Been in a relationship for over 10 years, we have children together and live together and he called me a hoe because of my past is it normal?

[Anonymous]

We separated a few years ago and decided to give it another try and I came clean about being involved with someone else while separated and ever since he'lol call me a whore. It's been 5 years since it happened and he just seem like he can't let it go. I love him dearly and think the world of him but he thinks the worst about me.

[Finchie40]

Sounds like you need to separate from him again , for the simple fact he has resentments towards you that he isn’t going to forget , that he will hold over your head to make you out to be this horrible person , pretty much what my wife did to me after we got back together from a separation that was mainly her decision to do so , because I didn’t want a separation period , but I knew I couldn’t force her to stay with me. So after she left , I eventually ended up meeting
Another girl , that treated me like Gold That I dated and had a tons of sex with , I then told my wife I want a divorce because I met someone that treats me like Gold , my wife cried and begged and begged for me back and I told her it’s too late , and told her if she truly loved me to begin with she wouldn’t of separated from me period , I told her I am not a sitting duck with Sucker written on my head , so I told her she dug her own grave with that shit. Long story short , the girl I was dating and sleeping with turned out to be married as well and that was the end of her and I’ when her husband found out she was cheating on him with me. Apparently he took her back but I haven’t seen or heard from her again. My wife and I eventually ended up back together and things were great between us again but only for a matter of time , until she started calling me a cheater and started holding it over my head and against me basically using it as a weapon to hold over my head , and only wanting things her way , and acting like it was my job to cater to her and kiss her ass 24-7 , mainly because I’m the one that slept with someone else , making me feel like nothing i did for her was ever good enough , and totally ignoring my feelings and treating me like a convenience, so I ended up throwing in the towel with her ass this time around , and told her to Go Fuck herself , that I am not her slave and her convenience, I told her if she can’t let go of the past then there is no future with us whatsoever

[AviatorTom]

Let me give you a guy's opinion...

Sounds like he's disappointed in himself for letting you go when you separated. He likes having you back but he's upset you were with another while separated. He wants you for himself, and it's hard to blame himself so he lashes out at you. That's wrong but it's how he is trying to deal with the separation and being back together.

I suggest you don't take him calling you a ho personally, and try not to show any reaction if/when he says it. Not getting a reaction from you should eventually make him stop.

Best of luck in your relationship.

[beenherebefore]

If he can't let it go maybe is best to let him go. He's holding a lot of resentment in him and this is very toxic.

[WhitneySnow]

That’s terrible. You may want to think about separating again.

[AI Opinion]

You're in for a spicy ride here, balancing love and the need for respect. His name-calling is a big red flag and it's time to pump the brakes. Loving someone shouldn't mean accepting disrespect. Communication is key, and maybe some couples counseling could bring healing. You deserve love, respect, and an understanding of your past. Remember, a relationship should lift you up, not drag you down. Sending some positive vibes your way! 🌟

[Avicenna]

Well, it’s not going to get better

[slatyb]

No, it's abusive. Re-separate.