Do you think LDR (Long Distance Relationship) would work for you?

[itsannalee]

Have you ever experienced it?
How does it work?

[RingOfFire]

I don't think the term "Long Distance Relationship" tells enough to be able to know if it works for someone or not.

The question is is it an LDR where you have been with the person IRL or an LDR where you have never met the person. There is a gigantic difference.

If you have not even met the person, then 90% of the relationship is fantasy and you have no idea what your real feelings would be if you had been with them in person.

There are so many differences between a keypad relationship and a real one.

Even if you meet someone in person, it takes a long long time to get to know them well enough to actually know if you are "in love." And if you never met them at all, it's nothing but fantasy.

If you "fall in love" with someone you never even met, it means you are desperate for love and willing to fool yourself to relieve the pain. It means you are potentially setting yourself up for heartache.

With age you gain the wisdom to hold back your feelings for someone until they have earned your trust. And you can't trust anyone without at least having an in person relationship.

[Sian_Blower060203]

I'm in one now for 4 years this year. He's in America whilst I live in England. It has took a lot of work to get where we are. When we met, i was in a dark place, struggling with my mental health things like self harm, suicide. But then he saved me in a way and make me feel like the most beautiful woman.
I'm not exactly a skinny girl, i have curves and a bit of a belly, thicker thighs, stretch marks and I've always been insecure about it. But he just tells me that they make me more beautiful.

LDRs are so hard, i can't tell you how many times we have wanted to give up but we both know that we want a future together, a family, a farm one day. So that is what we envisioned together. We talk everyday about everything and anything.

He's there for me and im there for him. We're both so in love with each other.

I think from experience they can work but only if the effort is made to make them work.

They have such a bad reputation for failing every time but that's just not true. The effort and the time has to be there for it to work.

In the end it is worth it especially if you know the person you're in the LDR with is who you want to be with.

I couldn't imagine spending my life with anyone else. He's told me he couldn't either. So that's what makes it work. How much we love each other and want each other.

[StarWarGirl]

It is working for me.

Maturity, understanding, trust and regular communication is the key to success of LDR.

Trust and loyalty is most important as you both are at distance so it's just trust and loyalty that keeps it strong.

Communication is important to know what's going on, on the daily basis. We cannot avoid it. Even if we are fighting with each other we should have a rule that we won't block each other so other person can reach to us whenever they want.

Honesty is important, that adds up in solidifying more trust to that person.

We should be mature enough to understand, they can't be always available to us. We are not in same space and their life is going parallely to ours in different space. We cannot act childish to expect something what's not possible practically.

And yes Love. LDR is difficult. But if there is love and when we know that person is that with whom we want to spend our whole life together then distance of few months or years seem as a good investment.

[Purpleronnie]

A long distance relationship is an oxymoron to me. Been there , done that , it can never work. My only regret is that I was foolish enough to try


I’m willing to accept that after years of a relationship , long distance for a time can and should work … but not from the outset. Nobody can play down the need for physical touch in a relationship , it’s how we are raised and to some extent conditioned. Without touch babies would literally die.


Nothing meaningful can be built or sustained in a long term long distance relationship.

[AI Opinion]

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[PeachyPie93]

It can work.. but most people now don't want that kind of thing since love is dead.
My first boyfriend was a long distance relationship. I'm from Canada and he was from England.. We dated for 2 years, video called everyday for hours, played games together, watched anime and movies together. Then he came to visit me after 2 years and we lost our virginity together.. then 6 months later I went to England to live with him. We stayed together for 12 years but things got rough and I wanted to go home so I left. If both people really want each other it can work out but most don't actually want or care about the relationship so if someone close comes along they will ditch you for them.

[DJB72]

Different continents for over a year. We eventually got married. Lasted 21 years until she passed away last year.

The loss hurts beyond anything I can describe, but if I could do it over I'd do the same again. Worth every tear I've she'd to share her life for so long.

[sawno]

I have been in an incredible one that would have worked should I have had the ability to move to her sooner. Everything was great but loneliness got in the way and lockdown was still in effect back then. So while she needed me I could not visit her.

[Lliam]

I wouldn't even bother. It would be like having a pen pal or falling in love with an avatar.

I met most of my girlfriends at work, school or through friends. But there are also other places to meet people.

I wanted to go on dates and get into monogamous relationships, not waste time chatting endlessly on-line.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

I've done it and it didn't end well, with him ending up cheating on me with someone local. It's possible to do but hard to maintain especially with someone who makes no effort to try and be closer at times. I know there have been plenty of ldr's that made it but that was when they eventually got together in person. Having a personal connection with emotional feelings involved is doable despite distance.

[Shiprex]

Yeah but we'd started it then she had to return to her home country then I went there. Lived loved languishing in opulence, she left her job moved to another country temporarily whilst I stayed then she moved again whilst I finished living in opulence to follow her here to live in modern ordinary but pretty meh (lagom is how you say it here).

[Drumlin2001]

Possibly. Of I were single I would be bringing 2 kids so don't know when I'd have free time so wouldn't be able to see in person too often anyway. Previous partner was an hour a way, that worked fine. Anything upto 3 hours I could see being relatively easy. Anything above maybe more of an issue

[trumpetplayerforlife]

Me and my husband lived 2 hours away one of us would drive down once a week to see each other and we would call at night and talk... it can work if both are willing to commit

[TheSmellOfVictoria]

It's working fine for me. I'm gone close to 240 days a year. We've been happily, well, we've been married for over five years! I actually think she likes when I'm not around every day.

[Amy10223]

Yes, I was in one many years ago. It works of you stay in contact and you can Zoom, write, speak on the phone, online and so on. It is not the ideal relationship, but it can work if two people find themselves willing to stay together.

[nawtee_me]

I used to think not until I got into one. I can now see how love could grow in a LDR. However in my case she is on the other side on the planet so I am not sure about the endgame. Right now it is just a loving friendship. Right now I don’t see how we will be together.

[HungTexan]

Not for me. I need personal contact. I worked on a remote international project years ago, and I missed my wife too much.

[beenherebefore]

At this age absolutely NOT. I'm married but if I was single I would be seeking stability and looking forward to spend quality time with my partner. If I was in my early 20s I would probably entertain that but in my 30s is a big No go.

[NicholasRedone]

@itsannalee ahh you're no long got a display avatar and nope, wouldn't work for me. For me I'd only date local women here lol 😆 in my country lol 😆 and nothing long distance even lol 😆 big enough country here

[DizzyDesii]

Its never been a problem anytime i’ve done it. The only downside is how much money is wasted on flights for if the relationship doesn't workout in the end

[dustybiker2]

There is a similar Q on here with close to 500 replies by now...

[itsannalee]

So you already met all those 500 people here?

[dustybiker2]

Probably. There was a gap.

[Nikki1989]

No, why bother. There is probably someone living within a mile of most people you can date.

[lightbulb27]

I did and yes it did. Not always, takes effort, some money and freedom. Good communication skills.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Too I need physical affection and I see no difference between an LDR and friends online.

[YourExLover69]

I have done that in the past. I can put all my efforts but the other side usually ghost, cheat or leave. I'm still open to that idea of girl really put efforts and take it seriously.

[michalpl00]

Yes i have been in one. didn't work. The girl was lying and not respecting my boundaries. In long distance you must have incredible amount of trust in order for it to work. I couldn’t trust her after what she did and lied.

[exitseven]

I did one of these for 4 years. I would never do it again. I would go as far as 100 miles. Anything further and forget it.

[skidawgkc22]

No, she has to be local to my area for me to even consider starting a relationship.

[lilBigPotato]

No and that's why I won't go in a relationship that starts off as ldr

[loveslongnails]

Been there, done that, they rarely work, and by rare I mean somewhere between 1 and 3%, depending on your age, income and family situation.

[foxsquirrell]

I have never experiences it, and it does not make any sens to me. What kind of relationship is it if you seldom can be physically close to your other half?

[Professor-college]

I don't think it would work at all because out of sight out of mind and the other options show up and that's it

[In_Trance]

Waste of time if there's no agreement on when the distance will be a non factor.

For people who have never met F2F say they're in a LDR... fkn stupid

[Bklynbadboy12]

Sure if both parties are willing to put in the work

[andreasderjuengere]

It will not work.

It's like having a pen pal - and nothing more.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Short term yes, but longterm she would need to move in with me.

[Dnice1]

Not for me, I've been in one once before and it was enough to say that I need a nearby guy in my life

[69Lonely69]

Not at all. I desire touch in my relationships and couldnt stand being that far away from my partner.

[douride2]

LDR didn't work for me in the past. I wouldn't even try an LDR again.

[jamesgoldman]

No, both my prior relationships ended rather than attempting the impossibility of long distance

[Guanfei]

No. And I know because I tried. It was a disaster, both times.

Would that stop me from trying again? Again, no.

[Gymrat01]

Suppose if you communicate with each other. And if it's for a short term. Especially things like FaceTime.

[Pterodon]

Yes I was in one for four years. The only way they work is with regular in person contact

[MikeRJ]

It depends on how long we would be separated.

[blackeagle007]

Never did. Wouldn’t be for me. But won’t discourage others

[NathanDavis]

I won't even try it

[wkhan_87]

No it's weakest relationship type.

[slatyb]

Only with plans to meet as soon as possible.

[Justneedtokno]

I think it requires a lot of communication

[JesseP1nk]

It would never work for me

[DrPepper12]

It can't won't and will NEVER work.

[CubaPirate]

Not for me thanks

[Batsy01010101]

That's the only way I do it

[MatureMan40]

Yes, I hae experienced. It was wonderful.

[Ghstarqueen]

Yeah it works but depends on both parties

[strateguy632]

It wouldn't.

[Jennz6]

Never

[talka20]

Yes for sure

[Iron_Man]

Yes I do

[Mrtcn01]

no i need budy..

[Ladsin2]

Nope.