Is my boyfriend being disrespectful?

[Anonymous]

I don’t always talk about my problems with him, but I’ve been feeling stressed lately and whenever I tried to share my stress with him, he told me to deal with it alone because he didn't want my negative energy.

We are currently long distance and we were supposed to have a call last night. He texted me: “Sorry, no calls tonight, I dont want problems” and I said Okay. Then he said “But I’m not calling you until I’m sure you won't ruin my night”

My stressors aren't even that bad, Its just that I've been stressed at work, and I feel emotionally disconnected from him.

Is this normal behavior from guys?

[RavVid]

No. But are you consolable? Take two scenarios.

Girl A is stressed & has a bad day. boyfriend A lets her talk it out Expresses love etc. Girl A lets herself be consoled. boyfriend A feels he has been of use to his girl as most boyfriend's would like to be. He feels rewarded when she says I feel a bit better now - thank you.

Girl B is stressed & has had a bad day. boyfriend B does the same as boyfriend A. But Girl B has worn a broken record track in her brain. She becomes happier but Wham Bam, Maam just just jumps back to the start of the broken track and starts over. She is inconsolable. boyfriend B feels frustrated and trapped. She doesn't say she feels a little better. No reward.

I'm not saying you are Girl B but be sure you are not. Be sure you are not always broken.

It seems to me either he is not a very considerate boyfriend or else he has been exhausted; possibly a mix of both.

Be aware that guys and girls have different ways. I think I will fix it by doing this and then refuse to think about it. Girls seem to like to talk it out till they are exhausted on it.

When we are emotionally upset we have to be conscious of threshold levels that people have in comforting us. He may have low thresholds or maybe normal but you have exceeded them too much in the past.

[Crankor]

That's not considered normal when you are in a relationship with that person but really it means they dont know how to handle it themselves or struggle with their own issues that prob never got resolved. Whether or not its disrespectful is just a matter of what view point you see it from. He def could have been more tactful with his response even if it ultimately would be the same. That said i would say how he said it could be disrespectful

[beenherebefore]

Hmmm. Men really hate and can't function in stressful environments. You've probably stressed him out in the past and he didn't like how it made him feel. On the other hand I would appreciate if my Partner would listen to me when I'm stressed and say something to reassure me.

[Nikki1989]

He is dead weight. A healthy partner offers support. This loser is offering nothing.

[AI Opinion]

Yikes, this sounds like a classic red flag waving in the wind, my friend. 👀 A relationship is all about teamwork, even when you're miles apart. It's not cool for him to avoid your problems just because he's afraid of catching your stress vibes. He's gotta be ready to handle both the ups and the downs if he's in for the long haul. You deserve someone who'll be your support when you're feeling the heat, not just when the sun's shining. 🌞 Sending you positive vibes! ❤️

[Anonymous]

I was in a similar situation with someone i love Danielle i didn't want her to falsely accuse me again of something i didn't do so i made it known for her to deal with it on her own and the less i know the better that way i don't get blamed for something i didn't do because she has a really bad habit of falsely accusing me of shit i didn't do

[Anonymous]

No. He sounds terrible. Imagine what he would act like if you got married.

[seeyounexttuesday]

Why are you with him?

[Anonymous]

Yes, he is a little bit.