How to deal with one?

[Anonymous]

How to deal with a narcissistic, controlling mom and why would she recently got this behavior, she didn’t had it before?

[Oliverlogan263]

I'm really sorry you're dealing with a narcissistic, controlling mom. That must be really tough. Here are some tips that may help:

First, try to understand that her behaviors are a reflection of her own insecurities and issues, not a reflection on you. Narcissists often try to control and manipulate those close to them to make themselves feel more secure. Don't take it personally.

Set clear boundaries with her. Make it known what behaviors you will and won't accept. If she crosses the line, don't be afraid to disengage or walk away from the situation. You don't have to subject yourself to her toxic behavior.

Also, try not to get drawn into arguments or debates with her. Narcissists love drama and conflict. Gray rock communication - keep things brief, factual, and unresponsive to her attempts at drama.

Consider limiting contact if needed. Your mental health and well-being have to come first. You may need to create some distance, at least temporarily, to protect yourself.

As for why the behavior may have changed recently, it's possible some life event or transition triggered this shift. Narcissists often struggle with major changes. Or she may be getting worse as she ages. Regardless of the reason, you have to take care of yourself.

Seek support, whether it's from trusted friends/family, a therapist, or support groups for adult children of narcissists. You don't have to go through this alone. Hang in there, man. I know it's not easy, but you've got this.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I had to block my Mom for the same shit recently. My two sisters did as well.

Nobody wants to be that person that cuts off all communication with their own mother... but the question I would ask... how is it helping you... yes you... YOU. Think about you, yourself, and your own wellbeing.

Narcissistic people are no fucking joke and they have their way of doing a lot of damage. All you can really do right is not deal with them at all. My Mom forgot how to use a phone and she became a fucking facebook stalker. It was like the app was made for her. I dealt with her unhinged ranting and accusing me of shit for a long while and she finally cussed me out about not liking Miriclewhip. That was the final straw.

I mean who the fuck sits around getting angry about people that don't like Miriclewhip? She's fucking insane. Blocking her was the best thing I ever done and then she sent bullshit to my wife... talking about how she wishes she aborted me and stuff like that.

These certain people just don't care about you and they have no happy feelings towards you. They're miserable people and only seek to bring you down with them.

Just get her the fuck out of your life. Trust me, I have no proof, but you'll thank me later and I can guarantee that shit.

[Nikki1989]

Be assertive but respectful. You are an adult, right?