Boyfriend gets can be disrespectful?

[Anonymous]

I’ve told my boyfriend of 5 years to not call me stupid or tell me to shut up, especially in front of our daughter who has learned to repeat words. She has now picked up those words and says shut up when she is upset. When I bring this up, he gets bothered and tells me to stop talking. I don’t even bicker or yell when I ask him to stop using this kind of language. I don’t think a man should insult or talk to the mother of his kid like that. Whether they’re mad or not. I don’t understand why he gets hotheaded when I am asking something so simple of him. I don’t disrespect him or call him out of his name at all. So all I ask is that he doesn’t do it to me either. Guys, do you have any advice?

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He has also told our daughter to shut up, which I am extremely against. My daughter does not have any behavior issues so I don’t find it necessary or okay for him to tell our toddler to shut up. What could his issue be? Why does he find the need to talk to his family like that?

[Guy13]

The only way this is going to stop is for you to separate yourself from the boyfriend. He obviously has no regard for you. Visitation can be arranged through Court. You get the pleasure of retraining her. YOu have no other recourse except to continually show your daughter that it is okay to let a man mistreat you...

[Singing_Hollow]

He has no respect for you or your relationship. It starts with verbal abuse and can easily escalate to physical and mental. You need to show him you will not tolerate this. He only does it because he gets a slap on the wrist and knows you won't walk out. Change that for you and your child!

[Anonymous]

He treats you that way because you allow him to. You need to assert boundaries that you will not allow to be crossed.

[Asker]

How do I assert boundaries?

[Opinion Owner]

Asserting boundaries just means drawing lines you won't allow to be crossed, like saying "i won't allow you to treat me with disrespect" or "don't ever put hands on me with violence". Then, importantly, stand your ground. If the boundaries are violated, don't accept it. Make changes including taking a break or full on breaking up to show that you mean what you say.