Is it normal that I just love playing with the back of my girlfriend's bra?

[Anonymous]

By the title the question may sound silly, and maybe it is. And if I have to ask it's probably not normal. But anyway. I'm in my 20s, so is my girlfriend. She's two years older than me. I've literally never had a girlfriend until her, so to me it feels like a literal dream to be with a woman. And since I know so little about women she's basically been teaching me about all about how her life is like is a woman.

But one day I was watching TV with her. I had my hand on her upper back. I lowered my hand a little, and then suddenly I encountered the back of her bra. I began playing with it. For some reason I just found it amusing. I had no intentions of taking it off or anything, I just literally liked to play with it. And at first she was like "if you're trying to take off my bra then please stop." And then I told her I just simply liked to play with it. And then she just laughed and let it happen literally the whole rest of the day.

No idea why I'm so intrigued by her bra. Maybe it's the fact that as a man boobs and bras are something I have no experience with, foreign things, so maybe I find it fascinating because it's different? Not sure.

I'm also pretty autistic and act way younger than I am, and get easily amused by small random things. With her bra it's almost like I'm a small child playing with keys. Compared to most people in their 20s, even those younger than me, I feel like a child.

Luckily my girlfriend gets all this and doesn't mind me playing with her bra all the time. And she's one of the rare women who wears a bra literally all the time (even sleeping) except for showering. So even when sleeping I still get to do it. Lol.

All of this probably isn't normal. But I'm just wondering how weird exactly it is.

[Anonymous]

Usually it means a guy wants to feel my boobs so I will take off my bra if I want him to or ask him to stop if I don't. And that was mostly in middle school or high school. But guys who have already felt my boobs or more aren't really interested in my bra.

[Asker]

How are people finding this old post? Not a bad thing, I always love responses, just curious, lol.

But yeah. That makes sense. For most guys besides myself it's basically all about the boobs and none about the bras. And most guys actually except for myself actually highly prefer for women to go braless altogether, I think.

[DishLady]

Try not to think of this in terms of "normal" -- if you both enjoy this playful gesture and consent to it then you're fine.

[Asker]

Haha, yeah. Thanks for your response. That's the best approach to anything, really. Best to not worry about what "normal" is. Normal is a more or less subjective thing, that also varies from area to area. What's considered normal in one country might not be in another country. Or even in a smaller scale, from neighborhood to neighborhood.

Thanks for your more mature response rather than Anonymous female age 30-35's response who basically just insulted me and told me to grow up. Even if she's not entirely wrong, it was still framed as an insult.

[DishLady]

(Don’t feed the trolls… there are a lot on here.)

Thanks for MHO.

Yes it’s def subjective.

[Asker]

Yeah, haha. The internet in general has a lot of trolls on all platforms. Some of them are banned, thankfully. But others are able to get past the mods and admins, unfortunately.

And no problem, haha. Definitely liked your response.

And yeah, a good deal of things in life are subjective, haha. Personal tastes or opinions on any matter are all subjective. Objective is more math or chemistry or planets. But I'd even go as far as to say most things are subjective.

[Anonymous]

Nah sounds like fun! I wouldn't mind my boyfriend playing with my bra straps and i too sleep in it. Don't worry if you're both liking it its great

[Asker]

Kind of surprised people are finding all of my old posts all of a sudden, not just this one, several other posts of mine that are at least a few months old. Also funny how you and another anonymous female 18-24 left a response at the same time. NOT a bad thing though! Just surprised!

Anyway, thanks for your response! Yes, it IS indeed very fun! :D Interesting to see another woman who also sleeps in her bra just like my girlfriend. And glad you wouldn't mind it if your boyfriend was into it. ^_^

[Anonymous]

You are too immature to have a girlfriend. Stick with the finger puppets for now.

[Asker]

While that's a low-key kind of assholeish response, or maybe even high-key depending on who you ask, I can't even really be too mad because you're not exactly wrong.

In general I have always been extremely immature for my age even as a kid. At 2 years old I acted like I was 8 months old. At 8 years old I acted like I was 4. At 12 I acted like I was 6. At 18 I acted like I was 12.

For where I currently am now (20s) I don't know exactly what age I act like, but likely less than 20s at least for sure. Probably at most 18 or 19.

[In_Trance]

Clearly you haven't tried playing with her boobs

[Asker]

Well to be more clear we have had sex before and still do. Not super often as we both have generally low libidos, but once or twice a week or so. Lol.

During sex I play with her boobs. But she doesn't like to do horny shit outside of sex. She says it's important to have non-sexual fun as well, and that she keeps sexual and non-sexual contexts separate. And I am perfectly fine with this. Though it can be kind of tempting for a moment or so when she bends over and there's cleavage or something similar.