Why is it that my boyfriend wants me to gain weight, but checks out skinny girls?

[Anonymous]

I know for a fact my boyfriend is attracted to small petite short women. I’m 5’1 96-98 lbs. He thinks I look disgusting at this weight, but yet has always checked out smaller women. It makes no sense. I don’t know if he’s trying to get me to gain weight so no other man will want me or what. I was 112 when we met, which is not big.

[Finchie40]

That’s weird , it sounds like your boyfriend is a manipulator and a narcissist, that wants to control you , the fact that he called you disgusting should of been your answer to dump his ass , that’s something I wouldn’t tolerate in a relationship, I have dumped a girl once because I gained a little bit of weight and when I came out of the shower she said ewww to me , that was my final straw to end it with her , our relationship was already bumpy but by her doing that was my answer to end it. I’m sorry to say but you ended up with a narcissistic asshole

[Summeroflove]

That doesn’t sound like a healthy relationship as well as him lusting after other women it’s a matter of time before he acts on it if he hasn’t already. If he’s saying you look disgusting you shouldn’t be with him…. That’s point blank. He should want you because of who you are. I understand if he cares about your health and that’s why he’s concerned but that’s not at all what it seems.

I think you need to break this one off

[PeachyPie93]

Why do you care so much about what he thinks, especially when he checks out other woman in front of you? It seems you need to get your self worth up and find a new boyfriend lol.

[katiesmuff]

Makes absolutely no sense to me why!

[AI Opinion]

Oh, the mystery of mixed signals, right? Sounds like a classic case of conflicting desires. Sometimes, partners project their insecurities, and his behavior could be more about his own issues than your body. It's like he's ghosting his true preferences. Maybe a pinch of communication could clear up the confusion. Trust me, confidence in who you are is key, not weight numbers. Rock your own lovebombing show of self-love! 😊 Remember to love your amazing self! 💃

[molonski2]

If that's your picture , you look a healthy weight , there is nothing wrong with 45kg ( approx ) at 5ft 1in , don't listen to him at all , he just wants others to not like you , also never look at USA averages these are simply far too big..

Work on just muscle toning with light weights , and check BMI rather than just total weight.

[RedThread]

Jesus he said you look disgusting? How do all these guys get girlfriends?

To answer you're question, people can be attracted to more than one type.

[Asker]

He said he misses how I used to look when I weighed 112. I guess I had a little more curves. But it makes no sense, because he checks out women with no curves all the time. I can’t win. I feel more confident like this though. I don’t feel unhealthy.

[RedThread]

Your self-worth matters more than his opinions.

[Bricealan]

@Layla_99 No, it doesn't make sense. I like smaller, thinner, petite women, and would NEVER suggest she gain weight. For a guy, I am 'thin" @ 5' 8" and usually around 137 - 140 pounds, but I stay with Yoga and stay as firm as is possible. I want a girlfriend to be very much the same.

I would be wary of a guy that says one thing and wants you to be something else... doesn't sound right?

[BarryLiverstone]

That’s concerning when someone you love says you look disgusting. What does he say that makes you think you should gain weight?

[Asker]

He says it hurts when we have sex because of my butt bone. He says I look to bony as well.

[Wise4myage]

He's lame.

[BarryLiverstone]

It hurts? Hmm, I’m not sure that he’s being honest. Has he had lots of experience with other people. Seems like an insult to call you bony tho, he’s your boyfriend

[GAGsucksballs89170]

Do the skinny girls, also have big boobs, even though they're thin

[Asker]

No. Most of them are in an A cup. I’m almost a C cup.

[GAGsucksballs89170]

Hm, i dk

[Wise4myage]

Do not listen to him.

[Wise4myage]

You’re super thin as it is.

[RedInnocent69]

You always like what you don’t have

[jahaims]

He sounds mental

[Asker]

His behavior is contradicting.

[ChicoFromThe305]

That sucks