Ladies, for those of you in your mid 30s who dumped their partner because they didn't want to have kids, did you eventually found someone who wanted?

[Anonymous]

Me and my Partner have been together close to three years. We've been living together for a bit more than two years and have a beautiful relationship. We plan to get married and have kids in the upcoming year, but as of now that's just the plan as he hasn't proposed. However, I still have this fear in me that when the time comes my Partner might change his mind and decide that he still wants to wait a bit longer to have kids (he already has a boy and is in no rush). Despite all the love I have for him I already decided that if he doesn't want to have kids next year I'm going to have to break things off, I'm already 35 and don't have much time left. My biggest fear is breaking up with him and never finding someone who wants the same as me, I want a family not just a baby, I'm not planning to end up as a single mom or at the risk of never finding someone.

[petitedollbabee]

Have you made this clear to him? Does he know that you’d like to get married and have kids?
If you’re in that much of a rush to have kids and get married, then give your partner an ultimatum. He’ll either agree to have kids and propose or he’ll make it clear that he’s not interested and then you can move on to find someone else. You’re in your 30’s, which isn’t “old”, but your biological clock is definitely running out if you’re wanting multiple children. Especially when there’s no guarantee you are fertile, it could take years of trying.


Also just to point out.. no one “plans” to be a single mom. Shit happens and life isn’t always predictable. Lots of respect to single moms for doing what they do despite the crappy hand life has dealt them.

[Asker]

Yea I think I might have to do something similar to what you suggested.