Will you be hurt if people misunderstand you?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'd say it mainly depends on your beliefs.

As a Muslim, I know for certain that 100% with 0% doubt that it is Allah (God) who will judge me. So I don't care about explaining myself or makes excuses.. etc.

Yet, we also are asked not to do things that would normally be frowned upon without showing the reason.

So, it doesn't merely emotionally hurt as long as result is going smooth. Otherwise it may backfire due to misunderstanding and so people trying to prevent/stop you or disagree.

• Example (1) - [Resulting opposition]
Sultan Abdulhameed in Turkey had his (Intelligence Officers) monitor enemy spies and agents.. then they smeared him saying he is spying on people. Accusing him of what made Edward Snowden leave his position. In this case.. it certainly hurts. And hurt is due to failing the mission.. just for being misunderstood.

• Example (2) - [Personal feeling]
While another Muslim guy in Aghanistan was accused for selling his Muslim brethren.. while he stayed neutral to reduce risks, yet even protected some and sent to Guantanamo due to it.. was crying people misunderstood him being a traitor. In this case, I say it shall not hurt as you did your job and people's mere thoughts and ideas don't truly affect you. You can later clarify or skillfully maneuver like Erdogan's Turkish government.

On a smaller individual level relationship, I think it would put a heavy psychologial burden on you, as well as may get you distant due to been seen inconsiderate at some cases.

So.. as long as you know it doesn't matter in the end, and have the patience to clarify/skill to maneuver with, I think you should not hurt/fail.
As I believe it means you could not present yourself properly.

"Those who don't know how to present themselves are losers. As much as powerful you present yourself, you win and gain".

Does it makes sense?

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

It really depends on the misunderstanding.
To what level it goes to and what they are talking about.

I am an introvert an Empath I see and I feel things deeper than most people
There's moments in time When I meet somebody. And I can get an.
Instant connection. And when this happens , I feel as if I have known them for over a hundred years

Can I start talking to them like that Because they have been telling me things about themselves Without even saying it or Knowing what they're doing

So I start talking to them as if I have known them that long.. And that's kind of weird

But even like everything I just wrote down.
I know what i'm trying to say , but I don't Think that I projected it the right way

So I am misunderstood a lot of times
It doesn't really hurt me, but it depends on what we are talking about in that moment.

Even on here on gag, I use voice texting. I don't proof read I don't really punctuate.
And sometimes my phone likes to say what it wants to say Instead of what I said

So I think i'm more misunderstood than I would like to be..

natured · Accepted Answer

Depends what kind of misunderstanding, because those happen when there is a lack of communication and lack of being even ABLE to formulate and stay focused on facts. But yes, if I have spoken clearly and still get misunderstood then I would get hurt... But that is not happening to me anymore due to me raising lots of boundaries.

NoDecision · Accepted Answer

Aren't most of us misunderstood in some way or another?

Sonorous · Answer

The only way I can answer broad questions like this is to just say that it depends.. One hurt I'd feel wouldn't measure up to another if the implications or negative consequences from the other were greater.

Summeroflove · Answer

No because what matters is having a few people who do. Not everyone’s going to understand anyone including me I can’t understand everyone either.

Some people need to understand even the most empathetic of people aren’t mind readers.

HawkPerception · Answer

People misunderstand me 24/7. Story of my life. It may have been hurtful when I was younger. But as you mature, you realize you can't please everyone. Just be true to yourself.

DishLady · Answer

Nah. It happens. We both have the choice to offer or ask for clarification.

Purpleronnie · Answer

For me it could bring a sense of frustration , anxiety and or a little awkwardness if it’s someone close to me. They are the people that should “get me” and they pretty much much always do. I guess there would be a slight fear that the trend would continue.

Outsiders though , well no I generally couldn’t care less.

Hobobobo · Answer

This is dependent on many factors. It depends largely on what is being misunderstood, why the misunderstanding persists, the context in which the information is being communicated, and the nature of the relationship with the person misunderstanding.

NathanDavis · Answer

that depends on the actual situation... some friends have smacked me before... after I make some jokes... lmao

DizzyDesii · Answer

I've always been misunderstood and surprisingly it still hurts when its a loved one who won't hear me out

Theguywhogoesnude · Answer

I can only hurt myself more than anyone and no one is getting to me soon

MysticDevice · Answer

I got used to it. I'm more surprised when they do understand me.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

People misundstoop all of the time I'm starting to get use to it. What about you how would you feel if you was misunderstood

PrincessC16 · Answer

Yes. I'm an empath and I wear my emotions on my sleeve. I've really been working to get better at letting things go.

bobalife · Answer

It only hurts when it comes to people I cared about…

exitseven · Answer

I guess I would.

strateguy632 · Answer

Never unless they misinterpreted to accuse me.

Justneedtokno · Answer

Absolutely I think I lost a friendship that way, and now really just sitting in the house by myself trying to figure out who I got left

JaneDoe93 · Answer

If we had a close relationship (like family or romantic partner), I suppose I’d have an expectation they would try to understand me better.

lightofdarkness · Answer

Actually it depends. Sometimes i dont care because i'm talking with strange but sometimes it hurts beacuse it was my people to who i was talking. Allthough nowadays i adapt these broken feelings

orange_roach · Answer

Nah, I’m quite used it. Thing is those who misunderstand me already made up their minds about me so 🤷‍♀️

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

Hmmm I spend time with people able to manage misunderstandings, otherwise, yes, things will get disappointing or much worse, I know that from experience

littlekat · Answer

It depends on the people. If it's people I barely know … no, I can't say that I care. But if it is someone close to me, yes I get hurt very deeply.

Alex-Snow · Answer

It can be part of life. One just has to get over it and move on

Lokiion · Answer

I don't really care maybe I just didn't explain what I was saying well enough

dustybiker2 · Answer

Maturing is realizing you do not have to. You only need to choose to with the people who matter.

msg321 · Answer

If s/he doesn't have bad intentions, no. Misunderstandings happen.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Nah, years ago I've come to the conclusion most people are dumb.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Sometimes... it really depends on what the misunderstanding is and what they do in response to it.

Anonymous · Answer

Some people always kinda tend to hurt me, whether they understand me or not.

Agape93 · Answer

Only if they're close to me

Nikki1989 · Answer

Unlikely.

rizzzz007 · Answer

Yes I will be hurt if the person I love most misunderstand me I don't care about people

MoonFace2 · Answer

certainly and stressed out.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

No but annoyed I will be

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Nothing I won't heal from

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

It depends on the subject

Staximus · Answer

I don't give a shit anymore

nawtee_me · Answer

No not really.

PartyGirl2004 · Answer

Depending on how they react.

Rohaan2020 · Answer

I used to get hurt by that but not anymore

ienjoylookingatgreen · Answer

No next question

masterSir · Answer

I've gotten use to it.

wkhan_87 · Answer

Yes , it breaks my heart

luvgirlfarrtts · Answer

Depends on what it's about

Account · Answer

Not anymore.

MikeRJ · Answer

I think everyone wants to be understood.

hello4433 · Answer

Depends on who it is

linka_pat307 · Answer

Yeah.. i do much

Shortkay4568 · Answer

Ohh no.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Not usually

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