Why do girls like guys who treat them bad?

Question

A topical a**hole.

Jessica1810 · Accepted Answer

Say we are talking about players. Players approach women, know how to talk to them and make them feel good about themselves. No woman thinks: "he has lots of girls, let me date him"... players are great at disguising their womanizing ways (in the beginning). Nice guys tend to be shyer, it's not that women don't want these guys, it's just that women have been conditioned not to make the first move - and the guys just don't create chance for themselves, I don't blame them, it's horrendous putting yourself up for rejection like that - but it's equally pointless to blame women.

Also.. put it this way... you're a nice guy now... but if you were super confident and all the girls wanted you - would you resist it on principle? Would you shrug them off for one woman?

The true test of a nice guy is a guy who can get the girls and chooses to be faithful. And these type of guys don't have to wonder why assholes get girls.

madmisskelly · Accepted Answer

I definitely don't like to be treated like crap.

Sometimes that douchebag attitude doesn't come out right away and we feel like he's a nice guy and a good guy. Then when his bad attitude does come out, we may not notice it, we may brush it off as him being in a bad mood, or we try to understand what's going on. Quite frankly, some girls just focus more on the positive than his negative aspects of his personality- even though you should focus on it ALL. So a girl may realize that he can be a jerk, but then think "well he can be soooooo sweet though!" or "He can be sooooo thoughtful." So they tend to forget how rude he can be.

latinabeautyy13 · Accepted Answer

i don't like being treated so bad that it hurts my feelings.. but sometimes, I like wen he's kinda demanding or like tells me what to do like ( go make me a sandwich , go get me a beer...wanna suck my cock) LOL... because its just a attraction to him being a man. and I wanna do what he says and take care of him. I know my answer must b like.. weird.

jtj25m · Accepted Answer

They don't. Many women like a challenge, and prefer a guy that will give them one. Some even prefer a 'fixer-upper' But nobody truly wants someone that will be an (_o_) Any time you see someone with such a person, it is because that (_o_) didn't act as such to begin with. They allowed the other person to become attracted to an enamored with the fascade they put on, then allow their true self to come out. At which point the other person has a hard time believing that is them, and letting them go. They make excuses for them, because they are under the impression who they pretended to be in the first place is who they really are. Quite sad.

enrique_av8r · Accepted Answer

Not sure that aholes are what women are attracted to as much as guys who are cocky/leaderish/confident/alpha-like.  Basically non-wussy like. Not that women are always weak, but if a woman is actually attracted to wuss behavior, then she is suspect of not being hetero in my book.  Mostly, a woman's DNA wants a man to be dominant in the relationship regardless of what women might say about equality.   Women's attraction to a man is NOT a choice on their part.  It's a deeply ingrained dna nature-thing.  It's just the way God made them.  (Not calling anyone a wuss here, just pointing out my own observation of women's nature).

ArizonaRX · Answer

In my experience with girls that "seem" to gravitate to guys that treat them badly, is mostly because at some point in their childhood they dealt with a sh*tty father figure who treated her badly or her mother badly. It's what they know and stick to. God forbid they get with a guy that treats them good. They are always too afraid to have a good thing because they never think it will last or is too good to be true.

Esther_Greenwood · Answer

It's kind of a Catch 22 situation actually.

Girls like projects. Fixer-upers, if you will. Someone who will be inspired to reform for them.

It's insane, I know. Yet, sadly, so deeply ingrained in society

And I really hope you meant *typical a-hole...because topical a-hole is just very unpleasant sounding.

girly05 · Answer

Because me personally I like some of my guys to be a jerk to me...Only because I think I can change them..And because my father is a jerk to my mother so growing up with that I think that, that's how guys are suppose to be.

and ilk why but I really don't like the whole "lovey dovey" thing ALL the time...But that's just me=)

mikewnaz · Answer

i think cause they want to change that guy into the better looking guy who they manicured into what they want when the nice guy in most cases isn't as good looking...its a lost cause and as a result most women hate men and think were all jerks. if anyone wants could you check out and answer my latest question as it is kinda similar

kandyluv · Answer

it's not necessarily that girls like guys who treat them bad, it's just that in some casses, some guys, they really know how to lure girls to thinking they are the sweetest most romantic people on earth, even after they have just done something really bad or hurtful. and the truth is... girls fall for it

they just have a way of making themselves look innocent again, and again.

effrubberduckies · Answer

Girls are used to guys trying super hard to get with them. So when they find someone that doesn't give them the time of day they're not used to it and that automatically makes it look like the guy is getting with smarter, better looking girls &they wanna feel like they compare so they'll fight for his attention

Reeses-pieces777 · Answer

Girls don't like assholes unless they don't have experience or they don't care.

Generally guys who are assholes should ideally change to be non-assholes but in this world, there's good and bad people.

The best way for girls who have a tendency to date the wrong people is to take a break and think about who they really want to date.

Dating assholes suck and in the end, no one wants to date an asshole. Not all girls do this.

xobrowneyedbeauty · Answer

We aren't all like that. The ones who are tend to be just worried they'll never find someone else who wants them so they settle. I personally think there are many more bad guys than good guys and the good ones are either taken or too shy or don't care about having a girlfriend.

Confused_Me · Answer

Not all of the girls like that. .

the thing is boys are not bad on first date, after sometimes they show who they really are and sometimes it's too late to let them go because of feelings. So not all the girls choose to have a bad guy in their life. But that's a fact that some women like bad boys because they like challenges.

Anonymous · Answer

I never understood that but now I do! I personally think it's because as women we are always trying to prove ourselves to people.. it's sad really.. we always want to be pretty enough because society tells us that our value depends on our appearance... and when a guy treats us like we are the best and then the next second they treat us like we either don't exist or treat us like crap, we feel like we have to prove that we are good enough to have them!

Anonymous · Answer

for some reason I REALLY like that too. it makes me think of them more. I don't typically like the sweet sensitive guy, but there's exepsions, sometimes I like the nice ones. BUT for me if your an ass hole nd not great looking it doesn't work, I like hott ass holes! its weird but I can show more of my peronality with them too, like playing around nd be mean too eachothr.

idk if you understand. but an example for me is like hyde from that 70s show! the perfect asshole/nice guy! <3

Anonymous · Answer

No offense intended, but usually girls with the right ideas about how men should behave will not tolerate bad boys as partners, or tolerate bad behavior.

Girls who let guys mess with their minds in this manner usually have some deep-seated issue of some sort, even if they are like perfect in every other way.

katrenshaw · Answer

no one likes to be treated bad that's forshure.

but the reason why we stick around tho is because it drives us nuts that we can't have what we want. its the same reason why guys like a chase in a girl..

Littletad · Answer

Sometimes those girls have psychological issues. They could be "controlled" by their boyfriend through manipulative and harmful words. And sometimes they can feel trapped, or even too scared to leave them for fear of what they might do.

Anonymous · Answer

we don't.

usually in situations of verbal abuse, it's because the girl has very low self confidence. she feels she deserves better, but won't leave the guy because she's afraid no one else will want her. it's sad

Benson01 · Answer

Because assholes know how to mess with girls emotions  they know how to get in a girls head, confuse them and drive them crazy.

sporadic · Answer

because they know how to treat a girl how to compliment a girl and they give great sex. you can tell by the way they kiss you. the assholes have got it all.

Anonymous · Answer

girls like guys like that usually because they like the way they look and always look at it as if she can can see the side of him that no one else gets to see. also, when girls don't feel wanted, it makes them wanted more.

jennielovexD · Answer

good question because its true girls like a challenge they don't want a guy who they know will be there anyday and anytime because they well they will just take advantage of them

Neckty · Answer

Girls are brought up thinking that if a boy hits you, he likes you. It makes no sense at all but it's what we grew up knowing

soslin711 · Answer

Hmm... a topical asshole... is that some kind of asshole cream that you rub on yourself?

lonelysadguy · Answer

CAUSE GIRLS ARE STUPID... THEY "GIRLS PREFURR THE POWERFUL RICH "LION KINGS" AND NOT THE CUDDLY SOFT POOR RABBIT THAT GETS EATEN UP...I GUESS

manalkil · Answer

bad boys, have this thing about them that they make us attach onto them and then its hard to leave them!

cluessM · Answer

Girls do not date guys for who they are, only by the way they act... It's a sad and pathetic truth that they all deny

xoxkellilynn · Answer

I'm a girl. & if a guy ever treated me bad I'd punch his throat.

leek4523 · Answer

No, Why would you think any girl would? Nobody I've ever known likes that kind of guy.

Shugawood · Answer

Because most girls think they can change a guy.Or don't think they deserve better.

mz_NoMoreDrama · Answer

its not that we like men that treat us bad  its just that being in love with that person its hard to let go. but  wen you do let go we realize he wasn't the right one

hannah-montana · Answer

most of them don't like being treated like that ! you can't just have ur boyfriend treat you like you are a peice of meat and if I had a boyfriend like that I wood udmp his a$$

angelayachinski18 · Answer

well,its like this when a guy treats a girl bad she thinks he don't like her but she wants him to like her so she keeps be in with them even though they are ass's,its confusing

Anonymous · Answer

I DON'T

Anonymous · Answer

THEY DON'T

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