It’s been a week since girlfriend got back from 2 week intense work trip and I haven’t seen her yet & she’s less communicative - normal?

[Anonymous]

I’m confused as we used to message each other all the time and were always making plans. She’s not initiated any messages with me but she’s posting a lot of stories on her insta. The most I’ve got out of her by asking her how she is was “I'm definitely still not 100%. Feeling quite weak and nauseous but now I'm back at work I should start to feel normal again soon” and when I said I have a lot to share with her “Oooh I'm intrigued
We'll setup a time to get together, I'm going to be doing 7 days in a row at work soon because I've got overtime 😭 it'll be worth it for the money but holy helll”

It’s normal

Somethings wrong

[Finchie40]

Sounds like she got nailed by someone else when she was away , don’t fall for her shit man , when a girl loves you , she won’t make excuses not to see you for days at a time , she is clearly spreading her legs for someone else

[OlderAndWiser]

There may be an office romance that has superseded your relationship.

[Asker]

I don’t think so

[OlderAndWiser]

Maybe not, but she had the opportunity to be with someone else exclusively for two weeks, and suddenly she is acting different and giving you what sounds like excuses to not see you. At least be alert to the possibility.

[Asker]

I’m worried - I told her I have a Halloween surprise for her and asked if she's around in the next week or 2 and left me on read

[OlderAndWiser]

Ghosting is next.

[Asker]

She’s going to ghost her boyfriend?

[Asker]

To be fair she replied to my message asking if she’s around in the next week or 2 for a Halloween surprise. She said she might be around next weekend but the train is down due to maintenance works which is true.

[Asker]

She just asked to meet up for a tea on the weekend. Could this be the breakup chat? I asked her if it’s bad and if everything’s ok and she just said “oh I meant more to catch up”

[OlderAndWiser]

Possibly but maybe not. Please post an update after the meeting.

[Asker]

She blindsided me as expected. Said we’re better as friends

[OlderAndWiser]

You've already been replaced. When you feel the loss, remember that you lost a woman who doesn't value loyalty.

[OlderAndWiser]

My condolences. I've been there and done that!

[Asker]

How do you know she cheated?

[OlderAndWiser]

I don't know, but it is a strong suspicion. You were okay, she went away for two weeks with office staff, came back and avoided you until she could give you the breakup speech. She very likely hooked up with a coworker during those two weeks.

[Asker]

It wasn’t an office trip, it was a film shoot. But I think she checked out from the relationship weeks ago and I checked out months ago.

[NoDecision]

Maybe she met someone there and you are now taking the back seat.

[Asker]

She said she’s exhausted. Didn’t eat properly and only ran on 4 hours sleep

[NoDecision]

Well, hopefully she is not a liar.

[Asker]

I don’t think she’s lying.

[Asker]

I’m worried - I told her I have a Halloween surprise for her and asked if she's around in the next week or 2 and left me on read

[Asker]

To be fair she replied to my message asking if she’s around in the next week or 2 for a Halloween surprise. She said she might be around next weekend but the train is down due to maintenance works which is true.

[Asker]

She just asked to meet up for a tea on the weekend. Could this be the breakup chat? I asked her if it’s bad and if everything’s ok and she just said “oh I meant more to catch up”

[AI Opinion]

Ah, love in the modern age! 🥰 It sounds like she's caught up in a whirlwind of work and may need some time to decompress after her intense trip. Communication is key, but it's easy to feel a little left out when you're seeing her active elsewhere, like on her Instagram.

Give her space, and let her know you're there if she needs support. Check in without pressure and wait for her to get back to you when she’s ready. 🌟 It’s likely not a red flag, just a busy season in her life. Keep smiling, you're doing great! 🌈

[RavVid]

This doesn't seem a girlfriend glad to be home to her boyfriend. Sorry mate.

[Asker]

She just asked to meet up for a tea on the weekend. Could this be the breakup chat? I asked her if it’s bad and if everything’s ok and she just said “oh I meant more to catch up”

[RavVid]

She seems very casual and non urgent to see you. Catching up is more something you do with a friend rather than a boyfriend and as it was in response to you asking if it is bad, it feels even more off hand to me.

You might well get a we're better as friends line. Be stoic.

[Asker]

That is a breakup

[RavVid]

Yes but a softer one than I had time to reflect and realized you are a piece of worthless scum.

I've been reading lately that women don't value men that want them. So you might want to have a well I can do better attitude too. And be stoic rather than I can do more for you to bribe her back.

[Asker]

Is weird when she was being affectionate and passionate last time we met and there was plenty of sex.

[RavVid]

Yeah. You can't know till you know so best not to drive yourself crazy meantime. She seems to have said she has been ill so it might just be that.

All you can do is sit tight till you meet. If it is still on, you do need to ask if she is good enough for you. I think most guys and girls would expect an absent partner to be keen to make contact on return and to keep in contact whilst away.

Objectively she hasn't been a good girlfriend and it would be appropriate to put in some boundaries.

I had a girlfriend who expected me to be in frequent contact when away but didn't when she was visiting family. It was really showing a bad arrogant attitude towards me.

[Anonymous]

Sex with another guy.

[Asker]

She just asked to meet up for a tea on the weekend. Could this be the breakup chat? I asked her if it’s bad and if everything’s ok and she just said “oh I meant more to catch up”

[Anonymous]

I think it's ok, she probably needs time.

[Asker]

I’m worried - I told her I have a Halloween surprise for her and asked if she's around in the next week or 2 and left me on read

[Opinion Owner]

She probably just needs some time alone.

[Asker]

To be fair she replied to my message asking if she’s around in the next week or 2 for a Halloween surprise. She said she might be around next weekend but the train is down due to maintenance works which is true.

[Asker]

She just asked to meet up for a tea on the weekend. Could this be the breakup chat? I asked her if it’s bad and if everything’s ok and she just said “oh I meant more to catch up”

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe she just wants to talk.