Abortion because baby = less luxurious life? Is cheating a reason to abort? Whose at fault?

[Anonymous]

Valid / not valid?

family of 3

mother earns 50 /hour

sometimes 59/hour

works full time, many times even picks up overtime because she has free babysitting.
spends minimal time with her 2 children because she knows there’s always someone watching her kids who she trusts

father earns less but has a promising future because of inherited business

they were given a home they didn’t have to buy, they don’t pay rent only regular bills like water/ power.

she deprives him of sex for years but the random time they finally have it she gets pregnant.

she voices out that she doesn’t want more kids. that they have debt & want to be able to giver EVERYTHING to their 2 current children.
bringing another child would make it impossible to be taking their two children around the world to enjoy activities from other states & countries

they agree to terminate the pregnancy

2 days later she finds out he had sex with another woman & has a lot of naked videos of other women

he admits his fault & agrees he fucked up but wants to fix the situation

he says he went astray because she was not giving him any sex for a very long time. any attempt to try was rejected repeatedly

she refuses to explain why she was not giving him sex. voices out that she is happy she got rid of the new baby because how can she have another child of this cheater!

she is hurt and feels humiliated

later we discover she had deleted messages of sexual talk with another man from months ago. She gaslit her partner into thinking that that is not cheating because it’s not physical

He wants to fix things, asks for forgiveness

she says she cannot forgive

he says he’s trying to save the family in spite of the errors because nobody is perfect and he only did it because he felt abandoned and Lonley to the point that even she referred to him as a roommate

she says he ruined the family with his actions

he says he committed an error but wants to keep the family together

who is right?

That’s murder (and he’s at fault)

That’s murder (and she’s at fault)

That’s murder (and they’re both at fault)

That’s not murder (he’s at fault for the destruction if the family)

Not murder (she’s at fault for the destruction of the family)

Other I’ll post in the comments

Updates

1 y

Abortion happened before knowing about the cheating.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Damn, you have zero chill. It’s not “murder” to terminate a fetus NEITHER PARENT WANTED.


And he’s at fault for fucking up their family, she’s also at fault for her inability to communicate but once he decided to cheat then he’s the bigger asshole. Honestly, the kids will probably be happier if the mother earns more anyway.

[Asker]

The mother earns more
The free house is because of his inheritance and him earning less is temporary, the inheritance is more than 200 /hour

Plus she had sexual talks with another man which she deleted and deprived her own partner of sex for a long time and made him believe that talking sexual so another man is it cheating

[Asker]

She would also have to leave from the house and even at 50 an hour who can afford a home with that? She will have to resort to an apartment if she’s lucky

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

She still has free childcare, you know how many americans would literally murder someone to have that kind of option?

[Asker]

The free childcare are HIS sisters

[Asker]

All her family is poor and will charger her for taking care of the kids and will also charger her rent if they go live with them

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Even still, it’s not the abortion that caused their divorce. It was his cheating

[Asker]

So talking sexual with another man for months and deleting the messages while
Depriving her own partner of sex for years is not cheating?

To you?

That’s not to say his was not cheating
, this is stated here he did cheat but so did she even when it’s not the same, it’s still cheating and emotional cheating more often than not is worse than just physical

But to you that doesn’t count as cheating? And you’d be okay with your partner deleting sexual messages like I want my cock in your mouth type of talk being hidden from you while not giving you any sex at all and downing little to almost no time with you nor your children. Children are either with his dad or his sisters. They see the mom maybe 20 mins if they get lucky, because I’d she’s not working she’s sleeping or out with her friends but no time for them.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Lady, I do ERP. It depends on the context

[Asker]

I posted almost all the details

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Yeah, and your syntax is all over the place

[Asker]

? ? ? Nonsense
Regardless you chose a side and yet when asked then I’m you don’t consider the latter cheating and you come up with this nonsense argument.

Simply see both sides and which is more in the wrong or equally wrong

Yet you chose a side and validate your points with what is in relevance to the opposing side that she “earns” more, but in reality e urging they have they have because of him and eventually he will more than quadruple what she makes
Then you said about the free babysitting because you would kill for that
And when I say that that’s also falls back on him, the free babysitting is because of him,

Yet these point are not valid when it’s because of him and only if you were under the impression that it was because of her

Upon finding out it’s all thanks to him, you suddenly say syntax is all over the place and suddenly it all depends on “context” but you had already sided because you were under the assumption that the valid reasons for your choice were on her side?

I can’t take your opinion seriously when you validate someone for the exact same things that would Not validate another. You seem like unjust lying person. I hope you never have to make an actual important decision about anyone’s life. Yikes 😬

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

They’re both shitty people, how’s that for the stick up your ass?

[Asker]

You sided with one until the same reason you sided for that person turned out to be reasons that exist because of the other person but when those same reasons happen to be on the other person’s side you suddenly resident to “both shitty people” and a defensively say a stick up the ass.

You seem like the pathetic feminist that will always side with the woman and when it’s the same scenario flipped you would never side with the man even though the reasons why you first sided with the woman are due to him.

Sick. I detest this type of person. Vomit

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

You do have a stick up your ass, continuing an argument you’ve ignored for 4 days just bc I got MHO by the system and you’re salty about it, let’s be real here lol

[Anonymous]

Both at fault , he shouldn’t have cheated and they both should have used birth control.

[WhiteThought]

Abortion is always wrong. The only time in which I understand it is in the case of rape, because in that case, the choice is stripped away from the woman. In every single other case, the woman chose to engage in sexual relations that could lead to pregnancy.

[Hellraiser1984]

@WhiteThought trumps mom should have gotten an abortion.

[WhiteThought]

@Hellraiser1984 Just because you don't like someone, doesn't make killing someone right.

[Hellraiser1984]

In my book it does.

[WhiteThought]

@Hellraiser1984 Then you are worse than Trump is.

[Hellraiser1984]

No I just believe in killing the people who make the world suck for everyone else.

[MasterKS]

Its story of human brain which contains all the emotions, its situation where both is wrong in their own but the man is responsible for his acts women is just part of this mess.

[Asker]

so she’s not responsible for her acts only him?

[MasterKS]

@asker she is also, she went raw and not use protection, but his acts sounds more responsible.

[Asker]

Because to you cheating means only physical?

[MasterKS]

@asker Thank for MHO!

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[Summeroflove]

Abortion is always wrong unless it’s to save the life of the mother. There is other options available

[Ariesman81]

He is. For being spineless and allowing her nature to run the household.

[Hellraiser1984]

You both are at fault.