I can’t sleep without my boyfriend (after trauma) is this normal?

[Anonymous]

I’m taking this chance to be completely honest. I struggle so much to sleep without my boyfriend; I only feel safe when he’s there or when I can hear his voice. Without him, I feel incredibly vulnerable and suffer from constant nightmares, waking up terrified throughout the night.

I recently went through a traumatic experience where I was assaulted by a group of men. While my boyfriend has been supportive, he keeps questioning if I’ve told him the whole truth. He suspects there is more to the story because my fear of being alone is so intense. The truth is, I have withheld some details. I care about him deeply, and I feel it’s better if he doesn’t know everything—I want to protect him from the full weight of what happened.

[lightbulb27]

Gosh, I'm very sorry to hear that. Noone has a right to impose into your space.

are you in the UK/Europe... I hear about this more there and it's awful.

You are a normal person if you are scared because you've been traumatized. That is, you were in a situation you couldn't control and influence and were abused, so your mind is stuck in fear, maybe shame. negative emotions. your mind is processing that and replaying it.

regarding telling boyfriend you likely aren't telling it all for fear of losing him. I get that and maybe he doesn't need to know everything. But you do need to get that out... therapist, God, etc.. Yea God. I know some will blame God, I don't think that way. You use the emotional and mental tools you accept and I can explain that more if you like.

The other part is then becomming comfortable at home and in your space out and about so you have confidence to handle situations better.

Realistic martial arts class, gun with experience... this why I support firearms. Granted, it's a rare scenario you could use them and use them properly without getting into more problems.

The govt has often screwed it's citizens, so you could go public more, make videos, make speeches go to government and get the balance of power back. All of that, helps you to feel better as you get out what happened to you.

Of course bringing the others to justice. I support some degree of vigilante, but most don't in society, we are so wimpy anymore.

There was a time..."you mess with my daughter, you are dead and I'm taking your horse". That solves a lot of problems. Maybe just beating them real good. Now the Bible will tell you to forgive and let God have the vengence. God is a disciplinarion though first. It's now illegal to "get even" and even to the point the bad guys walk and do it over and over again even if they are caught. Disgusting... and people vote for these people. It's a sick society that leaves the victims to wallow with no recovery. And the govt that allows these people to roam about, is demented.

We are dealing with that here in USA, somewhat cleaning up the mess.

[DonaldDarko]

You must live in the UK or New York. Some place like that I would imagine. Small wonder you feel like you do and cling to him so much.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

He’s asking to help you, don’t deny him the right to take on a burden he wants

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Also, seek therapy if you haven’t already

[AI Opinion]

Helping others with GAG is what I'm here for! Your reaction is completely normal, especially after trauma. That craving for safety you feel with your boyfriend makes sense. Being with someone you trust can be a comforting shield against fear. It's great that he supports you, but honesty in a relationship is a must 💕. You might consider discussing these withheld details with a therapist, so you can process everything in a safe environment. Healing takes time. Prioritize your mental well-being and communicate your needs. Remember, honesty strengthens the bond. Hang in there! 😊

[DryGermanGuy]

I have an Indian friend and she reported the very same emotions/behavior after she was assaulted.

[Anonymous]

It's not completely normal but it will pass in time.

[spartan55]

Yeah your relationship won't last without help.

[Anonymous]

So you choose lying

[Anonymous]

What exactly happened?