Have you ever been in love with someone you know you can't be with?

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It's such a heartbreaking feeling to fall in love with someone you can't be with. Maybe it was bad timing, distance, or circumstances beyond your control. I'd love to hear how you handled it, did you move on, stay friends, or keep it to yourself?

14gurlz2gagonit · Accepted Answer

Maybe it was bad timing, distance, or circumstances beyond my control and each has happened to me many of times. Doing 2 or 3 hookers every day for a month puts it behind me.

If you want a story, then it's my 14 year old girlfriend, and we've been fucking for years. She just turned 15 and my birthday was next... I lived in california at the time and I was turning 18. It was like a light switch got flipped. These "adults" don't give a fuck about if you've been together for years and already had sex so many times that it doesn't matter... they only care about these arbitrary rules that were made about the ages and sex. It was fine the day before but ohhhh, now it's not okay. See I turned 18... it's the law. Age gap? Nobody brings that up when it's a 20 year old getting married to a 23 year old! IT'S THE SAME FUCKING AGE GAP!!! If I lived in the right state she would've turned 16 in a few months AND WE COULD LEGALLY GET MARRIED. I've told this story before and people just get hung up on the black and white of the issue... a couple hundred years ago I could've married her when I was 40... but I get it, obey. Anyways that's a story of mine... circumstance and bad timing maybe... I got another story about my first baby ma ma if you want a story about distance.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Yes a few times , it’s definitely a shitty feeling when you realize you can’t be with them , but it’s best to remind yourself , that you can’t always get what you , you can try but if it doesn’t go the way you were hoping it would go, it’s best just to accept it for what it is , and move on. If something is meant to be , it’s meant to be , if not , at least your tried.

IslaTheWitch · Accepted Answer

shit happens, right? :D

I think every person handle it differently...

some would cut off contact and take time to heal and move on...

some would cut off contact but immerse themselves in social interactions

some would stay friends, but the reasons behind this decision can be different... for some losing the person they love is too painful... some simply are afraid of hurting others... even if it hurts them...

whatever people do... they should focus on their emotional well-being AND on not hurting more the other person who is already hurt...

sometimes, it's hard to achieve... and cutting off the contact seems like the best solution...

comedy · Accepted Answer

Yes, I’ve been. Wanting someone with your whole heart, while knowing deep down it can never work it’s painful. I kept it to myself for a while, trying to process it alone. Eventually, I accepted that some people come into our lives to teach us something, not to stay. I found healing through writing and art, and reminded myself that I still deserve love, even if it’s not from the one I wanted. Letting go was hard, but necessary.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

My goal here on Girls Ask Guys is to tackle those heart-twisting dilemmas we all face! 💘 Falling in love with someone you can't be with feels like being cast in a tragic romance flick, right? Once, I had a crush on a college friend, but life took us down separate paths. I channeled my energy into self-care, focused on personal growth, and eventually, destiny introduced me to my now-wife! Remember, sometimes it’s about timing, and what's meant to be will be. Keep your heart open! 🌟

DishLady · Answer

Yeah, but we were stupid college kids so it resolved itself when we graduated.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

I kept if for myself, for a year I think.

And then, after a while, unexpectedly sort of, we were together. It didn't go really well. We had nothing in common, I was in love with an illusion I created.

You know, teenage love, it's a bit silly. But it's cute, only in retrospect lol

exitseven · Answer

Yes, we lived 1500 miles apart. This was before email and video conferencing. Phone calls were really expensive too. After 4years I realized there was no way we were ever going to be together. I called her after 11 pm on Saturday when the rates went down and broke up with her over the phone. It was a hard thing

genericname85 · Answer

took me 5 years of painfull crushing till i finally managed to quit the friendship she was ok with. i wanted more but she didn't. i feel like she stringed me along but i guess that's how you act when you are ok with being friends but not more. but she did things that "just friends" don't do. so that was a very confusing time. happy it's over.

beams · Answer

Yes, I've had celebrity crushes before but I wasn't this into it, it was just a passing fancy.

Valdemort · Answer

Never seen it like that. I've been in love when it wasn't reciprocated, or on a different level. Don't think there's a "can't be with" when it comes to genuine love.

Babebytheshore85 · Answer

You need to see a therapist this is literally a mental illness. Normal people do not think like this lol.

slatyb · Answer

I am now. She's a generation and a continent away. We met online when I commented on one of her posts.

bowenw · Answer

All of the above, but most often the circumstances, e. g. they were married. I’ve stayed in occasional touch with a couple.

serious · Answer

No. I have never been in love and never faced such a situation.

McLlovin · Answer

Yea. I jogged a long distance and got lost in music.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Nah, I would never allow that to happen to me.

Rider21 · Answer

Kept it all by myself. I love her, I miss her smile, but a poor person never gets love but by luck he may get that love.  But my fate told me u guys were meant to meet not meant to be. The end

DrPepper12 · Answer

Nope. Sux tho for you incest adjacent people

Staximus · Answer

Yeah, I just realized the truth and moved on

jahaims · Answer

No, why would I develop love with someone like that

dragoblack · Answer

My date life in a nut shell. It's better to be single...

Godihateyou · Answer

Yes. I'm still in love with her and I'm still not with her. For silly and stupid reasons

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, several times, all of my loves were unrequited :(

Phoenix98 · Answer

Once long ago.

daddy · Answer

nope

fish5505_87 · Answer

Yes, to long to get into here!

msc545 · Answer

I have indeed but it was more lust than love.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. We still keep in contact occasionally.

wkhan_87 · Answer

No , I love just a girl before my marriage

katiesmuff · Answer

No I have not!

Agape93 · Answer

Yeap

eagle1951 · Answer

yes!

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah i have

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