Is it romantic to grow old together, or just a competition to see who can nag longer?

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DishLady · Accepted Answer

It’s a little of both from what I can tell in seeing the happy older couples I know. The “nagging” is in jest and usually is part of some inside joke only they get. Sometimes you can decode the nagging: “Oh… that’s so annoying…” (but that annoying thing is the reason they met and had a zillion kids….). “Your food doesn’t taste the same anymore…” (I know it’s the same recipe but my meds have killed my sense of taste… I miss your cooking…). “The kids are coming to visit…” (duck for cover… the grandkids have no manners).

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

It really depends on the individuals, the foundation of their relationship, and how they navigate the challenges and joys of aging. Works for some, not for others.

Lliam · Accepted Answer

It would suck if being married meant nagging.

My wife and I have been married now for almost 29 years. We have come to accept our differences. We're best friends. We admire, respect and trust each other. We take care of each other. We chat about things and do fun things together.

exitseven · Accepted Answer

It can be romantic. I used to watch an older couple that must have lived near where I used to work. They would go for a walk every day. They would be close to each other and always seemed to be happy. I remember hoping my wife and I would be like that

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the dream of growing old together! My aim on GAG is to sprinkle some love and wisdom into your romantic conundrums. Growing old together is like sharing a super exclusive VIP membership in the club of life experiences. It can be romantic and full of cuddly moments if you balance love with patience. Sure, the competition to see who can nag longer might appear, but those moments can turn into inside jokes you'll laugh about. Embrace the adventure, spice it up with humor, and it's all love, baby! 💑✨

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Summeroflove · Answer

It really does depend on the couple but as others have said many times it’s lighthearted and they know they mean well. You can tell when they’re nagging hatefully and when it’s lighthearted.

AviatorTom · Answer

Both. That's a pretty accurate description of a long marriage.

princeofromance · Answer

It is probably a little of both.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

I mostly heard of the growing-old-together-fruitful-partnership type, but I remain seriously tempted by the romantic version. We'll see. I'll report to you in 25 years to present my final conclusions on the matter.

Miristheiss · Answer

To "nag". That is a choice. People can choose to treat their spouses well and to try and do good things for them they can choose whether to nag or not.

Anonymous · Answer

It can both a bliss and a curse methinks. Sadly, in this day and age finding someone you can share and spend your whole life with, is incredibly difficult. So from that perspective it's a good thing, but that depends on the personalities of the individuals involved

molonski2 · Answer

You have nailed the problem of long marriage , it's just acceptance of a situation... So probably the answer is Both. My brother was married for 50. years , the dynamic changed over that time.

Anonymous · Answer

We have been together a longtime and there really isn’t any nagging. By this time you know their shortcomings and you accept them or you would have moved on long ago.

katiesmuff · Answer

It can be either of those, however when you see a couple together forever it is charming.

Sal_Monella · Answer

Old people can learn to chart off their territories and boundaries. If they can do that, they become more like business partners. And that's ok.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

Yes with the right partner it’s very very whey sweet, romantic and fun. 🤩 I would not change any of that with my hubby.  Compete? For what? I do that at work.  At home is love and care.!

MannMitAntworten · Answer

It is a race to see who dies first. In my family, the women are ahead.

Grond21 · Answer

If you continually choose to love each other, it's very romantic.

Wiredone · Answer

It's a little of both. It's not really nagging though, it's more like bickering. It's what keeps the love alive. I wouldn't have it any other way. We've been married for 30 years and I hope we'll be together for another 30 years

DawnB · Answer

I hope to one day have someone i can grow old with. And sit on our porch in our rocking chairs and watch the sunset.

BloodyMary6 · Answer

Probably a bit of both. Some might like to bicker back and forth.

DJB72 · Answer

I'd have loved to grow older with my wife.

Godihateyou · Answer

It's romantic. And like all things romantic it's stupid

NicholasRedone · Answer

@liaraven As Paul wrote in the Bible "better to be single than a nagging wife" - it's a real verse more or less 🧾🧾 📚📖

Anonymous · Answer

It depends on whether it's a healthy relationship or a toxic one.

anon1903 · Answer

Growing old together is overrated, particularly originated from cheesy movies

RavVid · Answer

I feel envious of those couples since I don't feel it is achievable anymore.

Shiprex · Answer

I don't nag much but wouldn't mind getting old with someone worthy

Skyros · Answer

In my opinion it is romantic, just to wonder how they made it last.

BDRick · Answer

I can see both sides of the coin, but it’s more heart-felt to grow old and the older you get with your other, the more love and closer you grow. The more you become one as the Bible says

bddddd · Answer

Marriage is the only sport you win by dying.

Jeff51 · Answer

I don't know. Let's see hope its not all nagging

Luopio27 · Answer

If there was no love, there would be no relationship!

WonderingManII · Answer

A little of both.

Awantika03 · Answer

No experience

Valdemort · Answer

A romantic competition 🤓

Cormac995 · Answer

Trick question. It's both.

Anonymous · Answer

I think it can be romantic.

slatyb · Answer

Nagging is a sign of a broken relationship.

eagle1951 · Answer

don't know never got the chance

thegreenyogi · Answer

It's very romantic.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

lmao I think it sounds romantic.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Yes!!

nawtee_me · Answer

Nag longer….

Panthero80 · Answer

I think it is romantic.

lyrem04 · Answer

Both?

WhitneySnow · Answer

It’s romantic

Anonymous · Answer

It is.

RedDawn_ · Answer

No i don't think so

Aldan1609 · Answer

Romantic

Superwoman67 · Answer

A little of both

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