Is she faking happiness? What should I do? I’m overeating?

[Yrios20]

I had a situationship for 12 years going on. I never officially dated. I invited him to church and I have a best friend for 8years. I told her that It would be super hard for me if she started liking him. (He’s 30 and she’s 23) she said that it was to gross to think about it, in June of this year, but on August I found out that they were texting and planning to go out. It broke me, she was also very sad and said that she was very sorry. That she didn’t want him, she actually felt the same vibe of her ex (toxic ) that she doesn’t know how she ended up like that. I forgave her and two months later I felt her off. We took a break but I received a call of an other friend saying that she went out with him. I called her and we broke up the relationship, she’s now dating him officially.. was she sincere about that she didn’t want him? Now everyone telling me That she looks happier than ever. I don’t understand why she is now with him. When she said that she knew that he wasn’t for her… also the time that I forgave her she stopped talking to him and he was already talking with other girls.( he is like that) and she know how he is. But she kept talking to him. And now I’m alone

[Amy_Mi]

I’m truly sorry you’re carrying that kind of heartbreak, betrayal from both a friend and someone you cared for cuts deep.

No, her actions weren’t sincere.

People can say they don’t want something, then still chase it out of insecurity, loneliness, or ego.

What she told you was likely guilt talking, not truth.

And his behavior just confirms what you already knew he thrives on attention, not commitment.

They may look “happy,” but that doesn’t mean stable or real.

Some people smile the brightest when they’re trying hardest to convince themselves.

Focus on your healing, not their illusion.

You lost people who lacked loyalty, but you didn’t lose your worth.

Don’t punish yourself through overeating, nurture your body as an act of self-respect, not self blame.

You’re not alone.

You’re just being redirected toward peace and toward people who actually know what loyalty means.

[Nikki1989]

The contradictions in her behavior—saying it was “gross,” expressing regret, and then dating him officially—are baffling from an external perspective, but they make sense when analyzed through the lens of emotional confusion and self-interest.

It is highly likely she was sincere in the moment but dishonest with herself about the depth of her desire or interest.

[glennos89]

I think she lied about the part of not wanting him. I think she might have tried to set you up for failure putting doubts in your mind

[Yrios20]

But she stopped talking to him for 2 months. He even was taking with someone else he has this pattern that he likes to text a lot of women so she also knows this but she kept with a relationship. I don’t know what’s in her mind like I don’t think she values herself tha much.

[glennos89]

I think you're right! Some people are just desperately looking for love and they don't want see the negative sides that comes with it

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach on GAG, I gotta say, love triangles and "situationships" can really twist the heart, can't they? It sounds like you're in a whirlwind of emotions right now. Your bestie's sudden switch might feel like a betrayal, but remember, everyone’s path to happiness is different, even if it’s with a known lovebombing type. Don't let their drama consume you entirely. Keep an eye out for your own red flags and focus on your healing journey. Self-love is the key here. Keep your chin up, superstar! You’ve got this! 💪❤️

[Anonymous]

I think it's quite possible.