He keeps on contacting my family about me but he's still sleeping with his baby's mother. Is he trying to control me?

[tempirl2012]

After long years of being cheated on, 2 abortions, struggling on my own with a whole man next to me, finding out my man got more than one woman pregnant while we were together etc. I decided I didn't want to be with him anymore. He's been contacting me for a whole month now. I slept with him thinking I would feel the same but I don't. And recently, I found out he's still having sex with his baby mother. The same woman he never did stop talking to. Smh. I've been watching both of their houses for a few years now (mainly hers) to see who was messing around with who first. Which most times he was telling her to meet him half way to his house with their Daughter smh. Both of them don't even have a car. I looked through his phone and saw him asking and begging her for sex. Most times She would get mad and tell him that she's going to sleep with his cousin. I don't understand him. He told me that wasn't his kid. But I read in his phone that he's telling all of his friends that his child and his baby mother. I've been ignoring him; He added all of my family members on Facebook just to keep track of me and what I'm doing. But yet, I heard he's having a baby with a New woman🙄. This is the 3rd kid that he had on me since I've been talking to him. It's like he wants me around to abuse me. My mom likes his Facebook post and he's still friends with my cousin. Is he trying to control me? He said that If I don't take him back again , he's going to do something to me... he said he'll stop talking to his baby mother like he did before for me. He did that, but she posting on Facebook that he was basically stalking her everywhere she went... I do not trust him anymore. I tried for years with him. It's NOT working.

[lightbulb27]

Get away from that mess, you still have time to have a decent family, maybe... if you can get out of there.

Take the threat to court and get a restraining order on him, let him know to stay away, you are done. for him to go back to his wife and kids... end of story.

Fight the internal pain and desire to go back, go to church and get support or a therapist or gag, or owmens group or something. but don't go back.

this guy is just crap. if you can turn crap back into a cake, then go back to him. but I don't think he's so sweet and he's got issues. in other words, making anything work with him will be very hard.

you really want to start with good quality and build from there.

Start your life over, repair as much of the damage as you can, and find someone mature and responsible.

[tempirl2012]

Thank you for your response.

[DannyUk2017]

Just... Run and never look back, that is Toxicity in its Pure Form! Just block him and tell your parents and relatives to do the same...

[tempirl2012]

They have already accepted his friends request on Facebook months ago.

[DannyUk2017]

Ok, then explain to them what happened and ask them to block him...🤷‍♂️

[AI Opinion]

I'm here to help sort out the tangled mess of love drama! 😉 Hun, you're amidst a real-life soap opera, and let's be real, this guy's behavior is throwing up every red flag in the book. 🚩 His actions scream manipulation, control, and chaos. Trying to keep tabs on you through family, while juggling multiple relationships, is a huge no-no. Trust your instincts—if it feels off, it likely is. Your happiness and safety come first, so consider cutting those ties clean! 🌟 Keep your chin up, distance yourself from the drama, and focus on what truly matters—you. 💖

[Staximus]

So how many years are you going to keep your head up your ass and continue letting this no-account bum back into your life to treat you like shit?

[tempirl2012]

We are not talking. He only has my family on his page. I told them not to accept him as a friend on their Facebook pages but they did it anyway. He blocked me a while ago when he started back talking to his baby's mother. 🥱