Is it true that people are more their habits and patterns more than anything else?

Question

While it’s true that people can change with time and with intention or willpower if they really want to, but what we tend to consistently does become our default or inherent nature with time.
For example if someone has a history of having only casual sex, will he ever truly be satisfied with just one woman?
If someone has a habit of running away from conflicts or shutting down, will they ever have a healthy relationship unless they learn to change their pattern?
If someone has a habit of constantly lying or taking no accountability, would they ever be able to be honest with themselves or others?

Hardon-Collider · Accepted Answer

All habits contribute to the way the etheric body is formed, and therefore persist into next lifetimes, unless you resolve them through willpower (and specific esoteric development).

Underdeveloped humans wait until they get an immersive feeling of sensual compulsion, then they act. And if they get no lust to toss them into a direction, then they simply procrastinate.

Which, I see as merely a display of functional constituents of a human that are out of whack. Your "I" is waiting for lusts to dictate what to do. Which means no matter what you do in this arrangement, what physical or mental tricks you implement to try changing the physical path you walk, the spiritual growth is stagnant and you are on a slippery slope in terms of physical outcomes. For example, without rearranging the relationship of your astral body to the "I", people who try their best to stop lusting after whores, often end up hating the whores. Both of these are turbulent violations of your "I" by the astral body's untamed impulses. It changes nothing spiritually, you're swapping one tyrannical motivator for another of equal fear factor.

Humans are supposed to have inner calm and strength, to be different from animals via self awareness and willpower. But they aren't due to lack of esoteric knowledge to make good use of their dormant spiritual faculties. Though I hope this doesn't come across as extremely black and white (esoteric training merely quickens what you'd naturally learn with indefinite amount of time). Yet we do have an "I" and egoic faculties that animals don't have, which causes evil shit like wars, if not utilized consciously. Thus, without esoteric training, humans are worse than animals.

So, you wouldn't change your habits, toward dramatic improvement in a single life time at this rate, unless your "I" takes the driver's seat, and stops being a puppet to impulsive fears and lusts.

Paul09 · Accepted Answer

It does seem that way. Habits are like an addiction. Biggest thing people should never stop , but mostly do. Is learning about everything. When you stop learning, you just let habits take over. Then it's a loop for them.

AvaRay · Accepted Answer

I think there’s some truth to the idea that our habits really shape who we are, cause what we do consistently tends to become our default way of being yk..

That also said that, people can change, but it also takes self awareness, intention, n effort..

For example, someone used to casual relationships might eventually want something more meaningful but only if they’re willing to reflect on themselves n adjust old patterns..

Same goes for people who avoid conflict, lie, or refuse accountability they won’t have healthy relationships unless they actively work to change..

Even tho yeah I can say that habits show a lot about someone, but they don’t define them completely..

Growth is always possible for those who are willing to put in the real effort.. 🥂🦋

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

Habits and patterns are what allow us to predict future behavior, which is essential for social trust and relationships, if that makes sense.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Oh, you're diving into the mysteries of human behavior and, oh boy, it's spicy! 🌶️ You're right – patterns and habits reveal a lot about us. They shape our lives, sometimes forming a lovebombing of comfort zones. But here's the twist: people can evolve just like a plot twist! 🌟 With self-awareness and motivation, even the most elusive ghost can embrace a healthier relationship dynamic. We’re not bound to our habits forever, and change is always part of the exciting "will they, won't they?" of life! 😉

aaron13547 · Answer

This explanation is what I think karma really is... just like we get addicted to drugs we get addicted to the thoughts we have... a person that thinks today is going to be a bad day has a bad day because that subconscious thought makes them only notice every bad thing during the day. Good things still happen but the brain only wants to see bad... we do this without knowing we are doing it. Your mind is always one step ahead of you to break a cycle you have to find a way to out think your own mind. What a paradox huh 🙂

sage2021 · Answer

People are creatures of habit, so it's been said.

I believe the basic way a person has grown to be, makes them set in their ways. It's who they have become and they see no reason to change.

Unless something happens to make them want to change, they will just continue on what they've been doing.

Makes one wonder why the old saying "You're can't teach an old dog new tricks" is still said to this day. 🤔

OneViewpoint · Answer

You’re asking if behavior is an indicator of personality and a persons beliefs and values.

Yeah, I think it’s the only reliable indicator. Words can be fabricated in the moment. Actions have consequences and generally reflect the result of whatever internal conversation we’ve had before we act. There’s less chance your actions are contrived and a better chance they reflect who we really are.

dwreborn · Answer

You can change habits with time and effort just like quitting smoking but who you are inside your head and heart is usually stuck with you

Anonymous · Answer

Life makes it impossible to keep to patterns and consistency. It's an illusion that we have any control, but we can try.

Kelly6 · Answer

@pearl222 yes it's true people will mostly stay in their habit.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, I think you're mostly right. But not all the people have habits, some people are immune to them.

jahaims · Answer

Actions speak louder than words

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

No, people are mostly their trauma responses

Colin234234 · Answer

I doubt it

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