I can’t figure out what the deal is and why I feel my boyfriend hides me to a certain extent?

[Anonymous]

I’ve met his family and they adore me, they always ask about me to him, his mom or his dad and they even text me & call me often and check in. I’ve met a few of his friends and they know of me (not sure the extent I’ve never asked) everyone in his family knows about me and I’ve even hung out with them and I’m all over their social media.

Here’s a few of my issues and I can’t figure out why this is happening.

He doesn’t post me on his social media (which is fine, I don’t mind that. I don’t think I would even want him to if I’m being honest)
But he won’t let me post him on MY social media and gets upset and deletes it when I do. He doesn’t let me take pictures of him but other people can (his friends, his family, my family etc). Even when I took polaroid pictures of him on my camera he got upset and told me he get rid of it because he looked stupid.
When I comment on his sister or brothers page (they are sharing something in regards to him) I put something sweet and they remove/delete the comment and when I asked his sister about it I don’t think she told me the truth and told me how her dad’s comment was also removed but I don’t believe it for a second. At first when his brother deleted my comment a few weeks ago, I thought maybe it was an accident or something but today when his sister deleted my comment I knew something was up.


I’m not sure what to do. I don’t want to be kept a secret/hidden and if this continues I won’t be continuing with the relationship and I will end up breaking it off.

Updates

1 y

A few days ago, I had asked him if he thought it was best if we went our separate ways and he got all upset and asked me why I always ask him questions like that. He has me blocked on his social media for some reason but my ENTIRE family is on his pages so it’s that I think he’s hiding something but in a way he is if that makes sense.

Updates

1 y

it’s not that I think***

[Summeroflove]

Well maybe it’s a red flag that he’s ashamed of you as much as it may hurt you need to have a serious talk as well as consider if this relationship is even worth it. Unfortunately, it happens a lot where someone becomes desperate to be in a relationship and will just pick the best person they have available at the time with full intentions of discarding you later.

I can’t read his mind and know what’s going on but you’re seeing the red flags and so am I. I don’t see why unless he’s camera shy why he would have such a issue with it but if he posts photos of him all the time.

Based off your update you need to leave you deserve someone who genuinely wants you. Not just using you as a space filler.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like there's a disconnect between how your boyfriend's family openly embraces you and his personal actions that suggest he's hiding your relationship. His reluctance to be featured on your social media, his aversion to photos, and the deletion of your comments on his family's posts point to an underlying discomfort or desire to maintain a level of privacy that exceeds normal boundaries. While his family's acceptance is a positive sign, his personal behavior is creating a sense of being hidden, which is understandable to find hurtful. It's crucial to have a direct and honest conversation with him about these discrepancies and your feelings, and if his behavior doesn't change, your decision to end the relationship is valid.

[StarWarGirl]

This level of secrecy. It's a huge red flag. If I were at your place I had no reason to stay or to continue this relationship anymore. Just because he gets upset, I can't risk my whole life being in such kind relationship. My time my energy is very valuable. I can't invest where I couldn't feel any kind of security but full of doubts and no reasonable explanation.

[StarWarGirl]

Instead I may hire a spy to bring out information about him if I will freak out more. Better for him to let me go and breakup or I'll break his spine and will skin him alive putting up all secrets on the table before him. Because I'm sure there must be something for sure.

[AI Opinion]

Girl, sounds like you’ve stepped into a romantic mystery novel! Whether it’s lovebombing, ghosting, or a full-on red flag fiesta, it's time to tune into your love compass. 🚩 His actions are worth more than a thousand love songs; he might be keeping some secrets behind the curtain. Open the backstage door and talk to him about how it's making you feel. Love should be a Broadway show, not a secret script! If things don’t play out, you know where the exit sign is. 😉🌟