She says I need to prove I love her?

[William0802]

She says I need to prove I love her but tells me she’s “touched out” refuses to go on dates I buy flowers she says aww thanks then just lets them die I buy her gifts but yet I need to prove I love her without being able to touch her I tell her everyday by mouth and messages throughout the day I guess it’s still not enough

[Noredcarpet]

Ask her directly what is it she needs to feel loved by you, because this is a cruel guessing game so far if anything and everything you do is wrong or not enough. She is punishing you over something. This way of going about will in the end punish herself and if she ever later on regrets that then it may be too late.

I see you mentioned the only time she wants to talk is when she thinks something is wrong. Are they then every day annoyments about the dishes or what ever or is it something specific you two can't see eye to eye?

Both of you need to try to get this right, she can't continue to sit with her arms crossed like this, you can't do this on your own. I would suggest you tell her you think if the two of you can not sort this out to get help. In the meanwhile I would not continue to do the things you do to guess she will feel loved by you, I would pause that. Its time for honesty.

I would in my past get frustraded with my ex who I had been clear to in my communication what was wrong and needed to change (foremost for his own sake), but he lived apparently on another planet, continuing to give flowers (outside my front door), etc. Anything really but doing the change. But the two of you are still on but it is scary to hear I can imagine that she has tooned out, out of touch like this were she does not allow herself to feel. There has to be more under the surface what's wrong but could be by now she needs help, that you both do, before it's too late. Your child can too pick up on the communication style that clearly is not working so to try to be good model for the child don't be afraid to ask for help. Can be she has learned this from her first home too.

[Noredcarpet]

Another thing that comes to mind is if she's depressed or if you two pass each other by when she does say something as if she comes out mad but is really vulnerable and want you to see that but instead you get defensive?

[queenofcardio]

Maybe it's time to reconsider the relationship if nothing is working.

[William0802]

We have a child she’s telling me that I don’t care even tho I pay all the bills except her car payment and insurance she helps with one bill in the house which is the cheapest I worked two jobs to help us be able to do way more and it still doesn’t seem to be enough

[OlderAndWiser]

Dude! This chick is just torturing you without any intention of having a relationship. She will keep manipulating you until you tell her to go fuck herself.

[Chazmatazz269]

Dump her. She’s a narcissist and she’s playing you.

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach, helping folks navigate love's choppy waters is my jam! If her love bank feels a bit empty, it might not be about the grand gestures. It's possible she's craving emotional connection more than gifts. Try deeper conversations, active listening, and showing genuine interest in her thoughts and feelings. Maybe even a little love note tucked into her daily routine. Remember, love's got its own language––sometimes it talks with attention, not flowers. 🌸💌

[William0802]

She’s refuses to communicate about anything unless she’s unhappy with something is the only time she wants to talk

[Anonymous]

Why do you feel the need to touch her that right there is a big turn off and kinda creepy and don't sit there giving me that shit about touch being your love language because that's complete bullshit. When was the last time you were there for her when she needed you when she was sick or kept her in your prayers or appreciated her for who she was or made her feel loved and special

[William0802]

Tf are you talking about lmao 🤣 touching someone your with is weird your psycho by the way I was there everyday when she needed something she got it when she was sick she laid in the bed and rested so before you wanna talk mad shit know what your talking about dumbass

[Opinion Owner]

Dude you're the creepy ass psycho wanting to touch women you weirdo

[William0802]

Wanting to to touch woman maybe your the psycho that goes straight to the gutter no one is “touching” I guess your just to stupid to understand weather your a he or she when your in a relationship with someone it’s normal to touch, hug, hold…. your the creep never did I say I want to touch woman I’m asking for advice from my woman fatass hiding under an anonymous profile

[Opinion Owner]

Learn to spell proper English dumbass then maybe you'll get a valid response

[Mariogirl09]

Take her out on dates... spend TIME with her

[William0802]

Did you not read lmao 🤣

[William0802]

Tired taking her on dates etc she told me on her birthday she will only spend 1 hour with me then hangout with her girlfriends the rest of the night even tho she knew I planned stuff for us to do the whole day

[William0802]

Her mom would be on the phone asking for our child to spend the night I would tell her to say yes so we can enjoy a evening out she always turned the offer down

[Mariogirl09]

Move on she sounds exhausting

[fish5505_87]

No love commin' back! Take the first Plane out!

[LiamJHayden]

Walk away.