So my boyfriend likes curvy women (big boobs, big ass) and I just dont get why he is with me, a skinny girl?

[terrificale]

I know its a stupid question but I honestly don't get why would somebody even flirt with a women that is not the type of women you like (physically speaking), i feel that I was the backup plan and not of another women, but in general like: with this curvy big boobs girls didn't work so now let me try with these skinny bitches and see what happens and there I was!

I know he loves me and all that but I just feel super uncomfortable because i know he's not into skinny girl, im not ultra skinny but im an a cup and my butt of course is not big, somehow i feel all my efforts to look good and dressing up are useless because he will never look at me like he would look other girls.

A lot of people will say that the important thing is the personality and the love you have and all that, but I think it is important that you like what you see on your partner and he might like some things of me but the whole package is the opposite of what considers his ten..

I just dont get it and i would really appreciate an honest answer not nice comments

Thanks guys!

[Rawrzz]

Hooohooo. An honest answer. I'm drooling already.

Maddam. Do you have a vagina? Guys have more like preferences, rather than a 'type'. As long as you're not butt-ugly (which you are faaaaaaaaaaaaar from, incidentally), we will tap that and love that and ect. ect.

In addition, guys aren't really so different from women in the aspect that love really does make someone more attractive. Perhaps he might prefer different traits, but the thing that makes sex great is the connection that two people share--more so than specific physical qualities. Of course, there is a bottom line requirement for physical attraction, and if you didn't meet his, then he wouldn't be sleeping with you.

Take my ex, she wasn't the most beautiful woman in the world. (And frankly, chances are that any guy would be astoundingly tempted if they were offered sex from Natalie Portman or Kate Beckinsale or some other ridiculously hot lady--and they would physically prefer them). And, while she was beautiful, she wasn't smoking hot. I told her as much (bad idea, btw--obviously, right--when she asked why I left a different--hotter--girl for her), but that I loved her more. Plain and simple.

So yes, he probably finds other women more physically appealing (don't you find other guys more physically appealing? It's biology. Think about the hottest guy celebrity, Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp, whomever.

Off topic, I would suggest visiting a therapist. No offense--there's absolutely nothing wrong with going to see one (or try out different ones until you get someone you like or actually helps you), and any and everyone could gain something from it. These feelings of insecurity could be addressed--especially if this is an ongoing or recurrent factor in your life.

[Rawrzz]

I'll end with the most depressing, callously truthful thing I can think of. He wants to fuck other girls. He REALLY wants to fuck the hottest girl he can find. Of course, he may not consciously; or, he may love you so much that he restrains himself--but, that biological urge is there, powerful and screaming at him to spread as many swimmers as he possibly can.

The same is true of women. Always on the lookout (consciously or no) of a trade-up, or someone that would be a better father or a more successful man or more attractive. No? Possibly not you! It's just our biology. Females are programmed to find the absolute best possible male that can provide attractive children and care for them in the way that they think is best. Of course, some women don't want kids, but the drive is still there.

Making peace with this and enjoying your time together is the best thing to do, imo. Don't freak yourself out about what could happen.

[Rawrzz]

What of lesbians, you say? There are exceptions where that drive is manipulated or covered up. These are usually things that happen during childhood. The absence of a father or mother, the father/mother instilling such ideals in them, a genetic defect or alteration, a traumatic event, ect. ect. But, for most people these things ring true, even if they don't want to believe it.

[InquisitiveMale]

We as men indulge in a great many sexual interests and are never tied down to any one physical attribute or set of attributes. He may like big boobs and a round ass, but he can just as easily appreciate smaller perky boobs and a small firm ass.

You're simply being insecure and worrying about things that do not actually matter. You can of course make it matter, but it will be your own doing that brings about an issue. In dating you he has said he doesn't care and is happy with your appearance.

Accept this or don't.

[justbeinghonest]

Because he fell for you. I like guys that have a beard like that has always been my standard for me to like a guy. However my bf shaves basically every day. Sometimes looks is secondary when you meet that special person.
He finds you attractive for sure, maybe not his typical girl. But he definitely thinks you're a total babe.

[emzy-89]

Because there is more to life and a relationship than getting your ultimate physical fantasy partner. I've found with myself that many of the men I've found myself really attracted to have been the ones who don't fit what I would call my 'type'

[Scarecrow13]

You can have a type, that doesn't mean that is the type you will ultimately end up with. The fact that you aren't the body type he says he prefers should tell you that he loves you more than just being superficially attracted to your body. Be glad he is there for you and don't try to change to please him.

[tjsthysys]

He probably likes their physical appearance more than anything else. But there nust be a reason why he chose you over the many curvy women out there. He likes you for who you are, and don't change yourself because of what he likes. Stay strong, do some squats, he will love you metter what, for who you are :)

[blondfrog]

Because you have a hot face not a nice comment truly being honest you are really attractive. And curves and butt it something you could gain maybe he thinks you will gain curves later on in life and a nice butt lol.

[Anonymous]

I refer redheads, but I'm "dating" a blonde. Sometimes, it's what's on the inside that matters. Besides, he probably doesn't care... all women are beautiful no matter