Some people stay just to avoid being alone. Others walk away the moment it doesn’t feel right.
What about you?
Would you choose your peace over someone who doesn’t feel like home or would you stay out of fear, comfort, or hope that things might change?
Absolutely. I heard something on Tik Tok that is SOOO true.
Women, while growing up, are told how they should be treated by a man. But they are never told how they should treat a man.
Men, while growing up, are told how they should treat a woman. But they are never told how they should expect to be treated by a woman.
I will not be someone's afterthought. After immediate family, I expect to be first. That doesn't mean I need to be at every party or joined at the hip. But my expectation is, if you have something going, the default will be I am going to be with you. Because that is how I think about the woman I am dating. Then if there are reasons for me not to be there, that is just a conversation.
From your explanation I’m going to understand your question differently. Your choices are being “alone” or being in a relationship with the wrong person but that doesn’t make sense to me as it’s no choice at all.
I have felt alone in a relationship as well as when single , that’s a state of mind not a status. So I’m instead going to answer “ would I rather be single or in a relationship with the wrong person “ , and well the answer is ALWAYS single.
Choosing to be with someone even though you don’t see them as a fit for you is unhealthy emotionally as well as stopping you both from a chance of being happier ?
Depend on a lot of things to be fair, like if I'm homeless then I would rather be with the wrong person than homeless that for sure, if I'm alone no friend nothing I would surely chose wrong person too but I have a house and friend / family then I would rather be alone
Yes I would rather be alone than w the wrong person. However I have not always made that decision at the time, I have been with several “wrong people” and two in particular, I was with way too long for bad or dumb reasons.
Ah, the eternal tug-of-war between solitude and less-than-perfect companionship. As a relationship coach, I'm all about the love vibes, but trust me, no one's worth sacrificing your peace for. It's like wearing itchy socks all day! Choose you, always. When you find someone who feels like home, you'll know. Until then, embrace your independence and maybe rock some fuzzy socks instead. 😏 Love should enhance, not exhaust!
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If i know it’s not right, i leave. If there’s doubt, then there’s work to be done.
It seems like nobody WORKS to stay together anymore. Particularly women, who initiate breakups and divorces more than twice as often as men. If it’s not effortlessly perfect, destroy everything. Nothing is ever effortlessly perfect. So there’s a lot of potential beauty being destroyed because nobody wants to do the work to keep it beautiful.
I would for sure rather be alone, than with the wrong person. As soon as I knew she wasn't right, I would break up. I wouldn't want someone to stay with me, for fear of being alone... knowing I'm the wrong person.
Alone please. Forever alone than be with a person who constantly makes me feel unhappy.
I'd rather be alone than be with the wrong person.
being single is not a punishment... it's a different state of mind...
I'm single by choice and I like it... I have family and friends, so I'm not alone...
if people are alone only because they are single, it's not about their relationship, it's about their lives and the effort they put into their social interactions...
no social interaction will make up for family or a husband.
realize as you get older, your parents will die, your siblings will get married and create families of their own. nobody will love you or care about you. you will be a priority to no one.
Especially once you are on your death bed, those nieces and nephews who adored you while they were babies, will not come running to your side telling you that they miss you.
this is the reality of dying alone.
@nastyb that's why I see it as a different state of mind... I still keep contact with my married family members and friends... I care greatly for them and they do for me...
my mom passed away a few years ago and my father has a cancer... parents usually die before their kids... it's a natural order... I love them, but I don't depend on them financially or emotionally...
I don't expect any kids or young people from my family to visit me on my deathbed... they will have their lives to figure out...
I don't expect to be anyone's priority, even if there are people that show me every day that I am a priority for them...
I was taught that I'm the only one who is responsible for my life... not other people... and I take this responsibility seriously
and I know that even on the deathbed I won't be alone :D it is what creating good and healthy relationships with important people in your life means...
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it becomes harder to make friends as you get older. People become more asocial and reclusive especially in our modern era of technology.
Married friends are the worst to befriend. they will never be there for you like you want them to be there for you. If you want to make friends, it is best to try to befriend single friends.
No friend will ever pay for your funeral. No friend will ever care for you like spouse or a family member.
I work as a home care nurse who works with the sick and elderly. Trust me when I say that I have seen sick elderly people start crying in tears of joy whenever their grown children visit them, knowing their kids are the only source of genuine love and comfort they have in the last years of their lives.
No nurse or friend will love you the same way your child loves you.
I am south Asian and I was pressured into marriage while I was still doubtful about my partner. She is great in many ways and is an awesome wife, but there are some requirements that were important to me that are missing/needed to be worked on. So I have made myself stuck in the marriage because while I am not a 100% satisfied, I am also afraid to leave and then find out that was a horrible choice and the next person just makes me worse. My feelings also shift day to day sometimes and I really struggle with that but can't speak to anyone regarding it.
@nastyb
We have tired a bit of that but it has not really gotten anywhere. Its a combination of her being very exhausted from work, somewhat opposed to my ideas, and some simply her not being in the best health.
To be honest, my life has been a train wreck. It wasn't always like this. I had a pretty good life... however, I ran into some really nefarious people who really messed things up for me right after college (they stole my idea, framed me, tried to ruin my life so that they could take over the entire business). My mental health was so poor during this time because I already had some unrelated health issues. My parents (the only people I thought I could depend on) ignored me and ask for help. It just made everything so much worse because they didn't take me seriously.
But that really pushed my life in the wrong direction. I am just so exhausted with how everything has played out. I have had a few good moments, but there is always another problem or pain around the corner.
I am at a point where at my lowest like today I wish I had a magic wand, a time machine, or a genie to just wish me a better life. Get some reprieve from my mental prison.
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I think that ALL of us want to receive the best. But we rarely ever think about what we can give out. Your wife is going through a hard time in life so she can't give you as much. I'm sure you can't give your wife enough because you're so exhausted and traumatized by life too.
But she is the person who chose to stick by you and care for you for the rest of your life. Though you may not be the richest or most handsome man, she chose you. Because there is really no other incentive for any woman to want to be with you.
It is human nature to constantly want something BETTER THAN THE LAST or MORE. But you won't realize what you have until you lose it.
With financial problems, there will always be PAIN around the corner. This is why everyone is so desperate to make more money, because they understand that having enough money will relieve so many of their problems along with pain.
I was in a similar situation. Hoping change would happen. I stayed too long. When I finally left it was like a weight was lifted from my shoulders.
The wrong person means much of your life will be wrong too. There's no good to that.
If I'd given it an honest attempt to work through things with the person, then yes, I would rather leave and be alone. However, I find that younger generations struggle with accountability and honesty in relationships. So be sure you aren't lying to yourself...
Absolutely, you do not know what you are letting yourself in for!
The best way to approach this is to immerse yourself in other things that you enjoy doing away from other people.
Simple things can lead to better things.
A happy marriage is trying to make it work with an imperfect person.
if you want to stay single forever because you are waiting for that perfect person, you will live a very miserable empty life.
I would rather be alone than be with the right person 😆
I'm sick of serving men. I want to spoil myself! I dont care if that sounds selfish.
I don't know tbh... I really hate being alone and lonely... so I might just stay with the wrong person to not have to feel the dread of being by myself forever.
Alone 100% , if it's not right then it's just not right , to stay for the sake of it , that's simply beyond ridiculous that's really very sad , one must always be prepared to be alone.
I have chosen to be alone than with the wrong person. It actually takes a lot of bravery. Not many people can deal with their loneliness head on.
@Caroline91 suppose not, but some lovin' from a nice chick would not go amiss 😊
@Caroline91 I've also decided it should be an American female, my next one. If you can send some my way :)
@Caroline91 Umm, not the Gag ones please.
I don't know, aren't American women the best?
@Caroline91 Well, I think there's a nice dynamic between English and American people romantically. I mean, you would know, you dated a Brit!
Provided the American in question is not a fruitloop of course.
@Caroline91 Yes, and you lot enjoyed being teased by Brits.
I'm happy with my own company. So, never with the wrong person.
Definitely.
Such ''motivational phrases'' make me mentally feel tired. They are worn out.
My approach: I will be with the wrong person until a right one comes along.
well if your not happy you'd have to leave but you have to give to someone and give him all the love you have for him
Alone is much better. Then you can look for the right person. Staying to avoid being alone is a path to continued misery.
Alone is where some people find a place to be themself, being with someone who makes you feel bad isn't courage or commitment, it's purgatory.
Alone is not an ideal scenario but between being alone and with the wrong person I'd rather be alone.
Most definitely Alone please... Thank you.
I'm happier as a single and I'm finding I've got more spare cash as a humble free spirit 🌌 🚀
Alone. It's better than being with the wrong person.
Of course!! Being with the wrong person is a form of living hell. I know I'm experiencing it.
Choose being alone because people now a days not respect you they'll never fill up your heart if you're alone instead they'll take advantage of you loneliness and disrespect you as much as they want!!!
Yes.
Anyone choosing someone incompatible would be insane, and would also increase the odds of others not finding their match,
Of course. People, friendships, and relationships require work. If you're with the right person it'll be less work, but still work nonetheless. No way I'd want to go to that effort for someone that wasn't worth it.
Nah, I would just choose someone else. Simple.
The "wrong" person could still be fun to be with. If they're not pleasant at all then why would anyone stay with them?
Absolutely! In there, done that. It's hell. I should have gotten out of that relationship years earlier.
Answering directly to the question, yes I definitely rather be alone than with the wrong person that's common sense haha.
As much as I hate being alone, I'd rather be alone than be with a nasty person.
Being with the wrong person brings heartache and unless kids are involved I would rather be alone.
No. I won’t settle. I did once but never again. Fortunately I’ve found someone I really do love and she me
I think that it is better to be happy with oneself than to be sad with another. I hope to partner with a man that loves independence which supports coupling. I hope this makes sense.
I'd rather be alone. I don't need any more problems in my life.
I would rather be alone instead of being married to a Magan racist biggot!
I’m afraid that would lead to a lot of unhealthy, anonymous sex
I'd rather be alone. Better to be thirsty than to drink vinegar!
A woman I know would rather be with someone. She has historically been with total morons and this has caused her problems.
Yes, I'd rather be alone, than with girl I don't like... I'm not desperate.
I would definitely rather be alone!
Yes.
I would rather be alone
Either way, you’ll be alone 🙏
Wrong is wrong … I choose the solo flight.
Wrong person is way worse than being alone.
Most women will pick the wrong person if they have something to gain, comfort and convenience. Women have a survival brain which makes them adapt to any wrong person and then manipulate the man in order to get what she needs out of him.
Women's brain is biologically programmed for survival and well-being. Selfish existence most of the time.
Yes.
yeah 100% rather alone
I would rather be with the wrong person
Alone.
Alone.
Any. Day.
Yup!
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Alone 💫
Yes.
Of course.
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