't had any girlfriend till now, so I can't say further😁
I would need a real talk and understand what happened, why, and what can or cannot change for the future, then decide if the relationship can survive. I have a very specific definition of cheating though, it is mostly lack of honesty. Being in open relationship, having other partners is not cheating for me
I would humiliate them, start being verbally abusive then leave them forever. But if karma didn't exist I would have slowly hurt them everyday and cheated them back, but if it didn't effected them then I would have gotten him bullied and beaten up.
What happens when they cheat n lie when u tell them if they are honest n explain with reason can be forgiven but lie n hide it till I. Found out there will be actions taken out on him resulting from being deceitful, are you aloud to have other ongoing relationships or is it just fucking
Kick them out, change the locks, change my number, block on all social media, inform all of her friends of exactly what happened and the kind of person she is, tell the parts of her family that I know about what she did, generally make her life a living hell.
I would give them the chance to explain, but also asked them if they still loved me and would still desire the relationship moving forward. If not, id let them go simply because I would want a girl to be with me because she loved me
I would say cheat on them back and dump them on the same night but I feel like I would still be in the wrong so just break it off. No way am I going to disrespect myself by letting someone do that to me, and still stay with them afterwards.
If I was cheated on and I hadn't done anything to warrant my significant other to feel the need to cheat I would be really upset however if I had been an abusive partner then I think its justified although if you have found someone else and think you like them more than your partner dont cheat just be friends with this person and talk about your feelings then if you feel the same dump your girlfriend or even get a divorce ig if it's the one then everyone deserves to find the one
"Grossed out" isn't what I feel towards cheating. I do not believe cheating is in anyway a mistake or accident. If you truly loved your significant other then toi would not have been in that situation in the first place.
can't say anything cause I've done it and I never had a daddy and had a guy leave me when. I became pregnant with my only child so he understands it as long as it's not all the time and knows that I still care about him.
Yes I feel grossed about the idea of cheating. Dont understand why people do that I mean how do they not feel guilt or shame hurting their partners feeling.
I still wince at the knowledge of my ex having cheated on me. It will always be an emotional scar tissue. Yes you can heal from it in time, but it still leaves the markings in your psyche.
i could never hurt someone like that, i have never cheated, and i never will.. And if my wife cheated on me, she would be out in the streets in a heart beat.
It doesn’t “gross me out”. I can get over gross. No, it just is a blatant disregard for our relationship and towards me. Pointless to continue on as she’ll do it again.
If my partner cheated, instant breakup, no explanation, no goodbye, just get out. Once she's out, I remove every memory I have of her from my mind and forget that such a person even existed.
Dump her and move on but ask why she did it was she missing something in the relationship or was she just a cheater.
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Put Nair in their shampoo, put laxatives in as much of their food as I can, bleach their clothes, put bologna on their car so the paint will peel off, etc
Then again makes me think you would benefit from being more open and honest with SO, and still find ways to play with that "guilt feeling" you like. I mean having some kind of hope he'll cheat doesn't seem sane in the long run, while you could have him understand you'd actually like him to
First of all, define cheating. Some people consider flirting with others as cheating. I don't. Secondly, I have had that experience and it still kinda sucks.
Im in a open relationship. If he didn't tell me, i. would be hurt. We play. with others together nor alone unless the other one is in the room or knows its happening.
Depends on if we agreed it was okay beforehand, if we came to the conclusion that it's okay with both of us then nothing, if one of us wasn't okay with it then I'd leave them
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First of all I would analyze myself : my behavior with partner, whether I am careless towards her and ignore her constantly; do I satisfy her sexually and also what has been her past, etc.
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