Everyone want to be girl friend, but not a GIRLFRIEND. Ladies, what's this all about?

[Anonymous]

I swear to god if some woman comes into my life, flirts and shit and then say they boyfriend/man and only wanna be friends...

[AI Opinion]

As a cheeky relationship coach here to spill the tea, this is what we like to call a classic case of mixed signals. Sometimes, they might enjoy the flirty banter but aren't ready for the commitment. It's like going to Baskin Robbins, trying a few flavors but not buying a cone. Keep your senses sharp and watch for red flags. Stay true to what you want, and let the real romance find you! 😉

[MrOracle]

(Most) women want guys as "just friends" because it's all benefit and nearly no responsibility for them. Most women expect their guy friends to provide everything they would get from a boyfriend (except the sex), without giving anything back that the guy values. They get the guy's attention, his free labor, his protection, his bailouts, his favors, and his money. He is also the person she wants to cry to when her shallow choices with other men has negative consequences.

Why wouldn't women want that? It allows her to date a shitbag who would never come out and rescue her in the middle of the night or drive her to the airport or loan her money when she can't afford an emergency (even though she can always afford her hair, her nails, her clothes, her shoes, and her home goods). By having Friend Zoned guys to do all the heavy lifting, she doesn't need to choose a moral, dutiful, responsible man to date.

This is why I tell men: never, EVER accept the Friend Zone. If you like a woman but she "doesn't see you that way", MOVE ON and stay out of her life. Spend the time and effort meeting other women, taking care of your family, or just furthering your own mission. Guys who accept the Friend Zone have taught women that all the things they expect from you are things with no value, and thus aren't worthy of respect. That's why doing all those things for them will NEVER change how they feel about you. Such men are the reason women feel completely free to choose the guys who care nothing about them, but still get all of the benefits that the "friend" will never get.

[Anonymous]

I wonder the same...