Humble me. MARRIED Men, what are the annoying or irritating things your Wife does?

[oh_hellchloebelle]

Don't hold back. Leaving hair in the drain? Talking with the phone on speaker for gossip time? Addiction to psychologically unhinged soap operas?

I don't have many female friends because women tend to bug the crud out of me. I was thinking about it and realized, "OH, crap, I do annoying things too!" and I'd like to have a realistic self-view. Petty things, big things, anything really.

No judgment here, I just want honest perspectives and opinions so I can measure my annoying-ness against them and make suitable alterations. Like, don't cuss because I am still a damn lady, but speak freely. Please?

[Finchie40]

When I was with my wife , things were great between us for a long time because we were on the same page with everything , until she decided to be selfish one day and ruin our marriage , Sadly her selfishness annoyed the shit out of me , because she only started thinking about herself and what she thought was best for herself , to the point , I was no longer a priority in her life , her friends’ started to become more of a priority to her then me , which was a big red flag to me , because she never chose her friends over me , but her new so called friends’ met she met , weren’t friends’ whatsoever , they were toxic friends’ because they were recently divorced , and trying to pull my wife away from me as much as possible , like they all of a sudden controlled her and she fell into their trap , it was sadly pathetic to witness , So word of advice , never choose your friends’ over your partner , if you want your marriage to last , I also hated when my wife would tell her friends everything about our personal issues , I hated her for that. There is just some things you keep between you and your spouse and no one else period. I also started hating the fact that she only wanted intimacy and affection on her terms , so our sex life went to shit as well , because it turned one sided , she only wanted sex , when it was convenient for her , but never when I was in the mood , unfortunately that was never an issue before with us but it became an issue. That’s when our marriage fell apart , when she decided to be selfish and only cared about herself and she no longer included me in anything , Her girlfriends’ would invite her on trips and vacations , making sure I was t invited and my wife instantly excluded me , which right there I knew was a huge red flag , but little did my wife realize I was on to her bullshit and told her to go have a blast with your so called friends’ because I am going to go do the same , she didn’t like that whatsoever which cracked me up , so I told her , it’s ok for you to go away on vacations without me , but not ok if I go without you on vacations with my friends’? How’s that make sense? I told her she needs to wake the fuck up because I am not staying in a marriage with a girl that doesn’t want to experience things together , what is even the point of being married to each other. if we aren’t going to travel together and experience new things together. I said your friends’ are way more important then I am so go be with your friends’ because , I want a divorce. She cried for me back and I told her No fucking way , you had your chance and you chose to ignore every word I told you, so now I am ignoring you. Pack your shit and Get the fuck out of my life. I don’t care if you are cheating on me , or flirting with other guys’ because you no longer matter to me period. She ended up leaving while begging for me to give her another chance , I said I need some friend time myself so Good bye , Eventually I met another girl that treated me like Gold that treated me a 1000 times better then my wife did and my wife wasn’t even a thought after o met this girl. I was walking on clouds and things were amazing between us for a good 6 months until her husband knocked on my door lol , Story of my life , My wife and I are still legally married and she wants to work things out with me , but unfortunately I don’t have the same feelings for her anymore , So we are just friends and she swears she hasn’t cheated on me , but she knows I been screwing other girls’ and still wants me back? I don’t know what I am going to do to be honest

[Lliam]

I guess the biggest thing is, she tends to set stuff down on every available surface - the dining table, the kitchen island and counters - and leave them there. She even hangs clothes over the edge of the bath tub, on the backs of chairs, and on the dresser. I think she thinks she'll just set something down for a minute, but they gets busy and forgets about them.
Instead of putting things away, they will accumulate. Then, every once in a while, she'll go on a spree, putting everything where it belongs and making the place neat and tidy which, by then, is a lot of work.

The other thing is, she'll use things and not put them back where they belong. So, when I go to look for them, I can't find them.

We've been married for over 28 years. I've talked to her about that a lot. I've complained from time to time. She has made some improvements in her habits, but is incapable of changing her habits completely.
In her mind, she says that she's too busy. But the real reason is, she's not in the moment. Her mind is moving on to the next thing before she finishes what she is doing.

I gave up trying to change her. In reality, she is a busy bee. She's always on the go with several different projects. And she cleans, vacuums, etc. Bustle, bustle, bustle. It's not like she's lazy at all. She's just sort of chaotic.

[Leonardo_Di_Vinci]

Well I dont know about others and i am also not married.

But if you ever have a problem tell us when we ask for the first time rather than fucking up our mood, making us beg you to tell us what the problem is , this will then lead to not getting the response you deserve because you wasted our effort making us beg to tell whats wrong.

Never ever use something he told you against him in an argument or to degrade him.

And, let go of things easily rather than sticking up to them forever.

[oh_hellchloebelle]

I hate that doofus sex fiend twat da Vinci so I hate your user name, just FYI. thanks for the other insights however!

[Leonardo_Di_Vinci]

I made this account 2 years ago. Now I've been finding means to change username, I returned today and found it weird, too 😂

[OneViewpoint]

Aside from being totally asexual and fucked in the head by Catholicism...

> Using sex as a weapon (or trying, LOL).

> Never taking accountability for anything. Running away from personal responsibility.

> Just assuming I will do all the heavy lifting when it comes to learning new things and making everything work.

> Never bothering to educate herself about the world around her. History, politics, economics. I got tired of explaining how everything works. I wanted to talk to an adult.

> Never being able to let anything go. Arguments were remembered for life. Every slight, perceived or real, and every screwup was there for instant recall 20 years later.

> Nagging. Tell me once. I'll take care of it on my time line, not yours.

I finally decided she added too little value to my life and too much aggravation.

[Ariesman81]

And show you where the buttons are? Learn where they are like the rest of us.

[MasterKS]

I am not married but i saw most of married are totally frustrated.

[jahaims]

My wife's not an idiot so she doesn't annoy me.

[Jay-_-]

Not married and won't be anytime soon.