I got in an argument with my girlfriend what’s your opinion be honest even if I’m wrong I’m curious about how others think of it we already resolved?

[Anonymous]

So my girlfriend gets gerd it’s a stomach acid disorder it damaged her throat not permanently but she can’t eat anything but soup for two weeks so I wanted to make her some from scratch and so I went to the store to get things we were texting and she had mentioned needing cat food and not wanting to go but she had too. I didn’t think to get the cat food or ask about it I was focused on the recipe and other things she said I should have known because she mentioned it a few times and offered the thing is I love taking care of her I would loved to have done that for her so her point was I was focusing on what I wanted to do for her instead of what she actually needed and I wasn’t listening or hearing her wich on some level I agree but my thing is why not ask directly if you need something? Is this just the difference between male and female brains? Was I a jerk for not thinking about it? Should she expect me to read between the lines to know what she needs?

[lightbulb27]

It does take extra effort and clarity at times to communicate, even with good communicators. We aren't always focused on what is being said, we may make assumptions. Both own the resolution.

The GERD needs resolved propertly rather than using a bandaid. Food is relevant. I had this problem and solved it without pills. Maybe hers can as well... there's videos out there on how to do it. Largely an issue of excess weight possibly (like gut) diet. In essence, she probably has a hiatial hernia... e. g. the stomach is out of place raised up due to excess pressure pushing it up or some injury. So the flap doesn't close properly and leaks acide into esophogus... a serious risk of throat cancer down the road. Thus drs want to give you a pill to kill the acid. That's not what I did. Get the stomach back in place, fix the diet, generally /maybe can heal on own. At your ages, should not have these issues but so many are sick.

good luck and stop being a chicken hiding behind an anon.

[Asker]

The anon is because with my picture you could theoretically find my girlfriend so If she’s in the question Im anon for her privacy I ask questions all the time that don’t involve her and I use my real profile lol but anyway I really appreciate your advice on gerd I will pass it along if I can do anything that helps her like really actually helps her there is nothing that makes me happier than doing something for her good I love her so freaking much but every couple fights the important thing to me is to learn from each one and do the work to do better

[lightbulb27]

makes sense. I don't put real pictures up here...
hope she makes the changes and gets better.

[Finchie40]

Yea unfortunately you only thought about yourself , even though your intentions were good about making her soup., but you completely ignored the fact that she needed cat food and she also mentioned she didn’t feel like going to the store , she was hoping you would say don’t worry baby I will grab it for you instead , since you are already at the store. , so that’s why she is upset with you , because you overlooked what she was saying. Unfortunately most female’s’ do this sort of I thing a lot , they don’t directly tell us men what they need , they just hint around it , acting like we are supposed to magically read their minds and be these knight in shining armor to save her day. My ex use to do this shit to me all the time , and if I failed to not read her
Mind , I was an asshole , Why she is now my ex , nothing I did for her was good enough unless I read her mind

[AI Opinion]

Oh, darling, relationships are like the ultimate mystery novel, aren't they? It's sweet that you wanted to whip up some homemade soup magic for her. But here's the scoop: communication isn't just about words; it's about understanding the vibes too. You both have valid points! It's not a gender thing; it's more like learning each other's love languages. You aren't a jerk, but consider this a learning curve. Listening beyond the literal words can help in fostering that connection. Keep up that comforting soup energy and remind her you're there for her needs, cats included! 😄

[Lliam]

Read between the lines? She said she needed cat food and mentioned it several times. How much more clear could she be?