Why are you single despite wanting a relationship?

[Simslover92]

[Summeroflove]

Many times people are single by choice. Why? Because you know what they’re doing themselves and others a favor they aren’t settling. They aren’t wasting their own time and more importantly someone else’s time that they either

• A: Aren’t interested in
  Or
• B: They know there isn’t a future with someone.

It’s also hurtful to someone else if you pretend to be really into them when you’re really just desperate for a relationship and would leave him/her at the drop of a hat if someone came along you perceive as better or you feel a genuine spark towards.

Sometimes finding someone you’re both attracted to and compatible with takes time. Sometimes you see red flags in people. Sometimes two people want different things. Sometimes… on paper someone is amazing but you’re not attracted. Again…. Not to waste your own time or someone else’s time that they can find someone who really wants them and is compatible.

Real relationships can take time. Finding the right person can take time. And being too desperate can sabotage that. Get you taken advantage of…. Or cause you to take advantage of someone.

[HawkPerception]

Mostly because I don't my life together at my old age of 32. And I don't go out to socialize much because of that as well. It affects all aspects of my life. Confidence, love, financial situation, etc.

[CherryLove007]

Men are shady. It seems like 99.999999999% are.

A lot of men (massive numbers) were not taught by a father or mentor...

how to communicate feelings, how to be vulnerable, how to handle conflict,
how to court with intention.

The truth most people don’t say is there are good men. They are often already partnered, cautious, not flashy and working long hours.

[PeachyPie93]

I'm kind of stuck on a certain guy, he likes me but he doesn't think it will last or be worth moving for lol..

[Iron_Man]

Welk you can always find a guy on gag Elaine will introduce you to one of her friends 😊

[PeachyPie93]

@Iron_Man Thanks but I think I rather stay stuck on Mr. Unavailable.. He seems to be opening up more to me lately which feels really sweet and cute.. and I like how dealing with him helps me grow emotionally and maturely as a person. Even if we don't ever end up dating I still think whatever we have going on will be a good experience for me.

[Iron_Man]

Good luck

[AI Opinion]

Helping lovebirds find their match is my thing! Being single can be a mix of intense self-discovery, waiting for the right person, and dodging red flags on the love battlefield 🤺. Time, self-awareness, and a touch of vulnerability are your best allies. Remember, the universe might have your crush busy somewhere—probably practicing their smooth moves 🕺. Keep shining and make sure when love knocks, you're ready to dance! 💃✨

[Finchie40]

Because I am trying to play my cards right this time around , considering I thought I was going to be with my wife until the end , also I don’t feel as good as I once was now that I am older , So i would love to meet someone , but it seems the girls’ I meet today don’t really want relationships, they just want casual with no commitment, so until I meet a girl that wants commitment, I am staying single

[nastyb]

They want relationships... they just don't want you.
if you just went for women who wanted you, there would be no problem.

[Shrimpenjoyer]

@nastyb why should he go for women who don't want him?

[Finchie40]

No, they just want their cake and to eat it to , I don’t stay with selfish girls’ that only think of themselves

[nastyb]

@shrimpenjoyer

The pattern I have seen amongst Men is they always go for women who are out of their league. Guys like the chase. But what happens in the end is... the girl usually treats him like shift cuz she is just settling for him

[Finchie40]

Girls’ like the chase as well , so it can go both ways , the problem with most people today is they are never content with what they have , they are easily influenced by their friends’ or social media etc. thinking grass is constantly greener on the other side , it’s a vicious cycle that hardly ever ends , things are usually always great in the beginning when we meet someone new , but in time that can easily change by selfish decisions. Most people are selfish , that say they want certain things , but when they receive that certain thing , it’s never good enough and that’s why so many relationships fail these days. Selfishness is one of the biggest relationship killers , that most people do not know how to remove from themselves for their partner. If things don’t go their way , they head to the highway to someone else. I been down this road plenty of times to the point I am now being picky about who I am going to give my heart to. I am over having my heart shit on by selfish girls’ that want me to do for them but can’t do for me. Basically thanks for a good time but not a long time.

[nastyb]

@Finchie40

Girls actually don't like the chase. Girls are less likely to chase than men. That's why guys Are always pestering Girls for their numbers way more than vice versa.

Girls are only selfish when they're with guys they don't actually want. When a girl see a a guy she truly wants to be with, she will give up anything to be with him. She treats you according to how much you are worth within her eyes

[Shrimpenjoyer]

@nastyb enough with the "out of the league" nonsense. That doesn't exist

[Finchie40]

I agree , out of the league shit doesn’t exist , someone that thinks it does , needs a wake up call and needs to get off of social media immediately because it is warping your brain. And girls’ do chase , I had my fair share of chasing girls’ especially when I was already in a relationship with someone else. People want what they want and sometimes they will do what it takes to get them.

[nastyb]

@Finchie40

Leagues definitely do exist. If you are an old unattractive man with kids only going for hot young girls at least 15 to 30 years younger than you, yes you will run into a lot of trouble

Just the same way a fat woman who only wants to date hot, muscular tall in shape men. The likelihood of him treating her with respect as an equal is pretty low

[Chazmatazz269]

I don’t want a relationship. However, when i did want an exclusive relationship the reason that i was single could almost always be boiled down to the following.
The women that i wanted to be with didn’t want to be with me and i didn’t want to be with the women who wanted to be with me.
Some people distill that coincidence to “broken picker”, and i have no argument.

[Alex_Bright]

Because it takes time to clean up the mess from the previous one. Splitting things, setting up your new life, saving for the new house.

When you're young you deal with the emotions most of all. When you're older there's a lot more paperwork involved.

[WhitneySnow]

I’m not, but some of my friends are. My female friends are because no guy they like wants a relationship, and my male friends are because all the girls they know just want to be friends (in general; there are some exceptions on both sides). Just last week two of them got together and made it official, and that made me really happy.

[lilBigPotato]

I don't want a relationship. I'm not against one but also not craving one. mostly doing short term dating and if something turns into something more meaningful, great, and if not also ok. Happy right now.

[ibduved]

I'm taking my time working on my mental health before I would search for a new one, since my last broke me and I need time to heal, as it's not fair for a new person to deal with my unsolved problems.

[Still-alive]

I want a good relationship not just anything. that kind of thing takes time which i am ok with. im a patient guy.

I'd rather be single my whole life than being in anymore toxic relationships thank you lol

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I feel like you don’t think about yourself enough, and when you do think of yourself you feel some inherent level of shame.

[zagor]

I'm not really interested in a relationship anymore but when I was it was largely due to not meeting many people. I worked in an environment that was 80% male and most of my recreational time was spent doing things with a similar ratio.

[Paige90]

Because I am very particular

[Gramkabir]

What are the particulars you carry while meeting a guy?

[Nerdvana]

Because I have the worst combination a guy can have. I am a nice guy and I am not very attractive.

[MikeTheBartender]

Too picky, wanting a woman that is a combo of everyone I enjoyed (fake expectations), and normal shit like working too much

[sawno]

Haven't found the right person, and my current situation makes dating difficult.

[Anonymous]

Partly because I can’t find someone I want and partly because I can’t trust people.

[Anonymous]

The fear of falling into the same trap again.

[Anonymous]

It's very simple:

Girls I like - Usually don't like me.

Girls who like me - Are usually not my type.

[Berethor]

I guess because I want a virgin and they are not easy to find, no hymen, no diamond.

[RichardCranium6201]

Dude, wth, that's weird. We're in 2026, ain't no woman of age still a virgin. I mean a women can say she's a virgin, and you would never know she was lying to you.

[Berethor]

I don't care if it 2026, I am traditional, and I never said that she has to be my age, as for lying hos, yes she can lie, but there is ways to tell, the hymen, and also the way she is acting.

[Isaywhatifeel122]

@RichardCranium6201 not true I am 33 and still a virgin. Every woman on this planet is not a hoe

[blackeagle007]

You’re still weird. Be realistic

[Berethor]

@Isaywhatifeel122 I am glad to hear that, you can follow me if you want to chat. :)

[Jerre]

No, I’m single because I choose to be. I e njoy sex with my friends with benefits and they love sex with me as they know I always make them cum many times.

[queenofcardio]

My standards have changed

[MisterPandemonium]

@queenofcardio Changed how? What's the standard that's so hard for guys to meet?

[Isaywhatifeel122]

Im looking for a blonde blue eyed man who inherited a lot of money so he dont have to work whos kind generous and not controllkng who follows the bible and love Jehovah God

[Quigly]

Question doesn't make sense. You can have a relationship and also be single.

[Lyndseylou38]

Men have abused me and I'm traumatized.

[msc545]

Women are too dangerous to deal with.

[loveyouoak]

Because I haven't found the right man yet.

[Anonymous]

I have horrible social skills.

[CaptainSmartass]

Lack of confidence.

Simples...

[robocop666]

I dont socialise enough

[Statuesque_Soul]

I already have someone I love.

[Anonymous]

Yes.