What does "knowing what you want" mean?

[HawkPerception]

I hear people say all the time, "I want someone who knows what they want". Now to me, that's never really made much sense. I feel like most people know what they want in a partner and life, but things aren't so simple sometimes. Maybe you get into a relationship and feel like it's not working for whatever reasons. Maybe you're not happy with where you are in life and feel like you're just not in the right place emotionally. Everyone has their own justifications for not continuing a relationship. So I want to know what you think. What does it mean to you?

[virgo2267]

If I could go back in time to high school era I would have gone about interpreting g those words a lot more different than i should have…
It has been very clean to me now that those “magical” words only meant one thing: “LETS GET TO THE POINT”….
…now from my own experience, I may have lost a lot of potential hookups… not gonna say potential lasting relationships either, but at least a fun time with ever so beautiful girls….


Interpret it as:


DONT WASTE:
…. your time
Her time
This chance
This moment
This opportunity
Too much time thinking abiut it
Time worrying what other message think….


The list goes on but I would encourage you to make the most of it if your told those words by girls/women

[Purpleronnie]

I understand it as the point where you have
a certain amount of life and relationship experience and have additionally matured enough to know what is truly valuable in life to you and perhaps what you want your future to look like and who you need and want around you on your journey. It’s not so much your formative years where it’s about adventure and gaining experience exploring all aspects of what life has to offer , it’s more learning from that and perhaps in spite of that.


Well , that’s how I see it

[DishLady]

It means not thinking about anything 1/2-way. Being decisive.


Knowing what you want keeps you from wasting your time and the other person’s time in both work and relationships. Otherwise you seem like the “just for fun” guy.

[thegreenyogi]

It means many things but first of all it means you know who you are, what you believe in and what you stand for, it means you know what are red and green flags to you and once you reach this awareness there is no room for hesitation and it's this that leads one to know what they want and it's what one would wish to see in another and not settle for anything less.

[fonduegirl]

Like, what they want from a relationship, stuff like that. For example, Ryan wants a smart woman that laughs at his silly jokes, cooks with him and sometimes for him, wants children some day, loves movie dates and museum dates etc.

It's the little things

[queenofcardio]

Relationship wise , I interpret it asking someone how they picture their future. Do they want a family?

[genericname85]

it means that the woman expects you to pretend that she's exactly the girl you ever wanted even before you could reasobably know that and you're supposed to offer her long term stability and security in a relationship that her previous failed relationships couldn't give her. so in essence she's looking for you to make up for other guys mistakes. to me this is a big red flag.

[Ariesman81]

Agreed.

[Dongie]

Eeh, some guy said it years ago in reference to a specific thing and another guy heard it. It sounded cool so he used it and eventually it became a generic statement that was referring to nothing in particular but targeted future happiness.

[Ironco]

I don't believe anyone really knows what they want.

That being said, it makes finding what you want more important. You get the privilege of having fun trying to figure it out.

Sometimes it takes a while but then it works out, all is good. Then there is the times it doesn't work out. Take these experiences with you for next time you are trying to find "What you want"

[Caroline91]

To me it means knowing what my values are and having the integrity to hold to those values. That means I look at everything within that context when deciding to let someone/something into my life.

[TsundereMatrix]

To me it means you know what type of person who want. I still have to figure that out myself. I only know what I don’t want.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

In my understanding it means “someone capable of direct communication and can tell me their needs and whether or not I can meet them.”

[cindy5]

Knowing what you want for school and work and marriage and family are probably the biggest ones.

[RavVid]

In some ways what you want is highly intuitive and you more know what you don't want. This causes problems.

[Ariesman81]

I've always taken it to mean, "don't waste my time". Synonymous with, "dates to marry". Translation..."I'm going to shit test you til the end of time"

[lorenzomichael]

It means it’s gonna take a full commitment from me and plenty of hard work. My parents instilled that in me and my brothers and sisters so that’s not a problem

[fuddly]

I think it means priorities

Like you said people want a job and a wife

But which do they really want?

They might sacrifice the career for the relationship or vice versa

[Phoenix98]

It means exactly what it sounds like.

[Gabriel-Chicanito]

.. being assured''.