Would you forgive if your husband wanted to divorce you for being a rape victim but then apologized (only because his mother convinced him)?

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What do you think of this?

I saw an episode where a wife wouldn't let their daughter enter ballet school. She suffered a dramatic event of being raped by her former ballet teacher as a kid. Only her mother knew later on but she kept this a secret.

Finally when she admits it to her husband, instead of being supportive... he walks away, scolds her and is disgusted by not being the first man. He was too focused on the ''you're tainted'' part and nearly wanted to proceed with a divorce. His own mother was very ashamed of her son's attitude. Though he only apologized because his mother talked him out of it. He wouldn't have done it on his own account. The former school finally gets arrested when she reports him and he does it to again to the daughter's friend.

Even though it's a ficitious episode, real cases like this does happens. Honestly I would not forgive him. He wanted divorce and his own mother had to talk him out of it. How is being raped being tainted? That's out of someone's control. I would find that attitude and him walking away unforgivable.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

That scenario depicts a deeply troubling instance of victim-blaming and misogyny. The husband's initial reaction, driven by a sense of possessiveness and a distorted view of purity, reveals a profound lack of empathy and understanding. His apology, coerced by his mother rather than stemming from genuine remorse, further underscores his flawed character. Forgiveness in such a case would be incredibly difficult, if not impossible, as it would require overlooking a fundamental betrayal of trust and a complete disregard for the wife's trauma. The idea that a rape victim is "tainted" is a harmful and archaic notion that should be rejected outright.

glennos89 · Accepted Answer

Difficult one but most likely I wouldn't accept that

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Accepted Answer

The male need to center themselves as the victim and shirk any responsibility in events revolving around sexual assault is a fucking cancer. Fuck the patriarchy and fuck that fictitious man in particular. I hope the episode ended with him getting hit by a car and dying.

Vesuvius87 · Accepted Answer

Someone that shows zero empathy and understanding for a traumatic event is a deal-breaker. It would be over that very day he walked out the door. Unforgivable.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

It's heart-wrenching to see someone react like that after such a traumatic revelation. Drooling over someone else's past and not seeing the courage it takes to open up is a big no-no. A supportive partner should prioritize healing and empathy, not their ego. If apologies come only because of mom's intervention, it's a major red flag. It's super important for partners to communicate and have each other's backs, especially during tough times. You deserve someone who cherishes you, not just on his mom’s cue. Stay strong and prioritize your own healing and happiness. 😊💪✨

HelpfulWoman · Answer

nah. that shows he's the bad type of mama's boy.

Agape93 · Answer

Nope

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