What do I do when I’ve fallen in love with my girl best friend but it’s unrequited love (at least I think it is)?

[Skizz]

[coachTanthony]

Ask her out on a date and don't tell her anything about these so called feelings. If she says no you still don't tell her because that would be even a more turn off for any friendship you might want to keep.

[princeofromance]

You move on and look for someone who will love you like you love them. I had to move on from a woman I liked because she is still hung up on her ex-boyfriend.

[AI Opinion]

Helping people navigate the rollercoaster of emotions, like that heart-flipping, stomach-tingling feeling of falling for your best friend, is why I'm here. If it's unrequited love, take a deep breath. It's risky but could be worth it. Evaluate how strong your friendship is and if you're willing to risk possible awkwardness. Gauge her signals. If you decide to talk, share your feelings openly, but be prepared for any outcome. Whether you choose friendship or confess, know that you'll learn something valuable about love and yourself. Remember, every love story is unique, just like you! 😉❤️

[AviatorTom]

Tell her how you feel. Her response will let you know your next step. Get serious, stay friends or move on.

[MrChinaski]

Some preamble.

You are not starting from behind.

1. Friends become lovers all the time and their friendship often forms the centre of their togetherness. Lovers that never become friends break up. Chilli-hot fever only lasts a few months in my experience.

2. It doesn't sound like your love is unrequited, yet. Unrequited means you express love and it is not returned. You have not expressed your love yet.

Whatever you do, you need to do it from a position of love and strength. If from that position you are willing to let go of your desire for the sake of your friendship, that is fine. If from that position you want to tell her what she means to you and ask her out, that is fine.

My advice is more on the negative side. Don't act from a position of fear and weakness. Would you want to go on a date with someone who felt themselves unworthy when they asked? Can you honestly take a decision to let go of your desires when you feel yourself unworthy?

Look after your mental health. Do things that centre you and make you feel strong. Then you will make the right choice for you.

And... whatever you do... DO NOT do nothing and hope that she will change. Regardless of where she is in her feelings for you, which seems pretty unclear, they are not going to magically change. And whether it is a friendship or a romantic friendship you decide you want, women respect men that act decisively, not wet rags that are unable to make a choice. Be a man, regardless of which way you go.

My 2 cents.

[236color]

Ok, if even you think it's unrequited, it almost certainly is. So take your shot, make it clear you are interested in a romantic relationship. If she shoots you down, move on. Unrequited love is useless and keeps you from pursuing a mutual relationship. It's okay for teenagers that aren't ready for real relationships, but at 23, it's time to start playing with live ammunition.

[236color]

Also, if it isn't going to be a romantic relationship, let it go. "Best friend" is not a consolation prize you want. You don't want to talk to her about her romantic/sexual escapades with guys other than you, do you?

[Fireguy17]

If it doesn't work out how you want it to, you suck it up and move on.

[Abbycado]

You do nothing.

[Skizz]

I do nothing? Yeah I’ve just been slowly killing myself wanting more but knowing I won’t ever get that

[Abbycado]

Would you like to lose her as a friend as well?

[Skizz]

No that’s my thing I have so much love for her that I don’t want to risk losing her but at the same time we both have so much love for each other and have expressed to each other multiple times that we can’t get together because our friendship means more

[Abbycado]

How do you say "it’s unrequited love at least I think it I" seemingly not knowing if she has feelings and then say that you both have so much love and expressed to each other multiple times?

This makes zero sense.

[Nikki1989]

You let it go.

[Anonymous]

confess. Propose

[In_Trance]

Have you railed her yet?

[Anonymous]

Just try to keep your friendship.