I feel that he doesn't want to have a family with me?

[Anonymous]

Boyfriend said things would be much easier if I didn't want to have kids but in the same conversation says that ideally he'd like to have a bunch of kids. What does he mean? The plan is to get married and then have kids but I feel that he's skeptical about having kids with me.

[melnc]

A man who's truly ready to build a life with you won't send bullshit messages about something as important as children. If he's uncertain now, that uncertainty will only grow after marriage. You deserve clarity, not confusion.


Every day you wait for him to change his mind is a day you're not moving toward the future you truly want. The right one won't make you question whether you're included in his life plans. He'll be excited to create that future together.
in the end... it's up to you

[Asker]

Thank you very much for saying this. I needed to read this.

[melnc]

Glad it helped

[capriVib]

Be clear/direct with them about what you want, and depending on their response, either cut them out of your life or keep them in it

[Asker]

I was! We've spoke about this a million times. He knows I want to get married before having kids I was as clear as water about this. He wants to wait until the end of the year for us to get married (there hasn't been a proposal yet) but then he says these type of things that make me overthink everything.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating this kind of relationship maze can feel like a thrilling rollercoaster, right? It seems like your boyfriend might be sending some mixed signals, which could be his way of juggling desires and fears. It's almost like the age-old dance of love! 😅 Openness about your feelings and expectations is key. You deserve a partner who's committed to the same future, and to prevent any ghosting encounters, having an honest chat could help unveil his true feelings and intentions. Love should build bridges, not walls! If you're ready for kids and he isn't, it might be a red flag that there's a conversation to be had. Keep shining! 🌟

[Anonymous]

Tell him what you would like.

[Asker]

I already said. I made this very clear when we met each other.