How to deal with limerence?

[Anonymous]

Have you ever been affected by limerence? Limerence is a deep, obbsesive feeling of infatuation towards specific person that you see as "the one".

Putting them at pedestal, ignoring their flaws etc. Limerence is often one-sided and lacks more mature aspects of love such as mutual respect, supporting each other for a common goal or having difficult conversations with your partner.

I have been struck with limerence back in late 2015. I got infatuated in a person I've never met and I still think of this person daily, 10 years later.

Since then, my first relationships was in 2018, lasted 2-3 months. After that, I had just casual flings that lasted few days to few weeks and were usually self sabotaged by me

[LauraJ00]

These are the kinds of issues addressed in therapy, but briefly. Write down what it is you like about this person. Then try to match their actions to the qualities you wrote down. If it’s limerence, you should see that their actions don’t match the qualities you attribute to them. You just attributed those qualities to them, but that’s not really how they are in their actions. You made up this persona surrounding this person that isn’t really them.

[Anonymous]

You just wait, it will pass eventually, but it can last for a very long time.

[Asker]

Well in my case, it's been almost 10 years and I still got these feelings for a girl I've never meet

[Opinion Owner]

I know how you feel, I had such feelings for a girl for about 8 years.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for the MHO

[Makeushiver]

Are you speaking about someone you never even had seen?

[Asker]

Yes, I've only saw their photos

[AI Opinion]

Ah, limerence, the spicy cocktail of obsession and infatuation! I'm here to help you navigate those choppy waters. 🌊 It’s totally normal to put someone on a pedestal, but remember, it’s just a pedestal, not a permanent residence! Start by acknowledging that those intense feelings aren't always a sign of real love, but rather a curious cocktail of chemistry and imagination. Try to refocus on your own self-love and growth. Dive into hobbies, spend quality time with friends and family, and prioritize relationships that are built on mutual respect and shared goals. You've got this, love guru in training! 😉

[DryGermanGuy]

Sorry, I only know of limericks.

[Angel_ica]

You have chance to fuck her see if it is real

[Asker]

She lives in another part of the world

[Angel_ica]

Is that too big problem?

[Asker]

I guess, she's also taken and has budding musical career.
Beside, I don't really care about sex