Is it common for people to stay in relationships with people they don’t click with just so they aren’t alone?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Yes it is unfortunately , it can stem down for a lot of reasons , financial reasons , stability , Low Self esteem , thinking no one else would want them , so they stay in a unhappy relationship because it’s easier for them instead of going through the whole hassle of divorce and starting over. Hence my wife and I had troubles in our marriage i eventually told her to leave and that I want a divorce , she begged me not To get a divorce because of financial reasons but she agreed to separate, and left to go move in with her Mom , we weren’t enemies , we just no longer had the passion for each other and all we did was butt heads like crazy , even though we still loved each other we both knew separating was the right thing to do , Her and I realized we were better off being friends than actual lovers because we barely had much in common with each other anymore. I eventually started dating another girl and that’s when my wife started begging for me back and I told her No fucking way , Being apart from you was the best decision I made for myself , I actually feel alive again and happy , my wife balled her eyes out to me and I told her sorry , Go find someone else , by me not giving into her like I use to do made her realize how good she had it with me , so she didn’t stop begging for me back and tried sabotaging the relationship I had with the other girl , The other girl treated me like Gold and rocked my world , so thought if my wife continued to treat me like she use to then I would of never left my wife , to begin with. Long story short the girl I was dating I found out was married and lied to me saying she was single , so that was the end of that relationship, But my wife was still begging for me back , so I gave her another chance and things between us were good again for awhile until it turned to shit again , My wife doesn’t want a divorce from me but I told her if I meet someone else and fall in love , I’m filing for divorce , Her and I are just room mates right now doing our own thing ,

SteveSmith1985 · Accepted Answer

Yes, I think it's way too common. I think people are afraid of change, or afraid of the unknown. I think that keeps some relationships going longer than they should.

Simslover92 · Accepted Answer

Yes and I refuse to do that. If the chemistry is not there, why waste time being with someone who isn't your speed? It's just going to end up being miserable for both parties in the end.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

I'm here to sprinkle some spice on love, and this one is juicy! Staying in a relationship without that magical click is like holding onto a puzzle piece from the wrong box. 🚫🧩 It happens more than you think, and sometimes it feels easier than facing ghosting or the dreaded singlehood. But hey, life’s too short to settle for lukewarm when you could have fireworks! Relationships should light you up like a firecracker, not leave you feeling like a soggy sparkler. Always choose the spark! 🔥❤️

Genie23 · Answer

Yeah, I've seen people just stay together even though they are not happy with each other or just lost the chemistry, it's because of either the thought of single makes them panic or they're sort of attached to each other.

Anonymous · Answer

Very common for women espicially when we need rent money or thd holidays or a family wedding is coming up. I know women that were with a good guy and strung him along for years while they looked for someone better. That's whh i don't trust other women, we can be so cold

Babygirl_S · Answer

No, it’s like when he was with someone else, he was treated like shit so he won’t let a lady leave. The only way to save himself is by being kind to a good woman. The bad ones get drunk, get him drunk and give him great rewards he can’t accept

EmmaMary · Answer

I certainly wouldn't have thought it was too common... However for whatever reason there must be those who do.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

I think so, fearing loneliness is very common and understandable, especially in our modern day individualistic societies.

noohair · Answer

Yes. Many people think that they cannot be whole unless they have a partner. So you get two “Half People” trying to make a “Whole Relationship. What does work better is when two “Whole People” find each other and make a wholesome relationship.

Geo1970 · Answer

I personally wouldn’t last five seconds.  There has to be that spark that initiates the relationship.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

No, it’s not common. That doesn’t mean that they don’t exist, I knew one such couple.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Sure, I imagine that is true with some people.

WhitneySnow · Answer

I’m not sure but I don’t think it’s a good idea

Anonymous · Answer

Some people are just like that, but not me. I would never be in a relationship with a girl I don't like, it wouldn't be fair to her or me.

Kelly6 · Answer

Its not common but it happens and mostly stay for their kids too

Gabriel-Chicanito · Answer

I don't know, about "common".. But some People are like that..

st8gangsta · Answer

I think some people do. How common is it is a good question tho... because I don't know.

molonski2 · Answer

VERY common yes for certain.

beenherebefore · Answer

I think is very common.

exitseven · Answer

yes, its sad but true

jahaims · Answer

Yeah, plenty of losers exist

Pterodon · Answer

Very common. It’s called settling

hello4433 · Answer

That's friendship not relationship

slatyb · Answer

Sadly yes.

Shortkay4568 · Answer

Kind of yesss

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