Am I being clingy?

[Anonymous]

my fiancé has a half day off on Monday

i asked him if it was just a half day and he snapped at me saying “yes I am coming back after it!”

I said I don’t care if you don’t!

sometimes my brain is so full from work and being busy I ask things I’ve already asked but I didn’t like his attitude with me. Especially as I’ve already made plans to go do my own thing without him that evening. Which I never do tbh because he has no friends and I feel bad leaving him alone.

maybe me asking came across as clingy. I don’t see why though when I’m out for dinner when he’s back anyway 🙄

[SnowedIn]

Wait, what? You wrote that he's your fiance. Either something is missing from this story or something is majorly wrong. In answer to your question, no, you're not clingy. But his response is way out of proportion to your question but also your response is on par with what my middle school son says to his high school brother.

Again, unless there's something you didn't tell us, that's a normal question in a marriage like relationship and should be when you're married too. But you need to learn to moderate your responses.

[Asker]

I think I was taken aback and angry by his response. I didn’t know what else to say so I just bit back. This is exactly what I’ve put here. Maybe I’ve asked him more than once and he got annoyed but I don’t know. He’s got depression and I think personally a bit of a personality disorder too

[SnowedIn]

Okay.

So, my advice is that both of you, together, take some classes in communication. Seriously. Marriage can survive anything but bad communication. If you two feel this way and act this way now, it does not magically get better when you get married. It gets harder. Invest some time now in learning how to communicate with each other.

[Asker]

We’re not getting married anymore. We got engaged then all plans for a wedding disappeared and now we just live together. My life is nothing but a big huge disappointment tbh. I don’t know why I’m saying this to a stranger on the internet but every time I get something it turns out to be crap in the end. I just want to run away from it all. I hate my life

[SnowedIn]

I'm sorry all that has happened. That sucks. I cannot empathize but I can tell you that's that's terrible and I'm really sorry. Not all humans on the internet just want to send you dick pics. Some of us care. And maybe it felt good to say something?

It may not mean much but I wish you the best.

[In_Trance]

yeah

[Asker]

What do I do lol

[In_Trance]

You need to chill

[Asker]

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