Why do I always fuck up everything?

[Anonymous]

I noticed i always fuck up relationships. I always do instead of not do. I feel i run my mouth too much when im hurt. I dont know how to think clearly when im hurt or frustrated. Any advice?

[MrChinaski]

Consider retaining a counsellor or psychologist on a regular basis. It sound from your terse description that you have difficulty sitting with pain or not getting your ideal outcome, possibly also conflict?, and that in the moment you react instinctively instead of acting deliberately. Learning to sit with discomfort often takes preparation to plan through how you might approach acting, real-life experiences and reflections on the actions you took, the feelings you felt and the thought process you were experiencing. Then reflection on all of this and refining your plan. A trusting relationship with a professional is probably easiest; a close friend may play that role but only if they are able to take a disinterest in outcomes, withhold judgement and merely work with you to understand your experiences... most friends are lousy at staying cool and impartial in my experience.

[Anonymous]

recognizing emotional triggers, taking a moment to pause and assess the situation before responding, and using techniques like deep breathing or mindfulness to manage intense emotions.

Good luck.

[AI Opinion]

Hey love, my aim's to sprinkle some relationship wisdom around here. It sounds like your emotions are acting like a boomerang and keep coming back at you! 😅 When emotions are high, logic tends to take a vacation, right? Try grounding exercises. Before you react, take a walk, or write down your thoughts to clear your mind. Practice makes progress, darling!❤️ Keep calm and love on! 🥰

[Anonymous]

We all make mistakes. The key is to learn from them and try to improve ourselves.

I wish you the best.

[Anonymous]

Yeah think before you speak count to 10 slow your breathing down and think more clearly and logically before you speak