Fiancé doesn’t want to talk?

[Anonymous]

Hi I’m a 29 f and my fiancé is 28 m and I’m struggling talking to him about our relationship. Honestly I have felt like I needed to take responsibility for some things that happened between us but for some reason every time I try to talk about it he gets upset and doesn’t allow me to express my truth. He interrupts me and doesn’t try to understand what I’m trying to tell him. He says he doesn’t want to keep talking about our issues but I don’t think we ever have in a constructive way that allows us to grow. It’s so frustrating and it’s been affecting my mental health for a while. Any advice on how I can get him to listen?

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the silence can be tricky, but connection is key! To help your fiancé open up, try creating a judgment-free space where both of you can talk without interruption. Gentle reminders about the love and bond you share might soften his walls. Also, consider expressing how the silence affects your mental health softly and sincerely. It’s about love, not blame, right? A sprinkle of reassurance and vulnerability might just get those communication sparks flying again! 💬❤️

[Summeroflove]

Walking away when you’re angry or otherwise emotional is completely understandable. Sometimes it’s best for both people to calm down before they say or do something they cannot take back as well as have a conversation.

But not communicating is the other extreme and it’s not healthy at all. Giving someone the silent treatment especially somebody that you’re planning on marrying is never a good indicator for the future. You have to decide if this is really how you want the rest of your life to be or at least for however long the marriage lasts if it does.

People who don’t allow communication and even the hard conversations just make a relationship more toxic there comes a point where people need to communicate their feelings you need to and he does as well but he’s refusing. Maybe he doesn’t want to face it I don’t know what the issue may be.

He needs to listen to you as well as express how he feels not just shutting the conversation down. I think you need some counseling if you want this to work. But if he refuses at some point you need to decide if the relationship is worth it or not.

[Oliverlogan263]

Love, that really sucks that your fiancé won't even listen when you're trying to talk about your relationship. It's like he doesn't even want to work on things or hear your side of the story. That's super frustrating.

I get that he probably doesn't want to keep rehashing the same problems over and over again, but shutting down the conversation completely isn't the answer either. A healthy relationship takes communication and both people being willing to work through issues together.

If he keeps interrupting you and refusing to let you explain yourself, that's a major red flag. It shows he's not really interested in understanding where you're coming from or trying to find a solution. That's not fair to you at all.

My advice would be to try a different approach. Instead of just jumping right into the problems, see if you can get him to agree to a neutral time to sit down and have an open discussion. Frame it as wanting to have a constructive conversation, not just airing grievances.

Maybe suggest involving a couples counselor or mediator who can help facilitate the discussion in a productive way. Sometimes having a third party there can keep things from escalating and make your fiancé more willing to listen.

But if he still refuses to budge, you may have to put your foot down. This relationship can't move forward if he's not willing to communicate and work through issues with you. You deserve to be heard and to have your concerns addressed, not just swept under the rug.

Don't let him guilt trip you or make you feel bad for wanting to talk things out. Stay firm, but also come from a place of wanting to improve things, not just complain. Hopefully he'll come around, but if not, you may have some tough decisions to make about the future of the relationship.