TY for MHO
Adoption is an amazing thing to do. There are so many kids who would love to have a home.
Girl... I was right there with you when I was ur age at 25. And I'm back here at 31 (almost 32) so my answer is becoming more definite. Haha I basically need to met the father of my kid now lol because will if I end up having a child of my own then I would like to be pregnant by 34 or at least start trying. That is already on the older side. But I think that's where I'm at. I might have one kid and adopt another.
I hope that by the time I'm in my 30s I'll have my own house and have enough financially to create the best life for my kids since I'll be doing it on my own. I love hearing about the single parents who do their best for their kids no matter what. I've wanted to adopt since I was a little girl and that dream has only grown stronger and since I've never met anyone I wanted to have a romantic relationship I think its just meant to be.
@90sVibe Your post is making me sad. You're a really cool person. You should not have to be single.
Sorry, I know it's very pessimistic but that's my view on "love" and "relationships". I just see so many hopes and dreams shattered because they put their faith and hope of wholeness and happiness in others and then are left broken. I've created a life to where I rely on no one but God, and that people are a nice addition and not a necessity. We all need people in our lives but most aren't able to be faithful to commit whether romantic or platonic. Its not that i "have" to be single. Its a choice. I've just never met a decent person I felt chemistry with. The last guy I felt any sort of attraction for ghosted me and I'll never know why. So there's no point in waiting around with pointless hopes in dreams that will never be more than just that, a dream. I'm not saying there's no good guys or girls out there, only that I haven't connected with any of them on anything more than just a platonic level. I've learned to be content with my lifestyle though, I've never had had a romantic relationship so I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything. Life's good though
@90sVibe I understand. Feel free to message me if you want.
Lol love that 🙌🏽 learning how to appreciate to be single. A bit tough but working through it... Lol I've accepted it just getting comfortable with it
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Well at least you have your kids and friends it sounds like. Haha I just have my career and one friend and her family I see on a regular basis.
Well, you still have somebody. Who you choose to have around you let's you know who you are. If you are young then putting a career first isn't a bad thing. Trying to have everything at once and it not working out could cause everything to come crashing down. When one thing fails it will cause you to teeter on everything else. It is all about foundation and what you want to build up.
I've actually found no guy worthy of me... No man has brought shit to the table. I'll prob do adoption of ivf in a little over 2 years. Oh well that's reality.
Giant FAIL. Oh well. So you're going to deprive your child of an intact family and a dad. Got it.
You can be a MAN too. LOL
You make no sense and couldn't stay in topic lol 😆... Anyway. There has got to be a man out there who is actually worthy of my time and effort.You can be a woman too lol 😆
There is. But it's up to YOU to find him. And no, I don't claim to be - never have and never will - a woman. My comment was based on yours - "I'll prob do adoption [or] ivf in a little over two years." This deprives your adopted child of an intact family unit, and having a MAN in their life. Having one truly benefits BOTH genders. Yes, there are TWO. LOL Too many women today belive they can be a dad as well as a mom. So we have this whole crop of girlie-men, and women with 'daddy issues'.
Well brown. You never asked how I would raise a child. You assume way to much and jump the gun without knowing the facts. But its not like im looking here to get ur opinion on my life. So meh... In reality you know nothing about me or my life. 🤷🏽♀️ sooooo you can have your opinion based off a few sentences back and forth 🤷🏽♀️ doesn't make it true. Just rather ill-informed opinion onto someone else life
Which changes NOTHING. I can read you like a fucking book.
Commitment until death by old age is worthwhile in my opinion.
Yes, but how can you be sure the until death part will be in the old age?
Just be safe. A lot of people in the first world make it.
Ur guys pfp looks so familiar I thought you were talking to urself 😹
😅😅 but I hope you understood what I meant mam.
What is this first world
Yes I understood sir
That was not a word mam, it was an emoticon, but maybe it was not showing properly.Glad you understood though.
Very much the same
For me its every time I start thinking maybe I should try again, a woman goes and fucks me over reminding me of why I don't get involved (last girl asked ME out. I thought great I was willing to give it a shot. Immediatley began making excuses every time I tried to bring up a time to go out. Then she at work told me about how she went on a date with some one else and how great it was then acted surprised when I was annoyed at this. Its been pretty much that kind of interaction every time (flaking etc.(past five women I believe if memory serves). Its infuriating.).Don't want a low quality person but its getting frustrating being alone too so I'm not sure what I can do.
I understand that. Last time I was planning to meet a guy I wanted him to know I gained weight over the lock down he basically called me a liar and told me he expected 100% honesty. I wanted to say whoa dude we only talked for less than 2 weeks. Calm down but I said I understand and said goodbye.. Like really dude... its ok it was making me feel uncomfortable with his sexual advances so soon. He was cool but I felt relieved
Well some women do lie online about that but if you had only been talking for two weeks and were open about it that seems a bit of an extreme response on his part (and also who the hell didn't gain weight during the lock down? I gained twenty pounds over the course of like almost ten years, with the lock down I gained ten in four months. I'd actually be surprised if some one didn't gain weight during it).For me this has been a theme and its getting. . . frustrating, to say the least. I'm old fashioned, I don't believe in one night stands I don't understand the concept of friends with benefits, but I also can't seem to find a woman who is worth being in a relationship with because either they flake or act like the previous girl or they are older and desperate (not all older women are desperate mind you but having had some experience in this, some women want a relationship, the fact that its with you is not really relevant to them (they are getting older and want to secure a relationship before its "too late" which just ends up backfiring horribly (again, I've experienced this)). So again, I don't know if I should give up or try again as it always ends in failure anyway but I want to be with some one.
Haha well I had just re-downloaded the app before I could really upload anything we were chatting. Eh either way it doesn't bother me... i just feel like if guy won't like me bigger than it isn't worth my time... Haha don't need a body shammer by my side lol 😆 plus he was tall and big. Also he made me feel really uncomfortable and has a lot of sexual advances to talk about over the phone. So glad it ended up being a no go...Anyway I've given up... And not really trying to date atm. Just focusing on loosing weight. And getting to know people.
Also. Well it's not custom to talk about weight the first time meeting someone so I don't know I would not call it lying. seems weird to mention my weight the first day we chat. I think if you are going to mention weight it's when the girl is comfortable. Just because she is working up to tell a person doesn't make it a lie.
Not saying you lied, I'm saying some women do in fact lie about it. They will intentionally put up a photo of them fitter then they actually are in order to hide the fact that they gained weight (which in my opinion is the real problem not necessarily the weight itself (well unless she was morbidly obese then that would be a concern). Like I said if its because of the lockdowns then yes every one gained weight during that so it shouldn't have been an issue.
There are lots of famous quotes about giving up.
Yea same. I'm keeping hope to 35. Then whatever
Hmm that u dont care
I wish I was as optimistic as you
@90sVibe I'm not "optimistic" at all xD nevertheless, I will try.
Well I think that's really cool of you. I'm sure your perseverance will pay off
@90sVibe thanks :) we'll see, i guess ^^
Sounds like torture haha I don't know if that's a life partner. But definitely a ball holding u down... Enjoybur freedom
Thanks! My freedom has been quite a relief.
There should have been a times after the some.
But I completely understand. And I get tired of people trying to set me up or saying something stupid like, "I know someone who would be good for you."I just want something to naturally happen or not happen.
Yea. I'm just dont settling and u think I did with all my previous relationships... Haha now im never gonna settle again. To afraid to fall for the wrong guy who will eventually break me
I feel as though I've gotten to the point where the woman is going to need convince me that being with her is better than being alone.
I need a guy who is willing to show me that I matter and is worth it... Lol guess we can stay in our half broken corners. At the point where I realized everyone is done trying. I'm so tired if carrying the weight of a relationship and most guys feel the same. So we stuck in no where
If she shows that she wants me enough I'll shoulder my part. But if she's overly aggressive I feel like there's something else going on.
Wdym overly aggressive?
When she's like trying to fast instead of letting ease into a relationship.
Oh yea. I had that recently happen. That really drove my anxiety high. Nice and slow is the best way... Plus it's way better to build that connection without putting so much pressure
Exactly. Even at 35 I want something that's worth taking the time to build.
Yea he was 34. And never had a relationship past 11 months. He was super focused on my body and looks and wanted to move to fast. Lol all red flags.
Yeah I know about red flags.
You could at least charge admission lol. Make some money off of it. (I would visit!)
🤣 yeah sure. Maybe I'll die rich and with my zoo. You're so welcomed.
Dont get it... But i think you're being misogynistic. If so you just proved my point 😆😹😹
Science is misogyny? I'm implying that you're too old, especially when younger women like older men.
😹😹 yup exactly what im saying having kids wasn't even a topic for discussion and this talks about the cycle for women...
I don't know how you connected the two 30 plus women can still date older and younger. 😹 but anyway imma stick to the topic if you want to comment on throwing in the towel on finding a life long partner. 😹
Naw.. ill kick it in the gutter. Don't need confidence either.. I've accepted my solo life
Is that what you *really* want?
Nope but I'm pessimistic
Pessimistic thoughts end up becoming self fulfilling prophesies because you sub consciously sabatoge yourself.Thinking positively and maintaining motivation helps. Be proactive and keep an open mind.
Yup I know. I'm basically cool with it... I have enough positive aspects of my life... Don't need to share it with a man who won't give to shits. Lol
Uh oh lol 😆 dam
Adding it to my calendar 📅
Buy a silicone girl at least you have something to grab and fuck
How many lifelong partners can you actually have?
Guess it depends on length but I would think just 1 or 2
Don't give up, brother!
I have not given up I sm neither searching I am ok with both ways ain't no complains 😏