Why do people think it’s okay to cheat with someone whose married?

[Summeroflove]

Sure someone can make the excuse “they will cheat anyways” then let them cheat with someone else. If you can imagine male or female… If you’re married to someone world. You love this person with your whole heart and someone else is having sex with him/her.

It’s disgusting behavior. It can also get you hurt being with someone whose married. People don’t tend to take too kindly to that especially when they’re in shock of what happened.

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7 mo

Obviously the cheating spouse is wrong. Still not a excuse for the other person

[14gurlz2gagonit]

From experience, I will tell you, but first... I was married as well. I got cheated on and decided, "fuck it, if this is what my marriage is like, I'm not going to just sit around getting cucked, I'm going to cheat back" but at the same time I didn't want to get caught... so what type of side chicks would I look for.

Single chicks might catch feelings and then try to blackmail you into a relationship with them and even go so far as turning you in to force that predicament to happen. On the other hand...

She's in the exact same situation as you... she has her reasons and you have yours... you both have the same objective of keeping it on the down low... it's free real estate.

[molonski2]

Think you have it the wrong way around , there are plenty of utterly horrendous marriages out there , matter of fact most marriages.

Throughout my life , I've been that person around 5 times , maybe 6 , not quite sure , to say it would have happened anyway is an understatement.
I was single on each occasion , it didn't cause trouble , no big deal , that's what happens in marriages.

[NordicInScandinavia]

I was young and didn't care about others or the world. The spouses where out of sight (for most part) and therefore out of mind. If the men wanted to fuck me, I was accepting it to get a short term feeling of being someone to someone. (When in reality I was just someTHING for them).

I did tell some of their spouse's later on, actually shocked with how many of them stayed. If my partner ever cheated, then maybe we could talk it through but if he even thought about touching someone below 18 - fuck no.

[Anonymous]

I had a friend who was interested in married men, and when I asked her about it, she said that she's attracted to the fact that they are 'untouchable'. She said it was a thrill, and that if they are willing to leave their wife for her somehow made her feel superior/wanted.

It was messed up. she's seeing a psychologist now, which has helped apparently. But I don't know. I cut ties with her back then when she refused to admit fault.

[Summeroflove]

You can’t trust a friend whose banging married men

[Summeroflove]

I do think there is men too who feel the same way. It’s a challenge. It’s the thrill. They are untouchable until they do

[AI Opinion]

You're diving into the wild, unpredictable world of affairs, where emotions run high and logic often takes a backseat. People might think it's okay to cheat with someone married because they're caught up in the excitement or think the existing relationship isn’t fulfilling. Still, it’s a red flag central, and you’re right – it opens the door to a world of pain and drama. Falling for a married person? That's like signing up for heartbreak university. Remember, loyalty is attractive and sparks joy, not heartbreak! 💔🔥

[Finchie40]

Because in their selfish minds’ it’s just sex and nothing more

[princeofromance]

They do not view it as wrong or unethical.

[VioletHaze]

It's not okay, but I can imagine they justify it to themselves, saying they can provide a need the wife/husband is neglecting. Most of the time, I imagine it gives the person an ego boost. Anything forbidden is also automatically more exciting. So, while it's not okay, I guess I can understand the thinking behind it. Both are morally wrong, but the spouse is worse, cause they are the ones actively breaking a promise.

[Lokiion]

Some are just selfish, only thinking about themselves and what they want, some don't care about the other party and what happens to the wife or husband, some get a thrill, or they don't respect themselves or anyone else enough to care, and some do it out of hate/revenge.

[WonderingManII]

I don't understand this either, but I do know that people are unhappy, and if they think it will make them happy then they will do it.

[Summeroflove]

Yeah and some people just get off on home wrecking

[Summeroflove]

You notice many times once someone divorced their spouse for someone else. The partner they was with leaves

[WonderingManII]

Interesting. Birds of a feather shall flock together. Cheaters find each other, and they don't stop cheating?

[Summeroflove]

HAHA they get what they deserve every time

[Nikki1989]

Many married men couldn't care less about any of that. When men chat me up, ask me out or just flirt intensely, they are almost always married.

[bddddd]

It's the married person's role to manage the, if any, moral implications of their decisions.

[Summeroflove]

Obviously they're wrong too. But it’s also wrong for someone to do that

[bddddd]

It's 95% their job. I can share a story of not fucking a married woman with two young girls. The moment she equivocated, I withdrew entirely. But it was her choice.

[bddddd]

You can't blame tigers for eating deer.

[serious]

It is never okay to cheat. No matter what. There is never any justification that can be given.

[beenherebefore]

I personally do not think it’s okay with cheating with married people and do not approve of that.

[lexij2000]

Not everyone who is married truly loves their partner in every way. This doesn't justify cheating though.

[Summeroflove]

I agree many people aren’t honest to someone about why they are marrying them and cheat. Sometimes it’s financial. Sometimes it’s social status. Sometimes they just got desperate to have a family.

[BDRick]

It’s absolutely wrong. I have questioned in the past why a woman was married and fantasied if she was not, but she was so that deal was signed already.
Desiree and actions are two VERY different things

[kraegon]

They think they're not doing anything wrong because they're not the ones who made a commitment.

[AndrésC64]

I always find it strange that people blame the third person. That person doesn't owe either of them anything. It's the one doing the cheating that screwed up.

[DrPepper12]

Homewreckers suck in any scenario. If they're gonna wreck homes they should both be married & get a BOGO deal when they get busted.

[Anonymous]

Because they don't care. You're talking about a group of people whose entire defining character trait is that they lack self control and a sense of healthy boundaries.

[ilistengood]

Hmm, because they are stupid worthless wastes of an oxygen atmosphere?

[missvexie]

I don’t think it’s okay, if I’m aware I don’t do do it because that’s so wrong.
I can’t imagine the pain that’s caused

[verylovelyguy]

i have very low sexual self control. it's tough to deny myself sexual pleasure

[exitseven]

I guess if you cheat with somebody who is married they will not rat you out to your partner because you could do the same. Mutually assured destruction.

[PaleDale]

Yeah, especially religious hypocrites. I don't get it, they're assholes.

[BobbyLee789]

They're hypocrites, dime a dozen

[Summeroflove]

Absolutely

[CaptanHellams]

i have very low sexual self control. it's tough to deny myself sexual pleasure

[Miah06]

Lack of morals

[jahaims]

They know it's not okay lol. They are just trash.

[Anonymous]

I don't think it's ok.

[Panthero80]

It's not okay.

[spartan55]

My favorite is

[spartan55]

'well he pursued me' ...🙄