My fiance and I don't want kids, should I tell my parents before or after we're married?

[Anonymous]

I know my parents have wanted grandkids, but my fiance and I don't want kids, should I tell my parents (who will probably be disappointed) before we marry or wait until after we're married?

[AI Opinion]

As your friendly relationship coach here to sprinkle some love and wisdom, I'd suggest having an open chat with your parents before the wedding bells chime. 💍 This way, you'll start your marriage journey without looming surprises. Plus, honesty can strengthen family bonds, even when it’s a tad awkward. Approach with love and empathy, and remember, this is about your life and happiness. Cheers to future adventures with no tiny sidekicks if that's your choice! 😄

[Salaciousrouge]

It doesn't matter. If they are bent on GCs, then neither will be a good time. If you have sibkjngs who are wiser, and choosing to procreate, then they will probably let it slide, eventually. They will learn to focus their attention on those declscendents andnarrange their life to better accomodate your siblings andntheir expanded families. You and your wife will become the odd couple, left out of most conversations and tales or trials and tribulations. Few pictures of you will adorn the halls and mantles of your parents home. You may travel and have countless adventures together but these will be short stories for all those around you, friends included, who chose to build a loving and terribly stressful life raising their own kids. You will be the anomalies to most. Your parents and siblings may envy the vastly superior TVs and cars and vacations evidenced by the countless photos you will post. Your parents will be no different. Do not worry or fear. The memories you amd your childless spouse try to express and exchange eith your parents will be self-lived. They will get over it. In reality, they dont care about any of the expensive crap you bring into your life. If you are the only child, then they will forever be regretful that they did not have more children themselves. And if you are not running solo, then don't expect an equal shake, financially or emotionally. You chose to bond with 'stuff' in your life, none of which will satiate the need for connection and immortality via DNA most humans desire.
Go ahead, tell them now so they can better prepare themselvss and adjust their future gift-bearing, financial support, travel and visit plans, caretaker opportunities, and overall future desires of being lovjng, doting grandparents elsewhere.
Enjoy a life of materialism. Sounds awesome until you hit 40+ and realize there will be few people who really truly feel compelled to be at your side in time of need or on your deathbed. Hope that 80" screen and box of jewelry that brought you so much joy in your end of days, goes to a deserving nephew, niece or charity. Enjoy the finer things money can buy but dont expect your parents to fall in line with your life choices.

[Asker]

That's fine, we'd rather have fewer people at our death beds than be unhappy being parents.

[DCVsMarvel2]

I don't want kids either. You don't owe your parents any explanation. What you do with your life, is your life.

If they want to know why you haven't had any, you don't have to answer