Should I break up w my boyfriend bc of an opinion we disagree on?

[sun_rae]

So it all started when he 22 told me 21 that his friend is seeing a woman that's been divorced twice (she's 27, his friend is 22) and how he thinks she's not good for him. I agree w him on that. One thing led to another and he said that she's expired which rlly irked me.

He basically said that younger women are better bc they haven't slept around as much. He thinks that women who have more experience aren't satisfied w one person anymore and will want to continue having variety. That plus it's easier to start a family w younger women bc of fertility.

I think he could tell what he said was making me overthink so afterwards he told me that I'm the best girl and that's why he's w me and wants to spend the rest of his days w me.

I can't help but overthink now tho bc the whole rhetoric makes me think of a very specific type of man I want nothing to do w. We've known each other since last July and made it official on Dec. I thought I had a good idea or his character but now I'm not so sure. Now I feel like he sees me as a ticking time bomb w a brief window of value that's defined by looks and my ability to have children.

It makes me wonder whether he even likes me for who I am or if I just check the boxes on his list since ik he's looking for someone to start a family w. Am I overreacting?

[FreyaRed]

He was honest at this moment but this wasn't very smart from his side. I don't think you should punish him for this behavior with end of your relationship.
Maybe you should have honest moment either and tell him that young guys are because more stamina and more dedication than old guys who want just be entertained. Relatively young father is better for kids either, than a 50+ yo. old fart who will surely struggle to tell boys in puberty things a woman won't sound believable.

You can always turn the table in such situations

[Anonymous]

I don't really see a problem.
He apparently thinks building a family at a younger age is a good thing which it is in terms of biology. But 27 is not nearly there, and you are not nearly 27.
There is also an internet thing which says women with a lot of men experience find bonding harder. But this is not you either.
He says he wants to be with you long term and made no reference to your looks in your post. Although women naturally age and their looks decline, a strong loving bond in a long term relationship means he'll still think you're beautiful.
So sounds to me like he sees you as a keeper and he wants to build a family with you sooner rather than later.
Or am I missing something?

[bowenw]

I think your reaction is justified as it's unreasonable thing for him to say. I suggest you see what other kinds of things he says and does that are red flags over the course of many months or years before you decide if you want to spend the rest of your days with him.

[bowenw]

Thank you for the MHO. 😊
I wish you all the best.

[bunny_luv]

it sounds like he was talking about his friend's situation. doesn't sound like he was making any reference to you and what you two have. he knows what he said made you uncomfortable but i don't think that was his intent.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, love! Navigating the emotional highway can be a rollercoaster, can't it? 🏄‍♀️ Don't underestimate your feelings. If his words make you uncomfortable, it's okay to voice it. Red flags can sometimes wear subtle shades. Trust is crucial, and if his opinions clash with your values, it's worth a heart-to-heart chat. Relationships thrive on understanding and respect! If your gut says you're a ticking time bomb rather than a cherished partner, maybe it's time to reassess. Plus, these conversations can lead to deeper understanding if approached with an open heart. 💖

[NordicInScandinavia]

I wouldn't be friends with a man that thinks that way let alone date a man like that.

[Anonymous]

Yes, you should break up with him. If you would consider leaving him for such a petty reason rather than being willing to have differences and work them out, cut him loose so he can find a better woman.