What do you think are the most important things to work on together as a couple to keep the relationship strong?

[Celeste12]

[Summeroflove]

Communication…. Not playing games and expecting one another to read your mind. You express your wants and needs. You express how you feel… It’s both persons jobs it’s not a cryptic riddle. When communication fails…. Resentment and negative feelings build. Anger, resentment, disappointment, etc. At worst if you communicate and you’re just not compatible you can exit the relationship peacefully.

Two is effort. Two people who genuinely love one another will invest in one another. How you invest and what roles you play…. Is different depending on the relationship and what both people want. But regardless it should be equal. Even if that looks different in different roles. One sided relationships are miserable and only will last so long until someone breaks.

Loyalty. Don’t cheat. Don’t think about cheating. Don’t act on cheating… have integrity even if you know you could get away with it. Don’t. Leave…. If it’s that bad or that intense of a feeling. Leave the current relationship.

[Finchie40]

Good communication and trust and honesty, and most importantly, learn how to remove selfishness for each other. Selfishness is one of the biggest relationship killers and everyone has selfishness inside themselves, you should always wear your partners' shoes before making decisions, instead of just thinking of yourself. Just because you think something is ok, it might not be ok to your partner, so don't just assume it's ok, and this is where good communication comes into play, include your partner, make them aware of what you are doing and deciding before acting on it. a lot of people in relationships just assume things are ok and think it's fine to make decisions on their own, when really it isn't because you are no longer single, when you enter a relationship with someone, your single days are over, if they aren't? that relationship will not last whatsoever. and be prepared to be single again. Selfish people aren't meant for relationships because all they think about is themselves

[GeminiDiamond]

To build a solid communication line. To work on friendship just as much as being lovers. Giving and taking equally. Understanding. And lastly, appreciate all the little moments.

When both aren't contributing equally, whoever is doing more will usually get resentful, and then be a victim; and these relationships usually always fail.

[DishLady]

Respectful communication. We're always getting our wires crossed with guys (whether as friends or spouses or anything else). It's something we all need to be constantly vigilant about in order to sustain a healthy and strong relationship. With that, everything else (love, trust, respect) will flourish.

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach leading the love game, I'd say communication and trust are the dreamy duo you want to focus on. 😉 You gotta work together like a gorgeous waltz, addressing issues before they become massive monsters. Remember to embrace vulnerability and sprinkle in some spontaneity to keep the love fire burning! Keep an eye out for those pesky red flags too! 😍 #LoveWins

[ohsheeT]

The moment you become one with somebody , you have to let go of the egos

People that carry their egos into a relationship, they become right fighters. It doesn't matter what you're talking about. They have to be right, and that's just not it. You can't have that you work on things each and every day you're there to build each other. To learn together to become one , and if you know how to do that , then you can get through just about everything , but you have to experience that first to understand it

[HawkPerception]

Communication. Not being lazy to put in effort when it comes to your own appearance, health, and understanding your partner. You should put in as much effort to make your partner happy as you do for yourself.

[Simslover92]

Good communication is the foundation to keep a relationship strong and thriving. Without that, everything ends up falling apart.

[Lliam]

Be best friends. Have fun and do things together. Find joy in each other's company. Build happy memories.
Take an interest in each other's interests and help your partner to achieve joy and fulfillment.
Chat about all kinds of things and listen to each other as intimate best friends.
Respect each other. Compliment each other. Always let them know that you love them.
Don't be critical, judgmental or bossy.
Be willing to make compromises.
Never put your partner down, even when there is a disagreement.
Have each other's backs.

Give each other space. Don't be too clingy.
Trust each other.
Be loyal.
Make them feel safe, secure and valued.

[Purpleronnie]

Communication , that’s both the talking part and very importantly the understanding.


Effort and reciprocity - attraction fades when effort does , you have to actively choose your partner on purpose not just be default. The effort and energy one puts in must be matched by the other !


Disagreements / conflict , these are normal , but what’s not normal is keeping score , being defensive and contempt , and not arguing fair but casting up old wrongs to win points.. disagreements are resolved and both move on in agreement.


Appreciation , saying thanks and meaning it , showing thanks and sincerity


Always promote honesty and transparency in communication of emotions , having your partner feel it’s safe to be completely open and unjudged without it being thrown back at them builds trust which is obvs super important.
Being apart , sounds contradictory but both need Space and boundaries to prevent resentment

[Anonymous]

(Just taking your age into account) always set aside time for eachother. Life happens as we age. Career, kids, kids school activities, social commitments etc.

You have to remember nobody stays STATIC over the years. Think about it. You're not the person you were 10 years ago, 5 years ago, or maybe even a year ago. Why would you think your partner would be any different in that. And as you age more of the things I listed above make demands on your time and attention. It's not surprising how many people get married, have kids, and then 20 years or so later when they have an empty nest, don't even know their partner anymore. Because you essentially became co-workers in the business of raising kids. Kids are wonderful, I'm not suggesting they're not. But a couple always need to have date nights etc. To keep that fire lit. They need to grow and change together. Because if not they WILL grow apart.

Maybe this post was a little too specific?

[ManOnFire]

Intimacy. Keep being the person that your partner can't get enough of emotionally and also sexually. This really is crucial because it deters cheating. There are couples who have a great life in almost every way yet someone in that relationship still goes out and cheats because they either aren't satisfied sexually or feel like an emotional connection is lost. So you really want to make sure that you are both pounding each other's brains out spiritually, emotionally, and physically.

[DonaldDarko]

Seems like it should just go on automatically. Know each other's personalities at least as much as you can. World view is important too, if you're selfish and shallow and regard your mate as something to be thrown away as soon as you don't feel like being with him anymore then that relationship is over at that point, it's doomed to fail anyway just because of having those kinds of values.

[UrLoveMocha]

For me I think it’s communication and listening, those aré important.. but the most important part of that is HEARING the message.. You have to make sure you’re hearing and understanding it.. Some people only hear things from their perspectives and fail or are unwilling to hear it from the others.

[elTAHAwy]

We are grown up not just kids and we choose ourselves by our complete will, we to need to remember and reconsider this commitment so as to keep our relationship first, then we need to find if anything wrong happened and the wrong need to apologize and regret no shame on that and how we can prevent this un future and know that and acknowledge that relationships may flatter overtime

[BruceWayne32123]

Stay on top of important milestones, make sure to talk and stay interested in their life, be physical with one another often to make sure that part doesn’t go stale, go out of your way to do things that you know your partner will appreciate.

[Zack-Bann]

As long as we still drive each other crazy the love will never truly die


Unfortunately until now the only women who drove me crazy were unattainable


I still hope to meet one who also happens to be single when we do

[miana]

Definitely compromise, and not stopping what you did when the relationship first started, the same amount of effort, and communication as the first few days, the same amount of interest, and just never stop dating your partner.

[molonski2]

I think now ( after far too much experience)
Communication , and doing things together , find mutual interests , the moment you start going down a Solo path , it's beginning of the end.

[Danny_dan92]

Mutual respect


Trust


Good communication


Loyalty towards each other

[WhitneySnow]

Trust communication expressing your love for each other and sex (in whatever form you’re comfortable expressing that)

[ABC1x1x]

Keep having kids. After 7 years if you dont have kids or a reason to be together, you won't. Keep having kids because sex gets lame at 40 and a challenge at 45. If you dont have kids or sex, you'll just hate eachotherall day.

[fuddly]

I can see the logic in this

No matter the couple there is a more attractive open not far away

Olden days people kept having kids because there was no contraception

Then grandchildren

[ABC1x1x]

I wish I saw the logic before turning 44. Thank God we had an opps baby at 40. I got 10 more years with this bitch.

[andreasderjuengere]

I don't think that it's something you work on 'together'.
Is it not more an individual drive to stay "qualified" for the relationship?

[DryGermanGuy]

Communication, communication, communication!

[Nikki1989]

Good communication is the key to everything.

[Desi_Butcher]

Not trying to dominate the other. Giving them free space is essential instead of being too much clingy.
Not letting the love fade away.

[exitseven]

We need to align our goals and discuss when we have differences of opinion.

[Alex-Snow]

Trust, honest communication, commitment, sexual compatibility, and caring for each other

[Anonymous]

Communication, compromise, keeping the flame alive. That last one takes effort and compromise for both partners, especially after years of marriage, but it is sooo worth it.

[Anonymous]

To have secret sexual relationship with someone else while you're in relationship otherwise you will get bored eating same food everyday.

[FreyaRed]

Mutual respect

[EmmaMary]

Communication, Compromise and Commitment.

[Kelly6]

@Celeste12 trust and loyalty

[LiamJHayden]

Good conflict resolution skills.

[LiamS95]

Honesty, Trust, Faithfulness and great sex.

[Bloodparadise]

Honesty and mutual independence

[beefcakebradybatson]

Communication and compatibility.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Trust and understanding respect and transparency

[Daytoday79]

Honesty, trust, respect and love

[Anonymous]

Mutual understanding.

[Slim57]

Communication and compatibility

[queenofcardio]

Quality time

[zombiewoof]

Trust, understanding

[dudeinohio]

Communication

[MasterKS]

sex!