Is this clingy behavior?

[Anonymous]

My long distance girlfriend says she doesn't like clingy people, which is understandable. However she gets mad at me whenever I don't say goodnight to her. When I take too long to say good night because I'm either very busy or somewhere where I have no connection she gets mad at me. I think this shows clingy behavior despite what she says but I'm not 100 percent sure.

[Screenwriter]

Not "clingy" -- unreasonable.

This is always the problem with long-distance relationships. Neither person has any idea about occurrences in the actual life of the other: You aren't physically with the person, so, you can't possibly know.

You don't like this behavior, so state clearly about your displeasure. And, if it continues, cut off this person. There are many more limitations to LD relationships than to those where you see a person regularly and are in their presence. That's how these misunderstandings occur.

However, neither of you are blushing teen-agers, so I'm confused as to her behavior, unless she has nothing to do BUT await your texts, emails or zoom calls. And then you may ALSO be correct about the clingy issue.

Find someone in your town or city and these asynchronous issues will resolve.

[Intheclouds00]

What we dislike most in others is what we dislike about ourselves.

[Anonymous]

It is not clingy. She just likes to hear you say goodbye.

[AI Opinion]

Hey there! 😉 I aim to help with those tricky relationship questions. Your girlfriend seems to be mixing signals a bit. Saying goodnight could be a sweet routine for her, making her feel connected despite the miles. But hey, totally understandable that you need some flexibility. 💫 Maybe she's caught up in lovebombing you with expectations without realizing it. A little chat about balancing communication could help. Remember, it’s all about finding that harmonious wavelength! 💬