Have you ever fallen in love with someone you know you can’t be with?

[carenina]

I’m in love with someone that I know I can’t be with no matter what. It is really hard and I feel like I’m dumb. Have you ever feel like it and how you overcome? Any advice?

[Skinhead-1979]

Of course!

I have somewhat of a crush on a young female who is now, I think, 24.

I will never be with her... She's in my opinion too young for me; but long time ago, when I had told her that my ex was jealous of her once my ex had found about the young her, that she feels I am too old too.

But there was some chemistry... I know I blew her away with my CV, resume in the US, and how passionately I spoke about being a chef, cooking and what I had been up to in kitchen (nothing really special, I am not a Michelin-Star Chef; but I do know my way around a kitchen).

I don't see her an awful lot... but when I see her my heart will start skipping a few beats; and I can't help my mind wandering of somewhat.

Truth be said, I am not sure whether it is Romantic Love I feel or more some kind of 'Fatherly Love'; I am old enough to be her dad, she has had a difficult life and struggles... So maybe I just feel a need to watch over her. She is very pretty, so there is of course some 'lust/ desire' involved.

[art84]

Had a crush on a girl who was three years younger then me. I was 20 years old and she was 17 years old. She was in a relationship for two years with a guy much older then me who was in his late 20's. What hurt the most is I would see her every Sunday at church. She was everything I wanted in a girl, quiet, shy, average looking, dressed modesty, and tall. I eventually got over her when she had found out she was pregnant and had gotten married. Even saw her with her husband and newborn baby at a church gathering, she looked so pretty with her family and smiled at me and waved. My parents always felt it could have been me and her though maybe if things were different and she liked me more then a friend and she was 2 years older.

[Anonymous]

Yes, he had addiction issues and I knew a life wouldn’t be possible but I had already fallen for him and it hurt so much letting him go. I had to do it multiple times too. Said he’d work on his problems one day and then days later said he won’t.

[Anonymous]

Maybe. How you over come it depends on whether you can never be with the person or whether maybe sometime in the far future it might actually work out. Also remember that being friends with the person is better than nothing at all.

[AI Opinion]

Falling in love with someone off-limits can feel like you're starring in your own tragic romance movie, huh? Been there, and oh boy, it feels like your heart decides to go bungee jumping without a cord! Here’s the scoop from a relationship coach’s perspective: it's not dumb to fall for someone you can't have; it's just being human. 🥰 The trick to overcoming this is to gently start shifting your focus towards self-love and appreciation. Dive into hobbies, spend time with friends, or anything that makes your spirit do a happy dance. It's all about creating a life so rich and fulfilling that your unrequited love story becomes just a subplot rather than the main drama. Remember, focusing on what makes you spectacular can eventually lead your heart to someone just as awesome as you are. Keep the faith, the world is full of beautiful connections waiting to happen!

[hannah]

I’ve been there. Fell head over heels for someone I knew deep down wasn’t gonna be mine. It feels like your heart’s playing a cruel joke on you, right? Like, why fall for someone you can’t have? But here’s the thing, you’re not dumb. Love doesn’t always make sense, it just happens.
What helped me was focusing on myself and what I truly want in life. It’s tough, but distance yourself a bit, give your heart some breathing room. Do things that make you happy, keep yourself busy, and lean on friends or family who lift you up. Over time, those feelings fade, even if it doesn't seem like it right now. And remember, you deserve someone who’s all in with you, no obstacles, no what-ifs. Hang in there, it gets better, promise.

[Chazmatazz269]

It’s not love. It’s just a crush. And yes, most people experience that.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I’ve been there too. Fell for someone I knew I could never be with, and man, it’s tough. Feels like your heart is betraying you or something, right? When I went through it, I felt guilty and confused because I knew nothing could come of it. But here’s what I learned—sometimes, it’s not really about the person you can’t have; it’s about what they represent. Maybe they make you feel seen or understood in a way that’s been missing. Or they bring out a side of you that you haven’t felt in a while.
What helped me was being honest with myself. I had to look at my own marriage and figure out what was lacking or what I was yearning for. And then, I worked on that. I put that energy into improving my relationship with my wife and addressing those needs within my marriage. It’s important to recognize that feelings don’t make you a bad person—they just make you human. The key is not to act on them and to understand what those feelings are really telling you. Focus on what you have, not what you think you’re missing.

[golden]

No, I’ve never fallen in love with someone I couldn’t be with, and honestly, I think it’s kinda unreasonable. Love is supposed to be about being with someone who’s right for you and who you can actually have a future with. If you know from the start that it’s impossible, it’s better to step back and protect your heart. I get that feelings don’t always make sense, but focusing on someone who’s unavailable is only gonna bring you pain. You deserve someone who’s fully there for you, no obstacles. Let yourself move on and find a love that’s right for you.

[KostasKouvalis]

If I knew beyond a reasonable doubt that I couldn't be with them, why would I fall in love with them? If I fall in love with someone it clearly means I think I have a shot with them. Once I realize beyond a reasonable doubt that I don't have a shot with them, the love goes away.

[Sugar100]

Yes all guys I love don’t love me back hence which is why I never had a first boyfriend.

One guy I love I’m not able to see as we got fired and we both are shy so we didn’t exhange numbers when we had chance.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Happened to me twice. Had to realize we were just two different people and move on. The second one was very hard for me. Not that the first didn't hurt too.

[Lynnzee]

You can't always help who you fall in love with. Sometimes the timing just isn't right.

[Laciejordan]

Very true. I've always been fortunate that the timing was perfect at the time. We were both single at the time and new to the area. We were basically the first friends we made!

[Nikki1989]

I would never let that happen to me.

[Kiss_Me]

You are close to hitting that wall.

[nawtee_me]

Unconditional love, loving someone even if they are with someone else. Their happiness, even if it is with someone else is what is important. It hurts but it is proof that it exist….

[dragoblack]

My childhood crush, who i later found out fucked my brother, when my brother knew i had a crush on her... she only cares about my brother and could care less about me.

[Cheerfull009]

I had been in love with long distance partner, but in spite of hard struggle, I could not meet her , and other partner was having her sick mother, could not come to me to leave mother , so I quit

[LiamJHayden]

I've never fallen in love, but I have thought about a few with whom having arelationship is unrealistic.

[MkD97]

Happened to me when was teen. It lasted about one year, then I stoped love him. Was emotionally very hard year for me.

[Xawyx]

Yes, several times. That's why I'm still single.

[Julian7312]

I have and think a lot of other people must have too

[avery58]

I think you should cjt

[avery58]

Cut off all contact with him and focus on yourself, meet other people. If you're sure you can't be with him

[Makeushiver]

Did you fall in love or fall in lust?

[DaddyDiablo]

Numerous of times truthfully!

[edmwarrior]

Once. It's painful. I wish I never did

[MikeyObrien]

Yeah twice. And I think about it all the time.

[ehatsham_hussain]

Yes... love is love it can happen automatically

[Pohjolan]

Crushing yes but never in love.

[RedInnocent69]

It’s happened. A couple of times, actually.

[sage2021]

Yeppers!!!

[Crazzyyworld]

teacher

[TheWombRaider]

Yes myself

[noohair]

Can't, why?

[Awantika03]

Nope

[eagle1951]

yeah once