Why do girls like guys who abuse them?

[Anonymous]

Are they attracted to it and do they like to be p**** whipped or what?

[Yeahhbro]

I wouldn't say all of them, but I would say around 60% of women are messed up in the head. Its all about daddy issues man, maybe their dad was an asswhole too and this is what they like, or maybe he didn't give them enough attention or wasn't very nurturing or was cold. So since they grew up with that, that is the man they are looking for, a cold and abusive jerk, because that is the prototipical men that they grew up with, its dumb as f***, but that is how it is.

The other 40% are girls that grew up with caring, nurturing and loving fathers, maybe they spoiled them a lot too, but they grew up with fathers that love them a lot. Usually these women end up with very good men, because they are smart enough and also because their parents advise them as well on who to date or not, because they care for the welfare of their girl. My sister was somebody that grew up with a very loving father, and guess what? Her boyfriend loves her too much, he is a very nice guy and hard worker, he is happy guy too, never boring at all, I like the guy a lot too. I am glad he is her boyfriend, because I see a lot of messed up relationships all the time, either she is a cheater or likes dumb asses or he is a cheater and doesn't treat her well.

Good girls are hard to come with, I still have to find a good girl and just because you are shy, it doesn't mean you are good either, shy girls are messed up as well, with a lot of fears from the future that made them that way, I am not saying that they are all like that, but if a girl is disfunctional that she cannot keep a conversation or talk to me, then there is something wrong with her.

Yet there is also the media, that teaches girls that guys are supossed to be like guys from Jersey Shore and they are not as bad as the narcissists I see every f***ing day.

Yeah man to date, I only find flakes or girls that respond to indiference. Its hard to find a good girl.

[Drake742]

Girls don't like guys that abuse them, it is a very sick and pervese relationship that develops between them. The guy starts out nice, then isolates her from her circle of friends and family, he degrades and lowers her selfesteem till her selfworth is dependent on him, he abuses her, and plays sick emotional head games with love and fear. He says things to her like I love you, or I will kill myself if you leave me. The interaction between someone in an abusive relationship and their abuser is sick and perverse. I trully do feel for girls or anyone for that matter who is in an abusive relationship. The abuse in the relationship does not only contain a physical component but an emotional, verbal and or financial one. They control them, and their movements.

Please don't say things like that, I understand how you could have made that mistake seeing as they don't usually leave the abusive relationship immediately. But now that you know, please keep that in mind.

[SparkstheTalent]

Hold on, first off, no girl that I've ever known, has wanted to like a guy after he has intentionally abused her. Maybe you've never been that abusive guy in a relationship, but here's the first thing you should know; they don't come off as abusive or hurtful when we first start dating them. Obviously, if they were that way at first, we wouldn't date them. Secondly, it's not that a girl actually wants to stay in the abusive relationships she's in. Guys who are physically, emotionally, and mentally abusive, will break your confidence down if you don't realize what's going on. They'll make it so you feel intimidated by them. They'll have you thinking it's all your fault and from there, you won't want them to leave (if it's your fault of course, you'll want to fix it ). So no, we aren't attracted to guys who are literally abusive, they play mind games and break down our self esteem to the point of believing everything they say and doing what they want to please them.

[Whistling_Dixie]

You are so right!

[pr3ttybr0wn]

don't generalize. girls who like guys who abuse them have psychological problems. however, majority of abusive men start out very charming and nice, they only begin abusing them once the woman has become attached and fallen in love. I've never been in an abusive kind of relationship but I know that they start out very subtly and they target a certain type of women who will be receptive for it. guys with these type of dysfunctions have a radar for women with certain issues that make them vulnerable to him.

BTW masculinity and abuse are totally different things! I feel like the definition of masculinity has been distorted. most abusive guys are punk ass bitches, they'll hit women but won't stand up to a man of equal or greater size. they are bullies plain and simple

[MrsJones7]

because women like masculine men. We get attracted to them and if their masculinity comes with a good mouth and good sex game we are hooked. No abusive man comes off as an abusive man at first. He just comes off a little superior and controlling which most women like subconsciously. By the time the woman sees his true colors its kind of too late

[bellybuttonlint]

That is true what you say. Women don't see the guy as abusive at first...then when the women is hooked, it's too late.

But it's not like many people will feel sorry for the women in any case.

[MrsJones7]

yeah I know.. it takes a few bad relationships and would-be relationships before a woman can see the red flags all along. A woman plays herself a little, gets played by a few, gets dogged by a few then she LEARNS.

[Yeahhbro]

I don't think so, not all women like men like that.

[Whistling_Dixie]

Sadly you are right. I know a woman who have 2 kids with a man who constantly put her ( and the children, for that matter) down at all times and she thought that he is " great". What else she could think! I didn't have the heart to tell her what's what so I leave her alone. "Masculine" men? The ones who belittle and put everyone down is anything BUT masculine. Masculine my ass!

[ROTFLMFAO]

wow, what a retard you are. men who abuse women are not masculine. they are cowards. only weak sissy boys feel the need to abuse women (to make themselves feel better/feel more manly). it's pathetic. real men compete with other men/don't prey on the weak.

[MrsJones7]

Rotflmao you are the retarded one since you can comprehend an English sentence. I didn't say abusive men equal masculine men. They just come off masculine and a little controlling at first and that's wtf most women like deepdown. If a sex offender comes off as a sex offender what women would let him be around her kids? They conceal it well. All kinds of abusers conceal it well but they all come off masculine.

[ROTFLMFAO]

Intelligent women are able to read those kind of men. You're simply too retarded. The abuser who acts manly and tough (coward who preys on the weak) is nothing but an insecure little sissy boy. I can see right through those kind of guys/smell their insecurity. A guy who comes off superior (to girls) isn't masculine. Just because he's able to control weak females, it doesn't mean he's superior and manly. Those kind of guys act tough around women cause they can't compete with real men.

[ROTFLMFAO]

You have the mindset of a naive 14 year old. Insecure wannabe tough guys come off as manly, because you are unable to see through them. You are fascinated by the "bad boy" who acts overly macho and controlling (in reality he's just a wannabe trying to get your attention). You are attracted to the cocky yet weak man who feels the need to prey on the weak in order to boost his ego. Real men don't feel the need to show how manly they are. They don't have a controlling/i-am-superior-attitude.

[Asker]

It comes off to where nice guys end up getting depressed then abusive guys get the girls and girls get stuck in some sick weird cirlcle then all the other girls end up being lesbians then you have a bunch of single fat girls and nice single men. I see it all the time and it's all the women's fault because they are manuipulative, selfish and materialistic.

[Hazel-Nutty]

im not sure why, I neevr go for the nice guy and frankly I don't no why, I enevr wanted to be in a comitment and with an arshole I gues I subcouisouisly knew I could easily get out of it, I mean I like it rough in bed to which abusive guys tend to be, but I've never let a guy hit me outside the bedroom or anything

[Anonymous]

Usually its a self worth issue. The girl has a self esteem issue. She unconsciously chooses a man who reinforces or reassures her beliefs about herself. The ones who stay in it either have extremely low self worth, or stay for other reasons outside the relationship, or believe his lies and manipulation, or think he will change if they love him out of it, or have kids, or are in fear he will kill her if she leaves.

[studmuffin-perfect10]

because for every smack comes flower,candy then a crap load of cash after.

[mira001]

@studmuffin-perfect10 wtf dude?

[Codey]

Because some girls are stupid.. OR desperate!

Society cuts scorching stigma to the men being ''desperate'' when looking for a woman...

...but when a woman is ready to TOLERATE ABUSE - it's a flashing red warning: "desperation!"

[LightUp]

Some women like those players because of there body and there quickmouth. They women get attracted to the sh*t that most people hate...mainly because of there stupid. But don't worry because this isn't the case for many women.

[FierceMegan]

Not sure what theory it is, but it's like girls who like older guys because they had crap fathers. Well, guys who have overbearing moms usually end up with overbearing women.

[WeapMyself2sleep]

my dad wasn't around and my mom and older sister were overbearing so it would be a comfort zone plus I'm not really man enough for the average girl

[FierceMegan]

Yea, because they took your manhood away.

[darlanoy0510]

I don't think they like it period. It's the love that the girl have for the guy but sad thing men don't change. There are women who abuse men too not just guys.

[Chrissy1986]

its a sub consious thing that usally has to do with daddy issues, not all of us like abusive jerks

[studmuffin-perfect10]

so if I hit a girl she'll go out with me?

[mira001]

@studmuffin-perfect10 no.

[Sublime21]

It's a weird want to be controlled and be the perfect wife or girlfriend

[secondbestkiller]

Well there are usually some massive control and manipulation issues in abusive relationships.

[ihatetakingcharge]

they love drama, love to discuss and talk about it with their female friends

[studmuffin-perfect10]

because for every smack comes flower,candy then a crap load of cash after.