Life Long Health?

[SamWinchester058]

How do you encourage your spouse to take care of themselves as it relates to health, physical and mental? This seems to be a particularly dangerous topic for men to broach with their wives/GFs. At least if you care about the relationship. 🤣 How do you encourage them in a loving way?

[jennifer_bloom]

I find I get motivated when people express diet and nutrition in a positive way, for example, encouraging somebody to socialize by riding their bikes with friends, visiting scenic land marks on a beautiful hiking trail, or improving their mind and personality at a tai chi fitness centre to maintain their endurance and physical longevity is is more useful than saying they have to do push ups in a cold and ugly grey room for one hour a day alone to look less flabby in pink dress.

I learned in my university psychology class that positivity motivates people better than negativity. Giving children rewards for good behaviour is more effective than punishing them for bad behaviour when you want to mould their personalities.

I would imagine this would be the same for adults - that positive reinforcement like compliments, invitations for group jogging activities, and research on health and fertility, work better than negative reinforcement such as criticism, or threats to break up if they gain weight.

[SamWinchester058]

Love it. Thank you!

[jennifer_bloom]

Glad to help : )

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Depends, is the health relating to your potentially long life or is it relating to the fact that she’s not as tight as she used to be?

[SamWinchester058]

@cupcakethedestroyer Thank you for proving my point.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

90% of the time men just don’t enjoy having a middle-aged wife that looks like a middle-aged wife. Obviously if your concern is genuinely for her health, is it relating to her weight, her bowel movements, or her skin?

[SamWinchester058]

Your defensive response comes off as you internalizing the question I asked. Which was where I was hoping for people's minds not to go. Hence the touchy subject.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

It’s not as if a woman’s ability to retain a man was never directly connected to her ability to look, sound, and fuck like she’s in her 20’s when she’s definitely not

[SamWinchester058]

Are you ok? This subject can and should pertain to weight if weight is an issue. Mental health, weight, exercise, and dieting all fit into the same bucket and one can affect another. Taking care of yourself is important. You get one life. If that is offensive then... oh well?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

You’re right, I’m taking this personally as if I myself am your wife. I just hear this kind of talk from my father a lot. It was a big part of why he and my mom got divorced and I learned to hate it when he would make those comments to me too

[Anonymous]

I'm single, so I don't have a spouse to encourage them.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for the MHO

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the delicate dance of love and health! It's all about taking small steps together. You could suggest couple activities like hiking trips or joining a yoga class to sneakily integrate health into your relationship routine. Compliment her progress to keep that motivation flowing. Remember, it's all about teamwork, not a solo mission, and sometimes a cheeky reminder goes a long way! 😉 Let's charm each other into better health, one smile and wink at a time!

[NordicInScandinavia]

Depends on the issues at hand, and if they've always been a issue or they just recently became such.

[Nikki1989]

It depends on the actual health issues you are referring to.

[SamWinchester058]

Well honestly my spouse doesn't really do anything at all to take care of her mental and physical health. I recently quit drinking and have been working in these areas in my life. I want to encourage her to do these things for herself as well. But when I mention them I am met with defensiveness and accusations about my motives. Clearly I've not done a great job of communicating my true intentions to her so I am asking for help.

[Anonymous]

I've always had medical issues so i try to take care of myself but my husband is in almost perfect health he just had a bad back from being a diesel mechanic for over 12 years lol finally got him to go to the Dr for it